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LuckyAlbatross -> RE: switching- fantasy vs. real life (2/26/2007 7:21:59 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bbwdommelilith

I have never thought of myself as anything but a domme, but lately I have found myself drawn to a man who is himself dominant. I have found myself having fantasies about him, but am unsure about whether this is indicates a genuine interest or not. I would be interested in hearing about both positive and negative experiences from those who have experimented with switching.

Lilith

It's just like any other relationship with positive and negatives.

You're having fantasies and lusting.  All that really means is that you're having fantasies and lusting.  I've lusted after plenty of people who  are a LOT like me mostly because they are a LOT like me- even though I knew we'd be HORRIBLE in a relationship together.

If you want to explore- explore!  Nothing to lose really.  If you don't like it, don't keep doing it.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: switching- fantasy vs. real life (2/26/2007 7:24:30 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount
It seems to me 'servicing' is behaving in a submissive way. edit:[or manner] 

So dominants cannot serve as a priest? or marine? or father? or telephone repairman? or friend?

Providing service IMO is a mark of a good person.  I wouldn't want to be with someone who felt providing service to the world was somehow bad for them, or somehow "not dominant."



SilverShadows -> RE: switching- fantasy vs. real life (2/26/2007 7:26:42 PM)

As a switch I make it my business to know what a top wants before doing anything with her. If she wants submissive that is what she gets if we decide to play. If she wants SAM that is what she gets if we decide to play. Switching in mid session without permission is totally taboo. Assuming I guess the type of actions the switch it would indeed be rape. True switching in scene is a rare skill. I was blessed with being able to switch easily. Living room: see that mistress is happy – Kitchen: punish kitchen help for the impertinence of importantly talking to mistress while serving.

I hope your experience with the switch in question is an exception rather than a rule. Not playing with men, I don’t have to worry as much about that sex on demand thing as much.



Sinergy -> RE: switching- fantasy vs. real life (2/26/2007 7:30:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

quote:

ORIGINAL: CreatfreeAccount
It seems to me 'servicing' is behaving in a submissive way. edit:[or manner] 

So dominants cannot serve as a priest? or marine? or father? or telephone repairman? or friend?

Providing service IMO is a mark of a good person.  I wouldn't want to be with someone who felt providing service to the world was somehow bad for them, or somehow "not dominant."



When I was a computer support engineer I had a service oriented focus.

When I am expressing my morpheme under the crane I understand that my job is to service the shipping companies by moving containers around.

When I am being mean to women and being kicked in the head, I am submissive and deferential to the lead female instructor.  Additionally, I never once tell anybody in the room what to do.  It is disrespectful to the female instructors to tell them what women's issues are, and it is obnoxious to tell women what their issues and solutions are.

All of these things require a certain ability.  I feel a trace of pity for people who are so wrapped up in their personal emotional whatever that they are unable to do their job.

But that is just me, etc.

Sinergy



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