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ORIGINAL: DistantThunder

Thank you sublizzie and NoviceCourtesan,

There was somemore I wanted to add and then I will truly take my leave.

Everything that has been said before is absolutely correct, from the list that juliaoceana presented, the threads that LuckyAlbotross offered, all are excellent pieces. But, I failed to address your specific question about D/s questions and that bugs me. If I may be so bold as to suggest (And I will) that you and any potential partner sit down and make a list of what you want and what they want, obvious, but then play some hypotheticals to gauge their experience.

"What is the best knot to use for a quick release incase there is an emergency?"
"Where are the no zones for candle wax?"
"How do you avoid a ganglian cyst?" (Someone check my spelling on ganglian by the way, it doesn't look right.)
"Is silk a good substitute for rope in bondage?"
"DO YOU KNOW CPR?"
"If I have a gag in my mouth, how can I give a safe word?"
"Can you REALLY suspend a person in mid-air by their wrists or ankles?"
"How much damage can a single tail do?"
"How much pressure can be applied to breasts or nipples in breast bondage before there is a risk of tissue or nerve damage?"

Here is another little guideline (Yeah, yeah, yeah guidelines I KNOW)
Check out his porn collection, if he has one or she. Don't see them as a threat, see them as a key into their fantasies, what are they, do they see the difference between the fantasies that are being shown and what can be done in real life?

Always remember, the most, THE MOST, important thing is that you remain safe. You might find that the relationship simply doesn't work because you view the world differently... Nice guy, but... That is fine, in fact that is natural, so long as you end the date safely and you get a shot at the next person.

And of course, always remember the rules for meeting ANYONE online as far as the copies of I.D. S.S. #'s and using the safe call. The only thing else I can say is that you trust your instincts, if you feel threatened in any way, if you just get that vibe that says, "This doesn't feel right..." Follow it, go home, reassess and approach it again if the person merits it. Oh and there are correct answers to all of those hypothetical questions I just asked and if they don't have the correct answers, again, stop reassess and ask the person if they are willing to LEARN the correct answers, if they say no... You have your answer right there as to what to do... Leave.

In the hopes that anything I have said has helped, be safe out there, ALL OF YOU.

Dazvidanya.
D.T.

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ORIGINAL: apettiger

if He is inpatient or mean to animals and children, then how can He be kind to me, another creature that depends on Him?

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Hello, DistantThunder =)

Don't forget: "How do you feel about clowns?"

Haha!

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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

what is your favorite food ?

after all everyone knows the fastest way to a mans heart is through his belly.

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ORIGINAL: apettiger

i ask how They feel about Their mother.
if He doesnt get along with, or has no respect for, His mother how can He respect me?

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ORIGINAL: LaMspeach

what is your favorite food ?

after all everyone knows the fastest way to a mans heart is through his belly.