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losttreasure -> RE: Myers-Briggs personality types (3/3/2007 7:34:07 PM)
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I am an ENFJ, and it was actually after reading about my personality type that I began to recognize and understand my submissive nature.
Once I got past the "creepy" feeling of reading something that seemed to be written about me, I began noticing a thread woven amongst the words...
...They make a consistent effort to say and do the right thing— so much so that conforming to others' expectations (or their notion of what others expect), is occasionally a problem for them...
...They easily accept authority. They mind their p's and q's, respect their should's and should not's...
...they base their personal habits on a feeling of obligation to their mate...
...Their desire to please others is so strong...
...Pleasing others matters to ENFJs so much...
...A goal for their personality type is acceptance, but more than that: acceptance as they really are— no mask, no pretense, no facade. Being genuine and sincere is what matters to them...
...They invest their total self— time, energy, patience and sensitivity— in relationships. They often are disappointed, for few understand their concept of knowing another, and fewer still are capable of achieving the kind of interpersonal connection they want...
...If someone else is in charge, they're perfectly comfortable following, helping and cooperating...
...They know the value of compromise and accommodation, admiration and appreciation, and they practice these skills with artistry...
...ENFJs go out of their way to make sure that human needs receive attention...
...People tend to know how much they care about harmony and comfort. They can sense the depth of their caring. ENFJs make it apparent that they are available to meet others' needs for sympathy and encouragement...
...ENFJs have a hard time saying "No," and a harder time extricating themselves from the burden others impose on them without feeling guilty or seeing theirself as abandoning those who need them...
...They give generously and work tirelessly to make things perfect...
...They may be taken advantage of on all fronts because, when others demand, they produce...
...ENFJs make warm, committed lovers who are willing to go to great lengths for the sake of "The Relationship". They're totally dedicated to the relationship, and to their partner, and have a special skill for warmth and affirmation which brings out the best in their mates. They take their commitments seriously, and are likely to put forth a lot of effort into making a relationship work once they have commited themselves to it...
...Since they are so externally focused on serving people, they do not always pay attention to their own needs. Since much of their personal satisfaction comes from bringing happiness to others, they're able to ignore their own needs and still be happy much more easily than other types...
...A problem area for ENFJs in relationships is their very serious dislike of conflict. ENFJs will prefer to brush issues under the rug rather than confront them head-on, if there is likely to be a conflict. They are also likely to "give in" easily in conflict situations, just to end the conflict. They might agree to something which goes against their values just to end the uncomfortable situation...
Well, you get the idea. These words started me on my journey. [;)]
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