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Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 8:20:18 AM   
domahpet


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Joined: 12/3/2006
From: Santa Rosa
Status: offline 		met a dom, chatted for weeks, everything is looking good, talking about meeting r/t, then the red flags- who i should be takling to and my unmentionables. so, i say im gonna take a break for a while. then the hate mail starts...delete, block.
any thoughts on why such a cool sounding person would turn like this? it kinda scared me....
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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 8:37:16 AM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		Because, just like in the vanilla word, some creeps are very good at seeming non-creeply till they think they have you.

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 8:42:39 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		Most of the preditor guys wait 6 months to show you who they really are to make it harder for you to leave.
Just thank God you saw his true colors early on and not after he'd trapped you into living with him or something.
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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 9:48:13 AM   
petstorm


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Status: offline 		For the same reason a nice sounding Dom sends me a pleasant email and asks me to have a private chat with him after giving me multiple compliments, then turns around and insults my intelligence when i point out that if he had indeed read my profile he would know i'm happily collared, and i must respectfully decline his chat request.

He was respectful to me at first, and i returned the favor. Then he insults me because he didn't get what he wanted.

There are alot of greedy and selfish men out there who only want what they want. And let's face it, sitting behind a computer people can honestly be whoever and whatever they want. Instead of wondering why people turn on you like that, you should be grateful that you found out their true self before you got harmed. i know i have been many times over before i found my Master.

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 12:48:33 PM   
Arastella


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Status: offline 		Over the internet, many people can be deceiving.  Always hard to really know someone through the internet without meeting them in person.  Plain and simple.

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 2:39:43 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		No reason to be scared.  Just block the ass.

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/27/2007 4:45:33 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		I know this can be really wired but as others said be glad you found out now instaed of later when you had more emotionally invested in the relationship.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 2:32:15 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		It's called fantasy.  i have found that a LOT and i do mean a LOT of cool-sounding Doms get weird when it comes time when meeting in person should be the next logical step.  my opinion is that they really like the fantasy relationship they have online and do whatever they can to sabotage so that it's the submissive's "fault" they aren't meeting.  It's so common that i would love to start an office pool but that would require i out myself which i can't do at work.




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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 2:41:40 AM   
MissTraining


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Status: offline 		I say just block him, there are some very funny and dishonest people on here as so is with many other internet sites. My advise is, take yr time, and be optimistic. I have had an experience where a sub was the liar, so it goes both ways. Good luck.

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 11:29:54 AM   
grlneedstolearn


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

No reason to be scared.  Just block the ass.



i definitly agree

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 12:46:24 PM   
domahpet


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Status: offline 		eyesopened, you win the pool!!
im pretty sure thats exactly what happened, what a drag lol

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 7:43:43 PM   
subsidize


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Status: offline 		he sounds like a catch, go meet him before he gets away...

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 9:10:47 PM   
AZSweetie


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ORIGINAL: subsidize

he sounds like a catch, go meet him before he gets away...


LMAO! 

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 10:25:34 PM   
FukinTroll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: domahpet

met a dom, chatted for weeks, everything is looking good, talking about meeting r/t, then the red flags- who i should be takling to and my unmentionables. so, i say im gonna take a break for a while. then the hate mail starts...delete, block.
any thoughts on why such a cool sounding person would turn like this? it kinda scared me....


How did your Ums get into the conversation?

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 2/28/2007 10:51:29 PM   
duckykarma


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Status: offline 		I had the same experience recently where I was talking to a guy who seemed really nice and respectful and the min we started talking in Yahoo he started calling me a Bitch and telling me things that I had to do and that I wasnt ready for a D/s relationship becuase I was fucked up.........now I dont even talk to him because he was such an asshole to me.........dont even bother with ppl like that it just makes your life miserable...good luck....

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 3/1/2007 1:36:28 PM   
subsidize


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Status: offline 		a lot of us girls have had that experience Ducky, but what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger...

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 3/2/2007 2:30:01 AM   
asiandoll27


Posts: 101
Joined: 2/5/2005
Status: offline 		Agree with the many - BLOCK HIM!!! And just dont put up with it.

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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 3/2/2007 7:06:46 AM   
DoreiKoneko


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Joined: 2/17/2007
Status: offline 		Yes .. he sounds like he is in the running for Skeezicks of the Year. Waste no more time with it.



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RE: Trouble in Paradise - 3/2/2007 8:48:52 PM   
domahpet


Posts: 1505
Joined: 12/3/2006
From: Santa Rosa
Status: offline 		Troll,
this dom was saying things like he was training them to keep me out of trouble when he had never met them... called them, 'my little trainies'

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