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ORIGINAL: WayHome

(I hate to reply to Azz's but....)

A Dominant is something you are or are not and has little to do with the activity at hand and so bottoming once or twice or even subbing once or twice does not make one a switch. One is a switch when they say they are a switch and when they feel and act like one.

I'm a dominant but have gone under the flogger a few times and doing so in public had lead some to call me a switch which is a bit odd. Firstly because it's just sensual play, not subbing but even if it was, it would still not necessarily make me a switch. Most gay men 9and women) have had sex with people of the opposite sex at some point in their lives. Some of them even enjoyed it. Yet that doesn't mean they have to call themselves "bi" or that they are anything but what they identify with.

And as for the original topic, I was at a party once hanging out with a Lesbian Domme and another girl (a bi-curious bottom). I was very new to the scene. This Domme was way domme and way lesbian and I'd already been informed no one should imply otherwise. We were both kinda teasing the other girl who was one of those who really wants to be a submissive but has a hard time submitting and we knew what we were doing which was not trying to have her and thus not allowing her natural tendancy to top from the bottom. Kinda subtle and very fun. The domme and I kinda winked at each other a few times at the situation.

Then while I was barely paying attention she was suddenly unzipping my pants and sucking on my cock. Huh??? I had no idea how to react. She had declared a "purely scienctific" interest in men so I was hesitant to be where I wasn't wanted. But there she was. And the whole time we were still talking and joking and the other girl wanted to be told to join and waited in vain (og which she has reminded me many times in the years since). I basically ignored it for a while not knowing what was happenning and she continued for quite some time. I did not get an erection and was unsure if I should have or not. Eventually other people came over and there was other excitement at the party and she put my cock away and went into another room.

Later when I got to know the domme better I came to feel that it might be fun to top her and she was open to it but the right time and mood never struck again before i moved to a new town. However she was the one that flogged me a few times. you'd think people would have understood the dynamic since I would ocassionally give her critique and even handed stopped her a few times to hand her a different flogger or to present a different patch of skin whcih is behavior she would never allow in her sub.

Labels can be useful tools but they shouldn't restrict your perceptions.

Leto

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"To learn the art of submission a slave must first give up the desires that drew him to submission in the first place." Mistress Jasmyn Jan 2005.

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ORIGINAL: SCDommie

This is why male Doms should be subbies.   Always thinking about their manhood!    Such an idiot.

SCD

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ORIGINAL: leatherorlace

Is there some undiscovered reasonings for your view,; a view that seems to speak to the denialof our manhood; to deny our manhood to suit an angry female outlook makes no sense to Me at all.; what is i that you're priv to?
  I had a gentle upbringing and I won't apologize for My ocassional conversion of opinionated dommes. There are a couple-three that, I respect, but even the Lesbian one doesn't hate men or our love of females that meet our standards for behaviour and embrace our manhood wth their legs spread or on their hands and knees. heheheheeee.
Why are you so angry and dismissiveof mens sexualty?
Gentry