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domahpet -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 1:03:06 PM)
im guessing that you have finally reported him to CM? if thats nor helping, just give up his ID, im sure Troll, S.M, and the rest can mand fuk him into retreat easily!

aSlavesLife -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 1:10:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: One of my biggest gripes on these boards is people without experience on a subject yelling authoritatively over the voice of people that have experience. Susan definitely has experience on this subject, and I would be inclined to take her advice over that of someone that has chosen from apparent obstinance to yell louder. I have been stalked by a former lover that knew a lot of my personal information. Just because we do not overtly state our experiences in life on the board does not mean we do not have them Who the hell said that I was talking about you? Since this applied to a completely different person and had nothing to do with contribution to this thread, you really need to try getting a life instead of deciding that everything is a personal affront to you. If you weren't fishing for something to attack and had actually read my post you would have seen that we agreed. But you instead choose to distort posts by quoting out of context in order to pretend that something about it offends you. I am sorry that you can't get the attention you desire offline, but your making up for it by being an attention whore and drama queen online is really kind of pathetic.

juliaoceania -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 1:24:12 PM)
I did not make assumptions that you were talking about me, I said "we" meaning everyone here, you do not know what our experiences are. I am not attacking you, but you are certainly attacking me... how is that working for you?

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 1:32:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael WAKE UP PEOPLE... Doesn't anyone think before they post? Read this nitwits posts, she started one about getting drunk and having threesomes, another one about cheating, she is a drama queen. Stop feeding the trolls.... Though some people will see this as we are blaming the woman who was potentially raped, I was suspicious of the story when I first looked at it, especially after reading her profile, and without knowledge of her prior threads. I think we sometimes we seek attention for our own reasons, and I would hate for some poor man to be accused of something as horrible as rape, if in fact he was just having wild sex on a date with a girl who says she is seeking just that. quote: alwaysobeyingyou basically sexually assaulted me when he was here. It wasn't a rape thank God I am here looking for a man who is as wild as I am. I am into all flavors of the bdsm world. My interests are not limited to what is listed - I'm curious!I do have a few limits - not into extreme pain or anything - but I am willing to try almost anything once! I mean no disrespect to the other posters who've gone through the horrible experience of having your privacy or your body invaded, as I imagine it shakes one at the core, and wish you all well. M

alwaysobeyingyou -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 2:19:36 PM)
It looks like I have a lot to respond to. Thanks to everyone for the encouragement and advice, it really is helping me and I am taking steps. To SimplyMichael (and didn't your name used to be crappydom? wonder why...) I am not out looking for drama, in fact i do not like it. Also, casting a judgement of my truthfulness based on what? That I posted about having a threesome for the first time? That is what these forums are about. Give me a break. Everyone- there was no sex. Therefore, there was no rape, I do not have any 'after regret'. I did get intoxicated, but I also did say No. I'm not asking for your judgement - because your nastiness isn't important to me - but it could be to someone else. No, you obviously don't want to completely 'believe' one side of a story because you never know who is on the other end, and you will never really know, but being as mean as some are is what DISCOURAGES women from reporting. So now people have to deal with the fear of condemnation and the fear of being outted in my case. Some people go to these forums when they have no where else to turn, you don't scare me - but I imagine other people may see all of this judgemental "this person is bad" crap and it makes them think twice about posting. Thanks to everyone else for their help. Honestly, if it doesn't stop I'll take Fukin Troll up on his offer and give you his CM name :-p. Later.

Gauge -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 4:58:00 PM)
I just got through plowing through some of these posts and, for the most part, every one of them had good advice. Some were forthright and to the point, leading you to the authorities, others were wonderful examples of what not to do. I am of the opinion that (much like the 'don't pull a gun unless you intend to use it' mindset) that if you inform someone that you are going to go to the authorities, the FBI, Campus police or other law enforcement agency... don't bluff. Do it. Why would anyone say something like that and not follow through? The police are trained to deal with situations like this and believe me, if you think your story is one they haven't already heard, or worse... you are mistaken, they have heard everything under the sun. One thing not mentioned is that in the cases of sexual assault the victim's name is omitted from any reporting. Even if this was not a sexual assault, being stalked (unless you are a huge celebrity) just isn't newsworthy so I wouldn't fear being outed. However, one thing that you might want to think about is that if you stand to lose more by being outed than you gain from this lifestyle then you really need to rethink what you are doing. Just my two cents.

SimplyMichael -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 5:00:49 PM)
What I see little girl is someone who creates drama in her life because she has no self control, lacks good judgement, and has a need for attention. What I am telling you is develop a bit of maturity and the ability to keep your knees together. What I am admonishing others is to not take fanciful stories for granted. Read people's profiles, search for their names and see if whatever line of crap they are spreading holds water or is clearly "more of the same" As for genuine rapists or even assholes who abuse women. I have yanked men out of cars who were abusing women. I don't stand for that shit, here or anywhere else. I just don't like idiot women much either.

kc692 -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 6:08:56 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel *Personally, I'd find a bunch of bikers and have the crap beat outta him.* *Jewel* The most useful and effective suggestion yet, smiles!!

FukinTroll -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 6:13:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azzmaster i have had many dealings with domestic violence calls. the police t trained 2 b sensitive and they will have a female officer help u. u must remember that preditors deal in threats to gain power and control. u need to get an order of protection against him and file harrassment charges. depending on the state u live in u can also go to the sexual preditor site online.if u know his name and see if he has a record of rape. if u live in NY state just call the domestic violence hotline and they could give u any referral u might need *quote:* ORIGINAL: touchthesky the advice abut not pulling a gun unless ur prepared to use it is spot on! if a perp sees ur afraid he will take the gun. and OP please don't pay attention to the idiotic advice about turnin the tables and stalking him. that kind of thing only works in TV movies. the police will not inform ur parents if ur over 18 and most people who r not totally insane will back off when they see u mean business, especially if they just met u. and order of protection is what u need. they are not hard to get and the police will not try to embarrass u in any way. Azz/touch, you might want to work on switching that vernacular and font while profile hoping.

kc692 -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 6:26:46 PM)
To the OP-- this is not a dissection or a criticism, just a point I feel has to be made. No is no and should never be taken differently. Saying that, I would think about rewording your profile, because that might be the type you will attract.

Misstoyou -> RE: I'm being stalked... (2/28/2007 7:14:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel *Personally, I'd find a bunch of bikers and have the crap beat outta him.* Worked for me, once upon a time.... Actually, it only took one biker to "persuade" him to leave me alone. (Just stating, not advocating.)

swtnsparkling -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/1/2007 7:14:37 AM)
quote: defiantbadgirl Reverse psychology is much safer. Some times I just don't beleive my eyes when I read a post from you. Reverse psychology is much safer? Are you Freakin Nuts? ok that was a stupid question I think most everyone on here knows that answer already quote: defiantbadgirl Guys like that feed off of fear. How the hell do you know what guys like that feed off of? When did you become an expert in guys or people in general for that matter

Aileen68 -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/1/2007 8:51:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: swtnsparkling quote: defiantbadgirl Reverse psychology is much safer. Some times I just don't beleive my eyes when I read a post from you. Reverse psychology is much safer? Are you Freakin Nuts? ok that was a stupid question I think most everyone on here knows that answer already quote: defiantbadgirl Guys like that feed off of fear. How the hell do you know what guys like that feed off of? When did you become an expert in guys or people in general for that matter Toto, I've got a feeling we're not in Kansas anymore.

BeachMystress -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 2:28:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: aSlavesLife quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: One of my biggest gripes on these boards is people without experience on a subject yelling authoritatively over the voice of people that have experience. Susan definitely has experience on this subject, and I would be inclined to take her advice over that of someone that has chosen from apparent obstinance to yell louder. I have been stalked by a former lover that knew a lot of my personal information. Just because we do not overtly state our experiences in life on the board does not mean we do not have them Who the hell said that I was talking about you? Since this applied to a completely different person and had nothing to do with contribution to this thread, you really need to try getting a life instead of deciding that everything is a personal affront to you. If you weren't fishing for something to attack and had actually read my post you would have seen that we agreed. But you instead choose to distort posts by quoting out of context in order to pretend that something about it offends you. I am sorry that you can't get the attention you desire offline, but your making up for it by being an attention whore and drama queen online is really kind of pathetic. Wow, talk about needing to take a step back and a deep breath before you post! The woman stated a simple fact that she felt should be brought to attention. Your attack of her was unwarranted and unbecoming. If you felt she had taken you out of context, you could have conveyed that with a simple statement rather than a flame. The pointed personal attacks on her were crass. The over blown, boorish nature of your rant makes me think that perhaps you may wish to look in the mirror before calling others names online.

bludemonn -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 2:33:43 AM)
and so boys and girls another cry for help is thus turned into a circus by egos that are too busy becoming 'experts' and attacking people who thgey don't seem to agree with...perhaps this is where George Dubya Bush does his research!?, the OP has probably been abducted by that stalker and you lot are arguing over who is the authority on the subject! GROW THE FUCK UP! that was an annoucement by the 'I.A.R.C.I.R.A.B.S' (I am right cos i read a book society)

firemuse -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 9:29:35 AM)
quote: Everyone- there was no sex. Therefore, there was no rape, I do not have any 'after regret'. I did get intoxicated, but I also did say No. Wow I'm a newbie in the lifestyle but even I know you don't get drunk (or stoned) before playing with someone new. In a lifestyle where no may or may not mean no...did you use the safeword? You did have one right? Did you discuss play beforehand? As for the sexual assault...myself I'm curious about what exactly he did if not rape. Not accusing you of lying but I just find it impossible to support your stance on the information you've given/not given as of yet. quote: What I see little girl is someone who creates drama in her life because she has no self control, lacks good judgement, and has a need for attention. What I am telling you is develop a bit of maturity and the ability to keep your knees together. Speaking of lack of self-control I indulged and searched previous postings...and saw what SimplyMichael spoke of...very unfortunate, but OP you just really sound like someone who suffers from post-play regret, who's into drama, who doesn't know what or who she is, and who makes too many judgement errors to be able to safely do any sexual experimentation yet, much less participate in the BDSM lifestyle. Not minimizing if this man wronged you, I'm just aware (and not envious) of the precarious situation Dom/mes are in. They're literally at the mercy of a new play partner who regrets doing/liking something. And, I've known people who are NOT emotionally stable who've cried wolf and the accused party is branded, even if exonerated...being accused of abusing someone, even if never proven, CHANGES one's reputation forever. (If I were a Dom/me I'd be ridiculous - prob getting everything in writing beforehand - but I'm nuts about protecting my ass.) firemuse

allofmee -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 4:21:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: alwaysobeyingyou I have a huge problem. Long story short - I met someone on here for a weekend, it was a horrible experience and i felt horribly taken advandtage of and basically scared of the person. Ok, so you had a bad weekend. That part is over. Now he is threatening to come to my college, to out me - he will not leave me alone. Threatening is blackmail. Terroristic threats. Don't taunt him. Do actually block him or if you must talk to him - tell him what he is doing is called by the law and no more games. I do not know what to do. The Cyber snitch thing sounds good. How can I report him to Collarme? Collarme has no liability in this matter. Sooo you hooked up with a guy you met on a dating site and you felt he was a jerk. And? He said if i had him get in trouble the cops will force collarme to show my whole account he says hes saved messages, which have nothing incirminating in them on MY part. Again, he is blackmailing you. harrassing you. BUT, if you continue to talk/chat to him... it is just 2 dummies playing games. Lover's quarrell. But he is essentially saying he met someone else when he was at my college and his coming back here, he basically sexually assaulted me when he was here. Well, you have no proof he sexually assaulted you. What DID he do? If he truly did, really and honesty attacked you without consent and you were terrorized - go to Campus police and file a report. If you were just really drunk, not in the mood and just said a lazy "nooo" but let it all happen, especially if you were partying and making out, teasing him etc and THEN make a formal accusation - then YOU are the criminal. OR WORSE - maybe he didn't call you the next day and you were pissed? Filing false reports is a crime. I'm so scared right now I don't know what to do. How can I make sure that collarme won't give out my personal info, like IP address to people? And what do i do about this? Why are you scared? The site isn't going to give your info to some anon guy! He has as much or more to lose than you do, right? Maybe you should turn off your profile? This all sucks, doesn't it? For everybody. Personally - I'd say just quit yakking, calm down, talk to a trusted friend, if you do talk to that guy again tell him to leave you alone, block him, never contact him again, never play games and do not give out his info for spite.... and please .... [8\|] use you head next time, OK? Take care.

Arpig -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 6:01:08 PM)
quote: he basically sexually assaulted me when he was here. If this is true, then why not call the police...sexual assault is illegal. As for the rest of his threats I.e. revealing account activity, that is so much crap.

thompsonx -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 7:07:05 PM)
alwaysobeyingyou: I would recomend against getting a bunch of bikers to...yadda yadda yadda. First it is a crime to hire or incite someone to do violence against another. Second why would any group of bikers care about your problems...do not presume that those of us who ride two wheels are thugs for hire or the lone ranger out to save the damsel in distress. If you get a gun forget the shoot to kill crap, you are not a professional shooter so don't try to act like one, the karmic debt is too great and it spoils your aim. If he shows up in your front room all you need to do is aim about 6 inches below his belt buckle and breath, relax, aim, squeeze. Then sit on his face and explain to him that you will call the paramedics just as soon as he gives you a couple of good orgasims. thompson

Joeconero -> RE: I'm being stalked... (3/5/2007 9:46:48 PM)
Meet him in private Tazer him. Pepper spray his eyes. Tazer his dick. Kick him in dick Tell him to F--- off Throw away incriminating evidence.

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