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Incentives - 5/17/2004 12:36:27 PM

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Have any of you ever asked your Master/Mistress to provide incentive for something that you need to do, but found difficult to stay on task by yourself? If so, what was the task and what were the incentives?

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 5:25:35 AM

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i was involved with someone last year, around exam time...i was finding it hard to study so i was told fo every C grade or above i achieved, i could have two orgasms per week...ended up on 6 a week :D lol x

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 11:34:16 AM

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i was takin my finals in college. and Master said for evey point i get below an 85 i would get a swat for (not a playful one either) Since i am not a big fan of pain it gave me the incentive to set a study time and stick to it. Of course there was another incentive if i got above an 85. I ended up with a 90.

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 11:55:28 AM

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i have been trying to lose weight for a very long time, but for some reason things seem to be clicking this time and i have really been sticking with it (eating right and exercising). So, to keep me progressing as i have been, my Master has given me the incentive of reaching a certain weight and my reward is a week long trip to England. i recently got my passport and REALLY want to get a stamp in there.

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 1:30:31 PM

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Yes...... many times.

At the moment the situation is....... .I asked for incentive to stick to gym 3 days a week. So, he decided that I'll get 60 strokes of a nasty leather thing every week. Each time I go to the gym, I *buy back* 20 strokes. Works...for me.

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 3:08:50 PM

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I'm pretty simple, the incentive for me doing my chores (especially laundry and dishes ugh) is knowing that when they're done I get to cuddle and curl up in Master's lap. If they don't get done I'm not allowed in his lap but must stay on my mat.

Other incentives are I may get a piece of chocolate or be allowed to orgasm at will one night.

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 4:11:18 PM

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Sure, mine wanted help losing some excess body fat. So I put her on an excercise program. The incentive is that if she obeys, she gets to keep being mine.

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God, that is inspired. I'm going to remember the "buy back" strategy. We don't do the SM thing, but there's plenty of ways to implement that. Kudos to your master on that one.

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RE: Incentives - 6/12/2009 6:43:35 PM

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lol How much work is it finding these threads that are four and five years old, with one post by the op and maybe one other? That's two that I have seen today... lol

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RE: Incentives - 6/13/2009 4:05:06 AM

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LOL You use the search engine get condemned, you dont use it you get condemned.

How many threads say this has been answered before, go look it up?

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RE: Incentives - 6/13/2009 11:54:26 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: leadership527

Sure, mine wanted help losing some excess body fat. So I put her on an excercise program. The incentive is that if she obeys, she gets to keep being mine.

@agirl
God, that is inspired. I'm going to remember the "buy back" strategy. We don't do the SM thing, but there's plenty of ways to implement that. Kudos to your master on that one.

Hi Jeff, I'm still *his* whether I obey at certain times or whether I don't. His dog stays *his* too, even if it doesn't *come* when called.....lol.

The only thing that would end our relationship would be if one or the other of us didn't want to be in it. I'm never, in a month of Sundays going to obey all the time, it's not going to happen...........but we both knew *me* well enough to know that. So, it takes creative measures to*help* me find obeying the better option. It irks me to liken myself to his dog.....but I have to admit there are quite a few similarities.......lol

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RE: Incentives - 6/13/2009 3:31:56 PM

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Do you guys realize this is a 5 year old thread?

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RE: Incentives - 6/13/2009 4:54:08 PM

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Have any of you ever asked your Master/Mistress to provide incentive for something that you need to do

Sure. I ask my boss for raises all the time, just after I update my internet resume. Always works.

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RE: Incentives - 6/14/2009 3:41:25 AM

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Do you guys realize this is a 5 year old thread?

Yes.....does it matter? I'm responding to the people discussing or responding now. Doesn't matter whether it was made 5yrs ago or 5 mins ago as far as I'm concerned.

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RE: Incentives - 6/14/2009 10:46:45 AM

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quote:

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Do you guys realize this is a 5 year old thread?

Yes.....does it matter? I'm responding to the people discussing or responding now. Doesn't matter whether it was made 5yrs ago or 5 mins ago as far as I'm concerned.

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RE: Incentives - 6/15/2009 9:51:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: minx

Have any of you ever asked your Master/Mistress to provide incentive for something that you need to do, but found difficult to stay on task by yourself? If so, what was the task and what were the incentives?

Exercise - yuck - i hate it - can find all kinds of ways to put it off. So Master has given me explicit directions that i am to get some cardio exercise at least 3 times a week. i'm able to do it because of my desire to please Him. That's enough incentive for me.

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RE: Incentives - 6/16/2009 11:24:12 PM

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I know this is an older thread, but since it's been active recently, I wanted to address the exercise thing specifically. Something I find really helpful, and that other people I've talked with have also found useful, is to pick a couple of different things that I actually *enjoy*, which are available inside/outdoors, and at different times, for flexibility. For example, while I was working full time and going to school full time, I took one martial arts or yoga class each term, since it was right there on campus, and didn't cost anything extra. Currently, my main two are gymnastics and dancing. The gym is ok, but it's hard for me to motivate myself to go all the time. Making workout buddies, or going with your S/O, does help make it more interesting, and specifically motivates you to show up! Also, having activities that work different muscles helps avoid plateaus - you aren't getting your body in a rut with things it's used to, so you don't make progress as fast.

Another option is to do exercise at home in kinky ways with your partner - stretches, yoga, working out on a stationary bike, etc. while they do a "drill sargeant" routine, or thwack you, or hold you down in interesting stretch/yoga poses, or whatever can be a lot of fun!

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RE: Incentives - 6/17/2009 2:38:22 PM

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I don't need incentives. I just need him to pay attention to it. Giving me a rule once and then saying two years later "Hey you aren't following it" doesn't work for me. I need to be told I'm getting lax or that he's noticed I'm sticking to it despite how much of a royal pain I find it.

Exercise or diet, I would just want him to ask about it regularly.

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RE: Incentives - 6/17/2009 11:25:04 PM

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incentives work wonders for me..

mostly I've gotten them in terms of work.. as in "if you do this paper work, you can go home early.."

I can see it working wonders in a D/s relatioship.

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RE: Incentives - 6/18/2009 11:02:14 AM

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"Good girl" is all the incentive I need. I respond much better to praise for what I've done right than punishment for what I've done wrong.

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