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ORIGINAL: TheGaggingWh0re
This is just for fun, so don't worry about any religious connotations associated with this message :)
How did this lifestyle help you either cope with/ease you 'deadliest sin'?
Personally, I'm very slovenly followed very closely by gluttaneous. I hate to do work and I love to get my hands on some tasty food! This lifestyle has helped me clean my room and become very active in watching what I eat.
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ORIGINAL: mstrjx
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ORIGINAL: novicecourtesan
I want more people to contribute to this thread....
Clearly the Lifestyle has done nothing to assuage your greed.
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ORIGINAL: novicecourtesan
mstrjx...care to elaborate? I don't understand your meaning....
What I got out of the above posts is that the OP tried to start a tongue-in-cheek "How has BDSM helped you with your speciality of The Seven Deadly Sins?" thread. The OP covered two, and since novicecourtesan didn't contribute an actual answer but instead requested more replies, mstrjx continued to uphold the semi-silly factor by mentioning an entirely different but relevant sin. I don't think it was intended as an insult, I think it was an attempt at a fun way to try to bring the disussion back onto topic without actually interrupting any of the amazing posts being written.
The Seven Deadly Sins, per Wikipedia, are:
- Sloth
- Gluttony
- Greed
- Pride
- Lust
- Envy
- Wrath
These are in opposition to the Seven Holy Virtues:
- Dilligence
- Abstinence
- Generosity
- Humility
- Chastity
- Patience
- Kindness
So, TheGaggingWh0re combated Sloth and Gluttony with Dilligence and Abstinence. mstrjx made a sly suggestion that novicecourtesan's Greed could be addressed through Generosity by posting her own story in this topic. And so on.
Of course, that assumes that any of us have stories that match the Sins and Virtues.  I guess the rest of us just post what's relevant to us and hope for the best. 
On thinking about it, I feel that being in a relationship with my Daddy is helping me substitute Envy and Wrath with Patience and Kindness. Having low self-esteem and having been trained to be meek and accomodating from an early age kept me constantly trying to make everyone happy at the sacrifice of my own self-care, let alone personal happiness. I ended up bitter and resentful more often than comfortable and fulfilled in my relationships, which simply turned into a trainwreck after a while.
My Daddy and I had both been burned in previous relationships due to poor communication on all sides, and were both a little gun shy. This this was my first primary kinky relationship, I was convinced that I had to communicate well or I'd end up the hospital, so I kept psyching myself up to talk and be clear. It took a while of meta-conversations, but eventually Daddy came to realize that my starting such conversations wasn't an attempt on my part to launch into why everything was his fault, and that I actually wanted to keep talking through the transition period of problem solving to figure out how I could expand my part to help the solution really take hold.
Knowing that I'm finally allowed to talk during conflict in a relationship has done wonders for my self-esteem. I'm not expected to be quiet and swallow resentment every time I want change. I don't explode into tantrums from too much built-up pressure nearly as often -- the stuff that would have ordinarily been built upon gets dealt with pretty much as it happens, so it's easier to move on to the next challenge and keep it as more or less that particular challenge. I'm more likely to stand up for myself in everyday life, less likely to put up with people deciding not to mention certain things (a couple of supervisors at work have taken this route, and it's gotten our respective departments into so much trouble later), and am still amazed that I can have such discussions and not get shouted down or fired.
It's easier to be patient and kind -- or, at least, my equivalent thereof -- once I know that I'm getting my side of things dealt with. 
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