|
losttreasure -> RE: What stops you in your tracks? (3/3/2007 9:55:02 PM)
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: FukinTroll
I am curious to know, since this is a connection site, what stops you in your tracks and makes you go Hmmmm…
Everyone has different tastes and different kinks, but what makes you wanna click the person on this side and actually look at the possibility?
After satisfying the peek of curiosity, what makes you write them, or not?
[:D] I've never written down in detail what brought me to FirmHandKY... though I've mentioned before that he and I met through the forum here. I'll try not to bore you with the minutia cause, frankly, it's a little fuzzy to me now. But the essence, I remember.
I'd seen his posts here... though I don't know over how long. (Well, I do now because I looked through his posting history.) It wasn't really one comment or two that caused me to pay attention... more an overall collection of comments. He seemed wise and grounded, and made very sensible and sensitive statements. I suppose the attraction had already begun to form, but I'm a very cautious person by nature... I'd had enough bad experiences that I wasn't anxious to have my illusions shattered. I was, in essence, afraid to find out from his profile that he was either unavailable or incompatible in some way.
It was really a very small thing that finally "pushed me over the top" and caused me to go check out his profile. He made a comment expressing an appreciation for chocolate. [:D] Kinda silly, I know...
Anyway, I did go to read his profile and was delighted to find nothing in his profile that was incompatible... and I also noticed that he had placed me on his favorites. (You'd have to get his side of the story from him on that.) I did something then that I had never done before... I placed him on my favorites in return.
I believe it was the next morning, I spent hours re-reading his profile and journal, and then looked up and read all the posts he had made in the forum. What I read literally made my heart race. The ideas that he wrote about mirrored my own. His ability to express himself with both intelligence and humor, enthralled me.
I did, however, deliberate about whether or not to write to him. In one of his journal entries, he mentioned the possible reasons he might place someone on his favorites. One, of course, was obvious interest, and by this time, I truly hoped that was the case, but then, there was the possibility that he had simply wanted to observe what happened with me through my profile.
Now, I'd never made initial contact before, and I don't handle rejection well... so the possibility that he had only a casual interest was enough to give me pause. Did I really want to take the chance of getting back a polite "thanks, but no thanks"? He hadn't yet written to me... was the reason he hadn't because he wasn't interested?
*sighs* If you ever wonder what women think, do yourself a favor, 'k? Just save yourself a headache and take for granted that it's probably pretty convoluted and definitely very different than anything men might think. [;)]
However, to draw this tale to a close... I did decide to take a chance and write to him and the rest, as they say, is history. [:D]
|
|
|
|
