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Erusvi -> RE: Momma Said Don't Hit Girls (3/18/2005 1:25:27 PM)
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Ah yes... and momma was a cop. She's also one of the most phenomenal people I've ever had the pleasure of knowing. She was a single mother with three kids who managed to raise us, work full time as a police officer and get her degree in criminology. All the while she maintained a genuine warmth and compassion for everyone she encountered. I have an incredible degree of respect for her as a person. I learned from her an incredible respect for women.
Now, I'm not one of those people who started tying up my cat at an early age or anything. I came into BDSM later, in my mid-twenties. At first, I struggled with the perceived violation of that 'Momma said don't hit girls' law. (Actually, she told me not to hit anyone, regardless of gender). But it was the fortunate realization that, as a top, you're not hitting someone for the sake of hitting them. You're not 'carving meat' as one 'dom' described his perception of it.
You are facilitating someone's journey within the boundless reaches of their imagination. Your whips, floggers, blades, ropes, voice, and mind... these are all bends and forks and peaks and valleys along their path. The destination is not defeat; it's euphoria. It's the navigation of this journey and the delectable reactions from that experience that are, for me, the nectar of the art.
My mother and I have come to be good friends over the years. She knows quite a bit about what I do. She's met my slave and welcomed her openly to our family. She does think we're a bit odd, but she sees that we are fulfilled, and that makes her proud.
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