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domiguy -> RE: sincere or not (3/1/2007 9:10:56 PM)

I get hundreds of emails each day from subs who are looking for a "taste" of Domidong....But being that I am highly selective as to the quality of the cunt that is on my arm...I usually don't take the time to respond back but to a select and lucky few......dont be a playa hata'....out.



WhiplashSmile -> RE: sincere or not (3/1/2007 9:19:12 PM)

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... in times when i am available, i have always been more likely to answer mail from men who mention things going on in their lives BEYOND the bdsm.  great, so you can torture me in the pit  beneath your garage, but tell me you also like to swing dance and you collect Turkish postal stamps, and i am SOOOOOO there!


I know things like this attract my attention as well.  What interests the person has, or do they have any interests at all.   Be it online or when I'm out and about socializing.  People with hobbies, views, thoughts and creativeness are like gravity to my soul.   I tend to just float away from people which don't really do much of anything or have much to say.   With women, I don't care how good looking they are... if they come off as boring boring boring..  I'm off to engage in better conversation and fun elsewhere...

I think the same is true with all the online interaction... and it's a 2 way street...


 






kate -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 12:14:01 AM)

internet guy : hello
me : hey
internet guy: like older men?
me: no thank you, i am more into people less than twice my age
internet dom: you are a stupid cunt and woulden't know a Dom if he bit you in the ass


that is just about well....pretty much every email i get on here...and i'm not even looking!



FukinTroll -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 12:19:43 AM)

Um... er... It wasn't me! Honest!



MasterC70 -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 12:59:04 AM)

I had one slave (a while back) express interest then send me a "dear john letter" a few weeks later saying she decided not to follow the lifestyle (though oddly she is still on site). Still I chalk it up to being her loss (not that I'm God's gift to women or anything).  After all if a sub/slave treats the other person like that early on should you care to want to be with  him/her?  he/she obviously wasn't the right one anyway as not everyone is compatible with everyone else.  I think there is someone for everyone.  It's just a matter of finding the right one, and life is rarely simple enough to give you a detailed map.   



eyesopened -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 1:42:09 AM)

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It would be polite to respond back to emails, however, submissives get a ton of mail.


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ORIGINAL: sisambergris
If you only knew how many subs (and from experience I will say women)  get so much mail they can't even read it all.  I have been so overwhelmed with mail lately


i get less than three emails a day.  i would love to know what it feels like to have so much mail i could not reply with a "no thanks"  It amazes me how people go on and on about how submissives are all overwhelmed with mail. 

That being said, i have emailed Doms in the past and gotten no reply.  This also happened when i emailed a Dom who had previously whined about getting no replies to HIS emails which i thought was funny. 

i learned a long time ago that no response IS a response.  The person is busy or not interested and this is the internet, not some life-altering event and to allow perceived rudeness via cyberspace to upset one's day tells me that someone needs a nap and a cookie.





swtrayn -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 8:35:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: sisambergris


And a good percentage of them are from people who never bothered to read your description of yourself.   whew.
I would chalk it up to not the right person or right time if I was you.  Please don't be insulted if they don't answer.  Be relieved that someone who did not resonate with you didn't answer.  
I know I have been so overwhelmed with mail lately (especially right when I got involved with someone) that it took up enough time to eat into other stuff.

Respectfully,
Amber




I just joined the site a few weeks ago, and I have noticed that alot of the mail I get are from people who could not of read my profile well. It is short, sweet and to the point. So, yes there are times I do not reply, but I do try to atleast send a short note explaining.. "I am not looking" but it does get over whelming at times.

I agree, that they shouldn't take it personally if they are not replied to, and it doesn't make me not real because I decide to not answer one or two of the emails.


rayn




swtrayn -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 8:38:17 AM)

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ORIGINAL: SleepyBeast





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What, it wasn't in your "so you want to be a submissive" orientation package?



Well, darn it all, I knew I should of kept that orientation package.[&o]

rayn



FiretheAngel -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 9:00:57 AM)

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ORIGINAL: domiguy

I get hundreds of emails each day from subs who are looking for a "taste" <snip>


[sm=biggrin.gif] HUNDREDS?  Not even the good looking doms WHO SHOW at least one photograh get "hundreds a DAY".  *tee hee  *tsk.......tsk[sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif]



Dnomyar -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 11:35:20 AM)

Misty you have given to the only good responce on here. I like the women who complain that they have to much email and cant answer it all and then complain that they cant find a Dom. But they can spend all day on line or in chat.



FukinTroll -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 11:47:56 AM)

Well crap... only 920 e-mails.... let me try this again.

I get 10's of e-mails a day!



GeekyGirl -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 1:35:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

I like the women who complain that they have to much email and cant answer it all and then complain that they cant find a Dom. But they can spend all day on line or in chat.


Of course we complain...because the loads of mail we get are from people who don't meet our requirements for a dom. Are you saying we should respond to all our mail even when it's from people who don't even read our profile?

I would say that on average about 1 out of 50 emails that I have recieved was from a man local to my area and within my age range. Out of all of those, only one that I've talked to had anything in common with me or was someone I wanted to go further with. I figure if the dom doesn't have time to read my profile,  I don't have time to email him.



cjenny -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 1:48:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

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was wondering why so many subs that are supposedly seeking a dom can't even reply to something as simple as a "hello"


How much effort did it take to write "hello"? So basically submissives are supposed to exert effort to email someone that did not do more than email them "hello". I have always found one word emails one of the most annoying kind of all.. things like "ur cute", "hi", "whata babe!" tended to get deleted and no response, if a person puts no effort into life they get nothing back... just the way it is.

Even if a person composes a detailed and personalized email they are not guaranteed a response from a stranger, but it does increase the likelihood of it.


I agree on this, if I get a CMail saying 'Hello' and nothing more I usually don't respond. If I get a 'Hello I am So-and-So nice to meet you' then I do respond.

Just because someone sends a CMail it doesn't mean the recipient is obligated to respond. Heh when I was first here I responded to everyyyyy mail and a few just went 'Hello', 'Hello', 'Hello'!



FelinePersuasion -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 3:52:13 PM)

And then sometimes they start whineing or asking why or asking you to hook them up with someone else or trolling for your friends info, or just become plain rude and bitchy.
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ORIGINAL: marieToo


I used to respond to all the polite ones even if I wasn't interested, but there;s so many of them that it starts to feel like a part-time job after a while.




SleepyBeast -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 4:07:38 PM)


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ORIGINAL: FukinTroll

Well crap... only 920 e-mails.... let me try this again.

I get 10's of e-mails a day!



Well, I get 1's of e-mails a day.

That just doesn't sound as good.



FukinTroll -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 6:13:42 PM)

Be patient, once everyone realizes they cannot connect those bodies to you... the mail will roll in!



FelinePersuasion -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 8:00:11 PM)

I have stated SACRAMENTO many times when I had a profile more specific than this one, and in one day 3 people all out of state emailed me, and today I got one from a guy in the uk wanting to be my slave when I say and list women only.

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ORIGINAL: GeekyGirl

Of course we complain...because the loads of mail we get are from people who don't meet our requirements for a dom. Are you saying we should respond to all our mail even when it's from people who don't even read our profile?

I would say that on average about 1 out of 50 emails that I have recieved was from a man local to my area and within my age range. .



dawntreader -> RE: sincere or not (3/2/2007 9:40:24 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SleepyBeast


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ORIGINAL: innatedesire

No and here all this time i thought i was a "true submissive" i am devastated and will now have to go back and  re-write my entire profile.



You could always say you are a "submissive 2.0 LE (Limited Edition)" and the new LE submissives do not come with an autoreply function.


LMAO!!



rascallymisty -> RE: sincere or not (3/3/2007 7:30:19 AM)

Thanks Dnomyar,
 
What is right for me and works out well is not right for all. Now if mother nature would be nice ... ~smiles~ ... a simple hello wrote and answered several months ago may just be the best hello I have ever answered.  
 
~ misty ~



Missokyst -> RE: sincere or not (3/3/2007 8:55:54 AM)

Hey, I think I dropped an email to that dom too!  No response.
<g> don't you love whiny doms?

Seriously though, I maybe get 5 emails from different guys each week.  Of those 5, 4 of them are just "hi."  Or "hi, what do you want to chat about?"
I tend not to respond to those because:

A.  I figure they saw my name online and that is the only reason they dropped me a line.
      (who wants to be messaged because they are bored and you happen to be online?)
B.  What do I want to chat about?  Umm.. should I be the one to think of a topic, when I didn't seek them out?

And to the OP:
As for not being real if you choose not to respond.  Real to who?  I slipped off the velveteen skin a long time ago.  Maybe people who don't respond to your "hello", just aren't interested.
Kyst

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened
i get less than three emails a day.  i would love to know what it feels like to have so much mail i could not reply with a "no thanks"  It amazes me how people go on and on about how submissives are all overwhelmed with mail. 

That being said, i have emailed Doms in the past and gotten no reply.  This also happened when i emailed a Dom who had previously whined about getting no replies to HIS emails which i thought was funny. 

i learned a long time ago that no response IS a response. 



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