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BeachMystress -> RE: Using a strapon? (2/28/2007 6:12:09 PM)
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ORIGINAL: SpielMitMir
I hadn't got a change to try it.
But I would love to one day. Just have to find the right person to try it with.
One of the biggest things that makes or breaks a strap on experience for a woman is the quality of strap on used. While the mental aspect is there no matter what the attachment, if the harness doesn't fit well or isn't designed well you're not going to get the most out of the experience.
I suggest you have a look at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/BDSM_IronCity/ to find munches and events near you. It will be a good place to find someone who would love to explore strap on play with you. Hell, make the sub purchase your strap on for the privilege of being the person to take your strap on cherry. I had never considered doing strap on play till a sub brought it up. I told him it sounded interesting but that I wasn't going to do an outlay of money on something I'd no clue if I'd ever do a second time. He said he'd pay for the privilege of being the first person I ever used that way and took me to an adult store. We had the fun of picking out one together. (The sales clerk kept trying to get him to downsize the attachment he was getting, telling him that most men didn't realize that when something is being inserted rectally, small was usually what they wanted. I turned to him and said.. what she means pup, is your eyes are bigger than your asshole. I thought the poor clerk was going to faint.)
Unfortunately, he didn't know which was the best design or how to fit them any more than I did. Fit and style turn out to be very important, at least for me. Doing strap on with the original harness was fun, but.. it was a lot of work for the result. I had to do so much work for every thrust and withdraw of the attachment that it got dull for me way too fast. I talked to a friend and he recommended a custom harness from http://www.cometsoftware.com/she/ I wrote to the maker and after a dialog, decided to purchase one from him.
I paid for this one. (It didn't cost any more than an off the rack harness!!) It has been the best gift I've ever given myself. It fits like a dream.. I can and have even worn it under skirts. It moves with me. Every twitch of my hips is a thrust or withdraw. While strap on was interesting with the first harness the second opened a new world for me. And after finding a sub I deeply love, strap on is less about dominance and more about another way for me to make love to him. Sometimes I just need to be inside of my lil boy. And yes, to touch a subject I don't usually discuss, I can obtain orgasm from strap on play. Not every time, but it does happen.
For women who do not find sexual satisfaction from regular strap on arrangements, they may want to try a harness that has a hole for the attachment so they can use something like these:
feeldoe http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-13BA08--m-80
nexus http://www.goodvibes.com/Item--i-1-3-BA-BE05
triple play http://www.healthyandactive.com/triple-play-dildo.html
You can find links to more of interest in Pgh at http://www.drkdesyre.com/meetppl/orgs/orgspenn.html#PA
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