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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/20/2005 7:22:26 PM   
happypervert


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Status: offline 		In addition to the ideas above, these guys are probably demanding you address them as Sir or whatever just to see if you will do it. If so, then they figure they can demand something else, like "turn on your cam and show me your tits".

Anyway, that's their problem and not yours. Personally, I'm mostly indifferent to using titles, though sometimes during playtime I'll insist on it just for effect.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/23/2005 11:38:13 PM   
marcsincharge


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Status: offline 		Isn't the initial phase of contact about making the sub feel at ease with idea of giving her/his submission and control to the Dom/me? This is especially true when the sub is female and Dom male, I would have thought.

She can call me anything she feels comfortable with. I'm not going to insist on terms of address based on a relationship that doesn't exist: I don't have that right until a sub gives it to me.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/24/2005 9:17:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: marcsincharge

Isn't the initial phase of contact about making the sub feel at ease with idea of giving her/his submission and control to the Dom/me? This is especially true when the sub is female and Dom male, I would have thought.

She can call me anything she feels comfortable with. I'm not going to insist on terms of address based on a relationship that doesn't exist: I don't have that right until a sub gives it to me.


Yes, I'm with you on this one too.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/24/2005 9:48:18 AM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Me to, i usualy will call a Dom Sir if he want to. But if he insist alot on things like that it will make me feel a littel uncomfortabel, usualy, even if it is a bit exiting to.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/24/2005 10:49:29 AM   
desoutter


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Status: offline 		Obviousely the golden rule is :D/D no man shall make attempts to take on another masters slave. Plane and simple...

My own tastes are - what difference does it make here - this medium is for meeting like minded people who cover a huge cross section of the lifestyle. Am I to distinguish one masters slave from another? What this slave is allowed to do or not do? Thats just not my job - I expect anyone who contacts me - to just be yourself - the game is definately not ON - If a sub/slave calls me 'sir' thats fine, with all due respect to their Masters. If you do not choose to address me with Sir or Master - thats fine too.
I feel I should earn the sub/slaves praise and title - as an unknown - what difference does it make?

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/24/2005 7:01:45 PM   
CitizenCane


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ORIGINAL: marcsincharge

Isn't the initial phase of contact about making the sub feel at ease with idea of giving her/his submission and control to the Dom/me?


The initial phase of making contact is about whatever works for you. Not everybody wants to feel 'at ease'.



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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/24/2005 9:03:15 PM   
FelinePersuasion


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Status: offline 		I got someone saying Hi my name is Chris, But you may call me Sir I said I don't call any one Sir Period. Shut him right up lol.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/25/2005 12:50:30 AM   
SirKenin


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ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion

I got someone saying Hi my name is Chris, But you may call me Sir I said I don't call any one Sir Period. Shut him right up lol.


In a strange way that is actually funny. hahaha "you may call me Sir". rofl

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/25/2005 2:28:33 AM   
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one of the last conversations i had i got a statement like this:

quote:

i am a Master - i am always in space and you act like this lil slut


sorry - but the only reaction Dom/ Master are creating in me, especially when i have a state to get in touch with someone is resistance.
so many call themselves as strict and demanding - is that strict and demanding?

uuuupppssss - just not able to deal with and feel very uncomfortable with

petra








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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/25/2005 5:23:27 AM   
nella


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Status: offline 		Oh i have met pleny of those on chat rooms, after two lines of discussion they say, call me Sir! But is this realy so common in real life situations?

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/25/2005 2:51:43 PM   
lacyann


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Status: offline 		As a former Marine, Sir or Ma'am is a respectful response. being in training with a Sir and his Mistress He has explained that Sir_____ (His name), just Sir and Master are different levels of the relationship. by addressing Him as Sir, it shows my respect, reminds me of my position and also reminds Him of His. He also relates Master to submissive or sexual or pleasure slave. this girl has achieved that state as well.
this girl just responds to e-mails with Sir, as she has been taught.
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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/26/2005 5:51:19 AM   
sweetpettjenny


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Status: offline 		Addressing a Dominant as Sir or Ma'am is very natural for me. It shows them respect. Master/Mistress is a different story . Master to me is reserved for the one who owns me and the collar he places on my neck. I am very old school , and learned over years to at least respect others, if they show me disrespect i let my owner address the problem (if i am collared). I always remember my Former Master stating...remember Jennifer you are a reflection of me at all times.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/26/2005 6:46:47 AM   
nella


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Status: offline 		In Norway where i love, we mostly use first names. So for me it do not fall natrualy to adress somone as Sir, becouse the equiliant in norweegian Herr, is not used. Somtimes you might adress a werry old man or woman as Herr or Fru (Sir and Ma`am), but none others realy. Teathers in schools are refered to by name and so on and so on.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/26/2005 6:47:42 AM   
Manawyddan


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Status: offline 		I prefer to be called by name, and any sub who addresses me as 'Sir' will be told that. If they still address me as 'Sir,' I will have learned that they can't follow orders and will probably lose interest in them soon.

I usually tell people not to call me 'Sir' unless they are intending to submit to me. If we get to a point where the sub and I are in scenespace to a degree, of course the dynamic changes considerably.

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RE: adressing as Sir.... - 3/27/2005 11:01:10 AM   
domtimothy46176


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quote:

ORIGINAL: nella

Oh i have met pleny of those on chat rooms, after two lines of discussion they say, call me Sir! But is this realy so common in real life situations?


Not that I have seen or heard about. Most of the submissives I know expect to be treated as people unless and until both parties choose to take it to the next level. OTOH, I have seen plenty of submissives ask for permission to call a dominant Sir or Ma'am based on respect, even if it's not a dominant they may be interested in as a partner. That's much different, however, than a dominant demanding to be addressed as Sir or Ma'am.
Timothy

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