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How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 11:18:59 AM   
pinkmint


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Status: offline 		Ok so I have been Under Consideration for a few weeks and now I havent heard anything from my *Daddy*.

I know life can get busy and things come up, but how long should I wait before I look else where???

I have had been put on hold to many times by to many ppl and I wont let it happen again.
Any tips would be great, I dont want to get hurt again.

Thanks in advance.

PinkMint - confused Sub.
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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 11:22:08 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I'd never wait more than a week to hear from someone, and that's only if we were online based and hadn't met yet.

If we had phone contact and had met offline, I'd never wait more than three days.

Emergencies can legitimately happen, sure.  But if you have phone contact with someone, there's no reason they can't give a quick call to let you know.

I'd focus more on why you have a repeated pattern of waiting for guys and picking guys who end up making you dangle on their thread?

Remember, he is as much under consideration as you are, you both have to choose for yourselves whether this is how you want to live your life.

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 11:25:14 AM   
tulipgoose


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Status: offline 		I know that feeling all too well... I am personally at the point where if a person I am trying to build a relationship with doesn't have the kindness and consideration to just check in at least once a day well... they just aren't what I seek. Oddly enough it is the people who run, or don't take time to get in contact for days then weeks at a time who made me even needier, and clingy, and less patient, less understanding. I wish I could give advice on protecting yourself from the pain of being let down, but if I knew... well.. I wouldn't be where I am either. Do things for yourself... if you like baths, take a few. If you like movies and ice cream, induldge a day or two. Watch cartoons, colour pictures, dance around your home.... be silly and free and make yourself happy as long as it takes to find your ONE.

meggy 

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 11:26:14 AM   
KatyLied


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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 11:42:19 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Ditto that.

I also question why you are thinking of him as "Daddy" when you're only "under consideration".  Wouldn't it be better to wait until HE considers himself Daddy?

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 11:53:36 AM   
mystiquenz


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Status: offline 		I agree with  LA give it a week, unless you were aware he was travelling.  Online relationships are just as fragile as real time relationships when you search for your one.

So don't close doors, and keep your eyes open.  And, don't pine, becoming unwell, mentally or physically is not worth the stress. 

Give yourself a hug, and keep moving baby ... plenty of Domly Ones out in the sea.  Some of these *domly ones* on this site and others, just have bad manners, and others are exceptionally good people, you will find your one, and he will find you, and you will both know!

~mystique~

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 12:07:13 PM   
pinkmint


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Status: offline 		Thanks for the replies soo far.....
LuckyAlbatross.....thats makes alot of sense what you said, thank you. Why do I pick these kinds of men..hmmm....Now I really question that, and I will think hard on it also.

But thanks to the replies and I hope to hear more, I am open to all and what you have to say. It helps with the journey we all take at one point.
Thanks, PinkMint

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 12:10:01 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		i must say i think a week sounds about right to me.  After that i would be polite enough to send him an e mail to the tune of "obviously you are not interested so i am mopving on."  I am very sorry this happened to you but take comfort in the fact you are not the first and you will not be the last this happened to.

Matt's littleone

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 2:28:44 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		I think this ia already affecting the trust you may have in this man. That's no way to start any relationship

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 2:37:51 PM   
swtnsparkling


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quote:

I also question why you are thinking of him as "Daddy"

the IN thing

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 3:17:46 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Only 10 or 15 minutes.

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 3:30:54 PM   
Aileen68


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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Only 10 or 15 minutes.

That's generous.  I only wait five.

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 3:39:49 PM   
CrazyC


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Status: offline 		I am never under concideration. Either he wants me or he doesn't. Until then, I am available for others, but anyone who dates me knows that.

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 3:58:15 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I wouldn't wait long either.  You can always send a "sorry you're not interested" email; however, if he starts showing interest, I'd tread somewhat carefully.

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 5:14:49 PM   
sillygirl09


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Status: offline 		Woo Hoo CrazyC I totally agree, I would never be "under consideration".

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 6:14:13 PM   
slaveish


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ORIGINAL: sillygirl09

Woo Hoo CrazyC I totally agree, I would never be "under consideration".


Who is Consideration? If He's that Dom little dog whisperer mf, I'll be under Him ~any~ day.

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RE: How long do you wait??? - 2/23/2007 7:06:43 PM   
TemptingNviceSub


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Status: offline 		I agree with many...when they stated he too is "under consideration"..the best advice to me was to write him an e-mail inquiring as to his intentions, if he does not respond in 24 hours after then you should consider yourself out of consideration..Then if he shows after, use your best intuition as to if this is the kind of "Daddy" you wish for. Inconsistency is not a desireable trait in a Dominant..Tempting

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