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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 3:18:43 PM

chastitybelt

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Nope! my word can only hurt me not you. It's the people around me who choose to use my words in an evil way

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 3:20:20 PM

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azzmaster,

Hmm ,i remember one of my male friends(Dom) trying to tame me and let's just say he's my bitch now.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 3:26:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

Nope! my word can only hurt me not you. It's the people around me who choose to use my words in an evil way

You said that it is not your fault that your words sound evil, and yes it is, you are the one who chose those words, none of us here wrote those posts for you. Try thinking oof how you are presenting yourself, as in most things presentation determines how it is recieved.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 7:24:33 PM

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W'ere not here to support or validate you, or or any one here. This isn't some kind of sister brother hood where we all sing koombiah my lord and have fellership.

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

AAkaska,

I'm removing myself from this BDSM scene because i don't have to put up with rude ,nonsupportive ,

I've been trying to get support from this community for awhile now

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 8:39:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

AAkaska,

I'm removing myself from this BDSM scene because i don't have to put up with rude ,nonsupportive , judgemental people.I didn't know that some people on this board wasn't going to help me achieve my goal in becoming a better domme.I'm asking basic question to help me reach my goal and what do i get rudeness.I've been trying to get support from this community for awhile now and i keep getting the same treatment from people on this board..The last time i was here.I reveal myself and i still got the same treatment.

Aakasha has an awesome website,(although I lost my signon for it, smiles) and I believe was asking you questions so she could offer you answers, which would be possibly the help you seek.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/2/2007 8:51:12 PM

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If you are not finding the support you want here, then maybe you should look at how you are presenting yourself. We tend to be helpful to those who ask questions we can assist with. Some of us invite those who have questions to go ahead and ask them. Your problem may have been that you were talking to a sub who suddenly felt as if he was in a position of power becasue he had the ansswers and you needed him. So, he felt like flexing his muscles and he was rude. People can do that.
If you are in training, who are you training with? Are you learning as you go with a sub you presently have, or are you just trying to learn while you search? It is not an easy thing to do, and scammers are entirely too prevalent on here. Often they will ask questions to learn what someone likes, and then try and bait them with it later. Perhaps you set off a flag for this guy. It happens, he is only human after all.

If you wantto ask questions, then by all means, do so. But dont let one rude response turn you into a vindictive and abrasive person. You have to kep your composure, and yes be nice if they are rude. Kill them with kindness and prove that you are better than them. Youd be surprise how well that works, when someone cannot ruffle your feathers, they dont act up as often. If they are trying to get a rise, you are giving it to them.

If you want to ask questions, ok, PM me. Be polite and ask whatever youd like.
Griping here in the forums isnt going to get you the answers you need.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 6:55:24 AM

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We tend to be helpful to those who ask questions we can assist with.

We are also being helpful by telling assholes how they can act like normal people. Sometimes it does serve as a wake-up call and they learn from it; other times they continue to be assholes by whining that we don't support their asshole behavior.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 8:56:17 AM

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Some people just don't seem to appreciate the clarity of calling an asshole an asshole. Seems alot easier than, ohhhhh sayyyyy.....that little pink/brown pucker orafice from which I remove solid waste from my body and upon occasion a little odiferous warm air. Also, in the case of the azz dude, get Thor shoved up it.

Being the lazy batich that I am I will stick with asshole.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 9:19:26 AM

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ORIGINAL: azzmaster

what continues to amuse me is how bent out of shape people get by members questions or answers. sure on the forums people bicker alot and that is public so more of a temptation to say something sharp back... but private emails..? damn, if u don't like the other persons tone or way they present just don't answer the note. in life there r those we like n those we don't get on with. concentrate on the ones u do like n u will b happier

Excellent point, azz. Completely and totally agree.

To the OP- seriously, just take a deep breath and try again. Maybe if you cut the shitty attitude, the ration of shit being thrown at you would go down. That's been my experience.

Oh, and blaming everyone else for misinterpreting your words is a game children play. If you're the only one who understands the meaning, you might as well not be talking. Or, you should try to use different words.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 9:30:54 AM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

I can't believe a domme in training can't get any online help from her follow Domme and sub via PM(collarme).I could understand if i was talking to people offline, (privacy) but online.Who gives a F**K.?We're not going to meet offline so answer the question.What's the big deal.I'm asking "how to do" question? how to avoid bad experiences?(Exhaling).

i can not imagine that a genuine request was met with rudeness. i have pm'd several Dominants and subs in my time here with genuine questions and i have always been met with respect in return as well as good answers to my questions.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 9:34:12 AM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

(shaking my head)People i have ask for BDSM suppport online and offline and nobody wants to help me.I'm a very nice
,supportive person until a person show their true color and I'm not going to let any person disrepect me on Collarme just because they have BDSM trust issue.

When one person wants nothing to do with you, that is their problem. When everyone wants nothing to do with you, that's probably a reflection on you.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 9:35:07 AM

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Well, all any of us can say is don't let the back door gitcha where the good lord splitcha hon, and safe travels.

Jewel

LMAO!! i like that - new one to me!

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 10:29:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: gooddogbenji

Defiant, is that you???????

I always find it funny when one person somehow has repeated problems with people in an area where most do not, and then blames the other people.

I'm willing to bet that almost anyone on here could start a thread with that question and get polite answers out the wazoo. But the one person who has, apparently, tried everywhere, has not succeeded once.

And we're to blame.

Yours,

benji

No, it is not me. From the OP's first post, I would have to agree that the sub was rude. I think the OP was offended and stuck up for herself when told that lack of info on her profile might make her appear to others as a scam artist. That's when the drama started.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 11:00:22 AM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

AAkaska,

I'm removing myself from this BDSM scene because i don't have to put up with rude ,nonsupportive , judgemental people.I didn't know that some people on this board wasn't going to help me achieve my goal in becoming a better domme.I'm asking basic question to help me reach my goal and what do i get rudeness.I've been trying to get support from this community for awhile now and i keep getting the same treatment from people on this board..The last time i was here.I reveal myself and i still got the same treatment.

after numerous emails and conversations chastity has come to realize, which I'm sure the majority of you were well aware of, that I am possibly the most supportive, nonjudgemental, polite person on CM....

SHE HAS AGREED TO ACCEPT MY COLLAR!!!!! The collaring ceremony will be available via webcam on Friday March 23rd...We have registered at Gay Mart on N. Halsted in Chicago for anyone who is interested in sending a gift. chastitybelt has never been so committed and I think she's pretty cool as well. (Domiguy checks itinerary) "Oh shit going walleye fishing that weekend." Well, looks like maybe around April 7th on Satur..Nope flying out to N.Y N.Y. to visit novicecourtesan....Crap!!! Anywhoo the point is that chastity is ok and you should leave her alone....If I were mod11 you would all be in deep dooodooo!

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 12:10:28 PM

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Is this the norm that some Collarme members are rude when you ask for BDSM information?I had a sub disrespect me today because i ask him question about his bondage practice. He started accusing me of being a scammer.Is this the norm on Collarme.com.?I'm just looking for honest people on here not rude disrepectful men.

It really depends on how you ask. I make an effort to be very polite when posting a thread to ask for information or when I'm e-mailing someone to ask for information and I've never had a problem with people being rude. However, I've seen a lot of people post their questions in incredibly rude manners or ask questions that are based on willful ignorance or prejudices. Those people tend to get rude responses. This is the Internet and while my experience here has been very positive, remember what you paid for the advice.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 12:12:30 PM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

I'm a domme in training and i was asking this sub basic BDSM 101 question for the last 2`weeks.I didn't know almost every person on collarme.com is scared of being scammed via email.I wasn't asking for money but knowledge. This is crazy.

A lot of us get horny net geeks who are trying to turn us into a source of wank fodder. It's really sad but true that many of us on the defense about it.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 12:15:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: chastitybelt

(shaking my head)People i have ask for BDSM suppport online and offline and nobody wants to help me.I'm a very nice
,supportive person until a person show their true color and I'm not going to let any person disrepect me on Collarme just because they have BDSM trust issue.

Have you considered asking your question in the forums? The fact that you haven't done so implies something to me...

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 12:18:35 PM

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Stop by the house, I will give you a lesson---you will have a clear idea of what it is and what you want when I am done with you, you pretty little cocksucker

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 12:19:14 PM

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No, it is not me. From the OP's first post, I would have to agree that the sub was rude. I think the OP was offended and stuck up for herself when told that lack of info on her profile might make her appear to others as a scam artist. That's when the drama started.

That's from her first post though. If you go on, she never actually tells us what she asked and her behavior just gets worse. I see nothing to assure me (being as we aren't hearing from the sub it's nice to be fair and not assume she's right over the sub) that she didn't provoke a rude response.

Personally, I'm curious as to why she didn't post her question in the forums. To me that makes me wonder about the nature of the question and if it was so polite.

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RE: Collarme members (negative experience) - 3/3/2007 12:55:34 PM

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This is what she posted in the Mistress forum, Aquatic.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_866700/tm.htm

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