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Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 6:29:37 AM   
Vendaval


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Status: offline 		Have you have dominated a male Dom?
Was it a only for one Scene or for several sessions?
What exactly did you do with him?
Did his orientation change to switch or sub as a result?
Did he ask you to keep it a secret?
 

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 6:43:10 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Yes I have dominated a master and he is now my submissive. He was one of those who swore he'd never be dominated but could switch from time to time. Well his true nature came out and we both recognized it. He is truly submissive to me and he makes it no secret.

I have recieved several "offers" from men wanting to be dominated. A few of the "g" masters from this forum who wanted to be dominated but asked that I keep it a secret for fear that word might get out. I passed on all of them. I pick my own submissive and I am very happy with the one that I have.

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 8:03:04 AM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Have you have dominated a male Dom?
Was it a only for scene or for several sessions?
What exactly did you do with him?
Did his orientation change to switch or sub as a result?
Did he ask you to keep it a secret?
 


I've had offers, but decided not to waste my time.

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 8:18:44 AM   
LadyTantalize


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Status: offline 		1.  Yes
2.  Depends on the individual - some repeated scenes.
3.  Again, depended on individual and what buttons needed pushing (although I admit to rubbing in the Feminine Power aspect a bit more!! 
4.  No
5.  Yes, most often.




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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 9:10:53 AM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Have you have dominated a male Dom?
Was it a only for one Scene or for several sessions?
What exactly did you do with him?
Did his orientation change to switch or sub as a result?
Did he ask you to keep it a secret?
 


Yes, I've trained 2 very dominant males. Both of them came to me for strapon training.
Both of them asked me to keep it a secret. Niether of them became a sub/switch after.


Diane 

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 11:51:44 AM   
CreatfreeAccount


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Status: offline 		Kiss and tell?  Hmmm, cheezy weizzy

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 1:01:07 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Offers yes, do it no.

Men have just not been an interest.


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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 1:23:34 PM   
FiretheAngel


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Status: offline 		*giggles* I'd never tell,   tee hee

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 1:42:49 PM   
subsidize


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Status: offline 		LOL...sure diane sure...what chatroom was that in?

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 1:51:19 PM   
demistress


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Status: offline 		On a personal level, I have done it, I generally avoid it because of personality conflict, and I do not hide things, it is not in my nature, so anyone who would ask me to keep it secret is not someone I want to deal with.

For professional sessions, I do it alot, guys who want to "try" the other side, or "see" what it's like, but can't ask their subs to dom them for risk of screwing up the dynamic...

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 4:15:00 PM   
MystressAna


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Status: offline 		!. Yes
2. Several for some of them and just once for some.
3. Depends on them and what we negotiated - usually it was a desire on their part to try something that seemed submissive or to experience a toy so they knew what it felt like when they used it on their sub.
4. No
5. Yes most of them because they feared it would damage their reputation. For several, their sub was aware and part of the negotiation.

Ana
quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Have you have dominated a male Dom?
Was it a only for one Scene or for several sessions?
What exactly did you do with him?
Did his orientation change to switch or sub as a result?
Did he ask you to keep it a secret?
 

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 4:29:13 PM   
Jeniluscious


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Status: offline 		Have I *dominated* a dominant male?  No.  Have I Topped one?  Yes, many times.  And bottomed to dominant males and dominant females; there is no shame to being a masochist.  I do not, however, submit. 

If I can dominate you, perforce you are not dominant to me in the chain of things.  However, that does not necessarily figure in to my view of S/m.  I like playing; I have no problems in playing with someone who is otherwise dominant in his relationships.  I don't keep secrets though; I'm not ashamed of who and what I am and will not tolerate it from others.  That's just me, though.  (I'm not a Mistress either; not an appellation that fits me, overall.)


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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 4:57:13 PM   
BeachMystress


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Status: offline 		I've had 78 Dom offer to sub to me. I took only one up on the offer. He was a friend and had started as a sub. His life had gone suddenly out of control and he felt he needed a few sessions as sub, where he could be safe and controlled to feel better. I wasn't thrilled about the idea, but did it out of friendship. It actually helped him get centered again and once his life was stable he went back to being Dom.

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 5:46:33 PM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		When i identified as a switch and thought i was looking more for a Dom for myself i had lots of offers. Generally the Dom would take a few days online to get me interested in them as a Dom then say, maybe sometime we could turn the tables. I would willingly agree and then that was all they wanted to talk about from then on, thereby, yes, screwing with the dynamic of me ever seeing them as the Dom i wanted.  Now? Oh yeah, I know where i stand and nothing is as sweet as putting a smart ass Dom in his place (out of sight of his subs/slaves of course!)

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 8:55:04 PM   
kc692


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subsidize

LOL...sure diane sure...what chatroom was that in?


I don't really want to get involved, but you are over 18 to be on this site, whatever your problem is with Diane, why don't you get over it, you are annoying the hell out of the rest of us.

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/26/2007 9:53:05 PM   
PhDslave


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Status: offline 		When I first became aware of BDSM and after I became single, I thought since I was a guy I must be dominant.  A series of encounters with a knowledgeable Lady changed my perspective.

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/28/2007 7:36:11 PM   
SCDommie


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Status: offline 		I have been asked from by some in my local area; however, they always seem a bit sleezy to me. 
I think in reality that we get too hung up on labels when working with Dom/Dommes.   I think if you want to enjoy some of the activities that the other party can provide, then by all means do it. 

SCD

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/28/2007 7:42:28 PM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		My responses would be identical to Ana's so I'll just quote them, below:

quote:

ORIGINAL: MystressAna

!. Yes
2. Several for some of them and just once for some.
3. Depends on them and what we negotiated - usually it was a desire on their part to try something that seemed submissive or to experience a toy so they knew what it felt like when they used it on their sub.
4. No
5. Yes most of them because they feared it would damage their reputation. For several, their sub was aware and part of the negotiation.

Ana
quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

Have you have dominated a male Dom?
Was it a only for one Scene or for several sessions?
What exactly did you do with him?
Did his orientation change to switch or sub as a result?
Did he ask you to keep it a secret?
 



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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 2/28/2007 11:48:19 PM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Years ago, I was talked into bottoming to an officer in the Society of Janus.  We negotiated, I explained I didn't like pain, didn't consider myself submissive, but was pretty open.  I even shaved myself for her, or at least had my submissive do it for me.

I didn't get off on it, she played with me as if I was another bottom and then proceded to give me a load of guilt afterwards and I pretty much ended up having to give HER aftercare.

What a mess, lucky that most Dommes have a lot more talent than her!

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RE: Have other Mistesses dominated a male Dom? - 3/1/2007 3:41:57 AM   
MsCfromMelbourne


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Status: offline 		Yes. 

1 One Dom (coincidentally in the same profession as me) deliberately set up a new profile pretending to be a sub so he could meet me.  Dated for a month, no collaring or anything as drastic as that.  Eventually discovered the truth.  He was creepy anyway, so we never really clicked.

2 Novice Dom wanted to be trained and believed subbing well would make him a  better Dom.  He was completely honest with me.  Heavy SM non-sexual play only. Stayed good friends for past 8 years.  He's a great Dom today and I think he admits he was trained by other Dom/mes by bottoming/subbing first.

3 Alpha male "sub" who was impossible to dominate.  He spent all his time trying to turn the tables  to dominate me.  Lived together 24/7 in poly with various shared femsubs over two years.  Titanic power struggles from start to finish.  Best and worst time of my life.  He then married a nice vanilla girl (who knows nothing about his past) and lived happily ever after in the suburbs.  He sneaks off to pro-dommes nowadays and tells them what to do for him.  He still thinks he is a sub.

4 Alpha male who was too dominant to be any good as a sub, but he really wanted to be with me so I gave him the benefit of the doubt.  he switched successfully from sub to Dom after 6 months D/s relationship (not 24/7) and we then parted company.  He now has a nice sub he treats well.  I don't think he hides our former relationship (how could he?  The whole scene saw us playing in public..........)

5 Several Doms have said they would switch for me (but only me - lucky me, huh?!).  I have dated a few for short periods - nothing serious like love.   They didn't say whether they wanted it kept secret.  They liked complex scenes requiring equipment and skill like cathedas, CBT, caning, needleplay......as well as feeling vulnerable, fearful and controlled.  It was hard work to stay in "top" headspace.

Hope that answers your questions.


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