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Guest -> RE: massages (3/24/2005 8:21:02 AM)
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I lvoe giving/receiving massages... a few tidbits of advice:
1) stimulate all the senses during the massage. This can be achieved in many ways: Candles or dim lights (sight) though the flickering of candels is a personal prefrence of mine. Play a soothing music (sound) catered to preference of partner. Whatever massage oil/candle you use (scent), be sure it's enjoyable to your partner. Nothing can kill a massage worse than a massage oil that your partner finds 'olfactorily offensive'. Yes you can even include taste - whether using something sweet oin your lips, fingers or nipples to rub against his/her lips.
2) avoid over stimulation of genitals and erogenous zones as it's a sure way to end the massage early. Tease them, show you're interest and restraint at the same time. I like being teased with a long stroke from thigh to thigh, or abdomen to thigh (brushing genitalia). Gentle strokes of shaft and scrotum should be alternated with stimulation of other body parts (thighs, chest, face, buttocks etc) until you are ready for the massage to end, as it inevitably will with overstimulation ( either in orgasm or in an almost uncontrollable urge to pursue an entirely different activity <wink>).
3) for a sensual massage, start slowly and build pressure in deep tissue areas as you go. Return to light tickling touch after the deep tissue rub. I find that contrast is nice, but too much contrast can take one out of the zone. ie: grabbing an icecube after using a warm massage oil is not necessarily a good idea (of course it's not necessarily a bad idea either).
4) use your body and not just your hands. massage your partner with your torso, elbow, feet, breasts, your cheek/chin, tongue etc (be sure the massage oil is palatable). This can be highly erotic.
5) Most importantly, do not be in a rush. Remember the goal is to build up the mutual energy between you. Enjoy the process and so will your partner.
Mod5
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