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rollinonward05 -> Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 1:10:40 AM)

As i have stated in another post i am long distance from Master at this time.  I know there are many ways i can serve him while being away from him. Such as the routine he has given me, learning about things that he is interested in , learning to cook things he likes and the list goes on.  One of the things i love to do is buy Master things. I don't mean go out and spend hundreds of dollars on him but if i see something that i think he may like or get a kick out of i get it and send it to him( or keep till i can personally give it to him).  Someone once asked me if maybe he thought i was trying to buy his attention , time etc.  Which i answered no to. He is aware that this is one way i feel i can  show him that i think about him, love him and am devoted to what we have. For the record he has never asked me to buy him anything :)  And i have bought things for Master even after a punishment and never to attempt to get out of being punished.

My question to everyone in this forum is this.
Do you buy things for your owner , besides at Christmas and their birthdays?  Do you feel it would be like trying to buy their attention?  Would you or have you tried this to get out of being punished? lol

be well all
rollin



Squeakers -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 4:40:59 AM)

    I buy things for Master and normally I hold them until a holiday but sometimes, I don't.   I never buy something to gain or win his affections.   I simply enjoy giving those I love things that will make them happy.   If I felt I had to purchase the love of another, I would have to question the relationship.      
I would never buy something to get out of a punishment--the punishments are in place for a reason.   Punishments are meant for my growth.   I've done something that was unacceptable and a punishment will normally ensure that I will not repeat the behavior, therefore I have grown.  



StellaByStarlite -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 4:52:08 AM)

Hi, Rollin. =)
 
 
I buy things for my owner all the time.. in fact, being his personal shopper is one of the duties I love the most. =)  Especially if something's on sale... that makes him doubly happy.  I go on little crusades to find things to please him.. bath brushes, styles of clothing, etc.
 
Buying things to get out of punishment? Ha, not bloody likely. He's too shrew to fall for such a trick.. although I'd probably try it if I thought I could get away with it. ;) 
 
 
Stella



porthuronsub -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 5:01:59 AM)

I buy things for my Mistress b/c I love her.  As she is on my mind always, if I see something in the store I think she would like I purchase it for her.  No different than if I was in a vanilla relationship and was with someone I cared alot about.
I wouldn't do it to avoid punishment, just not my style.  She is too smart for that anyway.  She would see right through it.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 5:26:12 AM)

Angel doesnt buy me anything, including on holidays.  He picks up the bils when we go out, he wil occasionally step up and pay for a purchase when we are together, but when we were long distance he never sent me gifts. He did not have the spare money on a students income to do anything like that. I never saw anything wrong with not getting presents, I didnt need anything, and all it would have done was add more for me to pack when I moved.
Now, little things like the occasional cute e-card and whatnot he left me, those appreciated.
But the idea of him geting things becasue he was in trouble.. sounds very much like something he'd do, actualy. If I do get a gift, I might ask him what heppened, or what he did wrong to need me in a good mood first. *chuckle*

DV



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 6:04:10 AM)

I have bought things for Master but it has been at holidays and birthdays. Buting him something would never get me out of being punished, nor have I ever done that.



ownedgirlie -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 6:29:22 AM)

I get him little gifts now and then, if I spot something that I find is unique to his personality that he might enjoy. I have had things made that were very personal, specific to us.  I have no agenda when I give him gifts, other than wanting to make him smile.




Mercnbeth -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 6:52:33 AM)

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ORIGINAL: rollinonward05
...Do you buy things for your owner , besides at Christmas and their birthdays?...


yes, this slave is allowed to buy things for Master, however, she may only spend up to the amount she thinks a phone call would be necessary to ask to be allowed to spend "that much" on any item.  It is difficult, if not impossible, to suprise Him, as He controls the finances while still allowing His slave access.

quote:

Do you feel it would be like trying to buy their attention?


no

quote:

Would you or have you tried this to get out of being punished? lol


no.  that would be an attempt at controlling Master which this slave has zero interest in.



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 7:03:48 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: rollinonward05

My question to everyone in this forum is this.
Do you buy things for your owner , besides at Christmas and their birthdays?

yes i do since Daddy and i are apart as well for example i sent Him two cards (one had the key to my collar attached to it) for Valentine's Day.  He told me that He wasn't expecting any gifts from me since my submission to Him was the best gift any daughter could give to her Daddy.  i'm planning to send Him something for Easter.

quote:

Do you feel it would be like trying to buy their attention?

no - i merely do it to show how much i love and appreciate everything He has done for me so far.


quote:

Would you or have you tried this to get out of being punished? lol


LMAO - yeah right like bribery worked with my real parents




LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 8:00:10 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: rollinonward05
Do you buy things for your owner , besides at Christmas and their birthdays? 

Constantly.
quote:

 Do you feel it would be like trying to buy their attention? 

No.
quote:

Would you or have you tried this to get out of being punished?

No.

I'm very materialistic in some ways.  Giving and receiving physical gifts has a powerful effect upon me and I use it whenever possible to feel connected. 

As long as you're making sure your 401(k) and retirement is taken care of, the bills are paid, and health is good- what else is money for?



susie -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 8:31:52 AM)

I often buy my Master things. Sometimes I might see a jumper or shirt in the supermarket when doing the shopping or see something on ebay I know he would like. I do it because I love him and because it makes him happy. He does the same with me and if he sees something he knows I would like he often surprises me with it. It has nothing to do with getting out of a punishment (nothing would get me out of something if he decided it was deserved) it is just something to show my love and it is the same for him.



juliaoceania -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 8:46:46 AM)

quote:

Do you buy things for your owner , besides at Christmas and their birthdays?  Do you feel it would be like trying to buy their attention?  Would you or have you tried this to get out of being punished? lol


I do not buy things for my Daddy usually, although I have once or twice when it was not a holiday. He does not buy me things a lot either, not that he doesn't want to, it is just not the centerpiece of our relationship

The next time I see him I have a special surprise planned for him that will cost me very little, but it will take my time and energy in order to do it. Personally I prefer those sorts of "gifts" to give and receive.

He cannot be bought.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 8:49:17 AM)

Not quite answering the question, but offering an explanation of the gifts:

In Gary Chapman's book called The Five Love Languages, he talks about how each of us has a ranking system of languages we use to say, "I love you," or "I care about you," as well as the way we want someone else to say these things to us. We have ALL of these, but their importance in rank differs from person to person. That we don't learn to speak our partner's language effectively, and that we don't see them speaking ours, is usually what causes trouble.

The langauges he defines are:
gifts
sex (or affection)
quality time
quality talk
acts of service

Most of the time, we try to say that we care by doing for others what we would have them do for us (sound familiar???). This, in fact, often doesn't work well because our partners usually don't have the same #1 language that we do. For men, the most common one is sex and affection. For women, the most common one is quality talk (if I'm remembering the book right). An important note: things can get complicated if how you give is different than how you want to receive. It took me a while to get this about myself. I often give gifts and service but want quality talk and time.

To make things work, there are four things that need to happen, which basically just translate as learning each other's languages.
Say you care by giving to your partner in THEIR language(s).
Make sure your partner understands YOUR language(s).
Accept it when your partner speaks to you in THEIR langauge(s).
Use positive reinforcement to encourage your partner to speak to you in YOUR language(s).

For you, the way you say that you care is to buy gifts. How about the other three?

Master Fire



littleone35 -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 9:03:56 AM)

My Master does not like surprises and he also does not like me to spend my money on him.  So what i usually do for Master since he has a sweet tooth i bake things for him usually brownies.  I did not know what he wanted for his birthday (he did not tell me) so i bought 1/2 dozen cream puffs, made brownies and got a really nice massage cream to give him a back rub.  it was nice he liked it.

Matt's littleone



justfortheforums -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 10:02:19 AM)

that sounds like...if i get a good enough lawyer, i can get away with murder.

if i buy a nice enough gift, i can top from the bottom.



juliaoceania -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 10:03:13 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Not quite answering the question, but offering an explanation of the gifts:

In Gary Chapman's book called The Five Love Languages, he talks about how each of us has a ranking system of languages we use to say, "I love you," or "I care about you," as well as the way we want someone else to say these things to us. We have ALL of these, but their importance in rank differs from person to person. That we don't learn to speak our partner's language effectively, and that we don't see them speaking ours, is usually what causes trouble.

The langauges he defines are:
gifts
sex (or affection)
quality time
quality talk
acts of service

Most of the time, we try to say that we care by doing for others what we would have them do for us (sound familiar???). This, in fact, often doesn't work well because our partners usually don't have the same #1 language that we do. For men, the most common one is sex and affection. For women, the most common one is quality talk (if I'm remembering the book right). An important note: things can get complicated if how you give is different than how you want to receive. It took me a while to get this about myself. I often give gifts and service but want quality talk and time.

To make things work, there are four things that need to happen, which basically just translate as learning each other's languages.
Say you care by giving to your partner in THEIR language(s).
Make sure your partner understands YOUR language(s).
Accept it when your partner speaks to you in THEIR langauge(s).
Use positive reinforcement to encourage your partner to speak to you in YOUR language(s).

For you, the way you say that you care is to buy gifts. How about the other three?

Master Fire


I think I might order this book and share it with Daddy. I have heard of it several times and think it has a lot of wisdom in it.

Neither of us are very much into "things". I know that I am probably one of the least materialistic women that he has been involved with. When we first started dating he wanted to buy me many things, money was tight for him, and I strongly discouraged it by letting him know I knew he was low on cash and valued the other things on that list much more highly. Like you I value communication the highest and fortunately I value giving the sex...smiles



OnlyHis -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 1:39:16 PM)

Hi rollin,  I buy things for Master often. It is my way of showing Him my feelings for Him.  I too live away from Master and being allowed to buy some things for Master shows Him that i think of Him.  When i buy clothes for Him, or chocolate bars or whatever.( Even when i buy clothes for myself i think if He would like the color or approve of the cut of a shirt or the color). It gives me great pleasure to buy Him things so i know how you and others feel that have posted here.

I always tell Master that " Masters should be spoiled " and in whichever way we slaves or subs can or are allowed to. It just makes us happy to be able to make them happy. In my opinion.

Take care




cinnfulhussy -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 1:41:28 PM)

Do you buy things for your owner , besides at Christmas and their birthdays?
Absolutely!! I adore surprising him with little things and seeing his pleasure when he recieves it.  He enjoys getting things, I guess to him it shows that I'm thinking about him?  We have a little tradition, when I come home with something for him, I always hide it behind  my back and ask him to choose which hand.  It amuses us, as he knows hes getting it no matter what hand its in.  Most of the time its chocolate.  I've never met man nor woman who liked chocolate as much as he did!  Sometimes I'll buy something that I think he might enjoy seeing me in, or like tomorrow, I'm going to go get my nails done.  He really likes a woman with red nails, and its been ages since I've taken the time to do so.

 Do you feel it would be like trying to buy their attention? 
No. I already HAVE his attention.  Its just a way to show I love him, thats a hell of a lot more satisfying to me than doing the dishes!
Would you or have you tried this to get out of being punished?
No.  Not gonna work.  I have, however used chocolate or brownies <use dutched cocoa!!!> or the like to butter him up and get him in a good mood.  I've bought him computer gadgets to  get him out of a really bad mood... which thankfully was not directed at yours truely!




MagiksSlave -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 1:47:05 PM)

Im like that with everyone I know not just Master.. if I see something that screams to me oh my sister or my mother or my Master would so love that then if I can afford it I get it for them.. I have been yelled at about spending money on others when I dont spend it on myself.. It has nothing to do with him beeing my Master.. I feel that when you love someone and you think of them a lot that it just happens because you want them to be happy or something like that.. for me I always done it.

Magik's slave



OnlyHis -> RE: Gifts to your One (2/21/2007 1:50:26 PM)

Also rollin if i tried to use buying Him gifts to get out of punishment i guarantee i would not be able to sit for a week.  I wouldn't want to use giving Him things to get out of a punishment because if Master chooses to punish or discipline me it is for a good reason . And punishment helps me to forgive myself for whatever i have done.



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