thetammyjo
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and yes i take pleasure in seeing fictional portrayals of abusive M/f D/s (by my definition) relationships because they come far closer to describing my reality and the qualities i find appropriate in a committed relationship than anything else the mainstream provides.
That's all well and fine and certainly each to his or her own, prop, but there is one thing that is a possible explanation for what you find pleasure in. If we grow up with a dynamic of abuse being modeled for us or we are in any way exposed to abusive relationships during formative years (what's formative may be up for debate, btw) then abuse can actually feel familiar and "right." Something non-abusive would feel alien and inappropriate. Something "healthy" and perhaps more mainstream would not tap into an unconscious desire to return to what is known and comfortable, no matter how dysfunctional what is known is.
The above theory may or may not apply to your particular life situation but I do think it's important to state the theory because so-called "traditional relationships" do not have to be dysfunctional or abusive in order to qualify as what might be considered traditional domestic discipline, head of the household models of a relationship.
Sometimes the things that turn us on aren't nice and certainly aren't the norm -- I mean, come on, folks you don't actually think that we all are in the majority of acknowledged models for ideal relationship behavior, do you?
Sometimes when we say "this turns me on" we don't stop to think about the other things we may be saying at the same time to other people reading or listening to us.
It is very common to think that what we like as individuals is normal and traditional. For some reason we find it easy to see all these examples of what we want and ignore things we don't.
I think a lot of us, if we were honest, could say that when we read books, watch movies or tv, when we fantasize that the things that get us wet or hard are things that are illegal, immoral, unethical, or just plain weird.
How many of us really then think about that and try to figure out it?
Even if I don't agree with someone's conclusions or someone's beliefs if they show that they have thought about it and realize it may not be right for everyone else, I can respect them for going through that self-reflection.
I'd be lying if I said that I don't get wet when I see movies or tv shows or read things were men are tortured, abused, used.
But do I really need to take that statement any further? Do I need to try and make what turns me on universal or extend it beyond myself? Why?
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