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training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/25/2007 3:37:31 PM   
timothy28


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Status: offline 		i hope this comes out right, im a very new to this and was wondering if there are certain things i should learn to become a better sub to a Mistress, i know She will train me as to what She wants from me but i also want to kina know things in advance like knowing how to set a dinner table for dinner (learning already) any information would be greatly appreciated
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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/25/2007 3:41:27 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		Anything that has to do with massage, grooming, as in brushing and drying hair, bathing her, pedicures, manicures.. all that neat stuff as well as how to maintain her vehicles, wash her delicates, fix her tea or coffee and carry on a good conversation.
 
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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/25/2007 4:17:26 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: timothy28

i hope this comes out right, im a very new to this and was wondering if there are certain things i should learn to become a better sub to a Mistress, i know She will train me as to what She wants from me but i also want to kina know things in advance like knowing how to set a dinner table for dinner (learning already) any information would be greatly appreciated


How sweet!  :)  Here's a little secret:  Women love foot massages! 

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/25/2007 4:44:19 PM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I think some of the best training you can get for yourself is just more self-awareness.

Join a group or a munch, attend workshops and events, read a lot, take notes, keep a journal of what you think and feel, and get some scene experience even if it's just bottoming and not doing the DS.

If you have a firmer grasp of what your limits are, what your likes are, and what your needs are, you'll do much better when it comes time to find a potential partner.

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 1:36:53 AM   
BlkTallFullfig


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Status: offline 		Dear Timothy,
Not all women love foot massages. *Sticks tongue out to the beautiful MistressDolly* I've had feet massaged, and can take it or leave it...   Well except when getting a pedicure, than I love it.   
My best advice is to be attentive, thoughtful, a considerate gentleman, and ask how you can best serve her would be the way to work someone who thinks like me.   M

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 5:06:26 PM   
jackod


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Status: offline 		start drinking your piss-is healthy,so you will be ready,later on,jack

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 5:54:57 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I am surprised nobody has mentioned a wonderful book, Mistress Abernathy's Consise Slave Training Manual

http://www.greenerypress.com/missab.htm


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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 6:26:40 PM   
BeachMystress


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quote:

ORIGINAL: timothy28

i hope this comes out right, im a very new to this and was wondering if there are certain things i should learn to become a better sub to a Mistress, i know She will train me as to what She wants from me but i also want to kina know things in advance like knowing how to set a dinner table for dinner (learning already) any information would be greatly appreciated

Learn how to listen to her/him.
 
Learn how to focus on her/him.
 
Learn how to let go of your ego and do thing you feel are silly or stupid.
 
Learn how to read nonverbal cues from her/him.
 
While it may seem redundant to tell a sub those things, I find that many new subs do not consider them with a first Mistress or Master. Those are some of the core behaviours and abilities you need to develop to be a long term successful submissive.
 
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ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am surprised nobody has mentioned a wonderful book, Mistress Abernathy's Consise Slave Training Manual

http://www.greenerypress.com/missab.htm



 
LOL, it is a good thing I read the entire thread before posting as I was about to suggest Miss Abernathy and would have been embarrassed to realize it was suggested right above my post! However, rather than Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual I suggest the new publication, Erotic Slavehood, by her which combines both the aforementioned book as well as the one I feel more relevant for a submissive, Training with Miss Abernathy: A Workbook for Erotic Slaves and Their Owners. The workbook is geared more for subs who wish to train themselves, rather than Owners who wish to train.

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 6:35:18 PM   
Joeconero


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Status: offline 		I've only found my one good skill which of extreme value is being able to actually do real work on cars. Finding out they saved so many hundreds gets you on a good side.

Listening+being honest is #1 

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 6:44:26 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		I would have suggested the workbook but it is out of print.  Glad to see they are reprinting it!

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/26/2007 10:20:10 PM   
timothy28


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Status: offline 		Thank You A/all i will put all the sugestions to good use when the time comes again i can not thank You enough

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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/27/2007 1:31:32 AM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		I know this sounds silly, but just do as you are told.  Really.    Question why if you have too, clarify if you are confused, safeword if you are appalled.....but otherwise just do as you are told!

I wish more subs would do as they are told......



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RE: training to be a better sub for a Mistress - 2/27/2007 7:06:22 AM   
thetammyjo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

I am surprised nobody has mentioned a wonderful book, Mistress Abernathy's Consise Slave Training Manual

http://www.greenerypress.com/missab.htm




There are actually two books in that little series. I personally think the actually training guide, with lessons, is best done with someone to help you assess and help focus you. I use both books when I train for example.

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