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random rejection - 3/3/2007 10:34:42 PM

SwitchinAround

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Recently, I've had frequent contact with a certain individual on this website. This person contacted me and asked if I would like to be trained; I agreed to her terms and followed every order she gave me. We used to speak every night for about two weeks until one time when she just wouldn't respond to me. I was given no reason for the ignoring--any advice on what I should do next time?

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RE: random rejection - 3/3/2007 10:37:50 PM

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Move on.

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RE: random rejection - 3/3/2007 10:49:34 PM

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Since you dont know why she stopped, theres no advice to be given for next time. We dont know what you did, what happened to or with her...
So essentialy, just be yourself and continue to follow the orders of those that are training you. Sometimes things hapen that are beyond someones control and they cannot respond. Other times, they change their mind and jus dont tel you.
Unless you know why things went wrong, dont try and correct for them.

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RE: random rejection - 3/3/2007 11:02:29 PM

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Don't assume that just because you are the bottom/sub/slave in the relationship that the problem had to come from you. If she won't tell you if you did anythig wrong, there is no way to know how to improve if it did anyway. Try, try again.

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RE: random rejection - 3/3/2007 11:05:57 PM

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I think it happens to all of us at one time or other. You can't completely anticipate the reaction of someone else no matter how hard you try. Until the relationship moves from online to off line, it's pretty hard to constitute the solidity of such a relationship. And even off line it's always not that easy.

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RE: random rejection - 3/4/2007 9:50:51 AM

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There is NOTHING you should do differently.

Just one of the hazards of the net. It's not that she is ignoring you - you simply just don't know. She could be dead, could be moving, could have a death in the family, could have won the lottery, could've found the person of her dreams elsewhere, you just don't know.

Sometimes life just plain old gets complicated. Maybe some of her OWN issues came to light and she didn't feel like talking to you about them. Maybe she saw some of your issies come to light and felt it wasn't right of her to comment on them to you.

Who knows? could be one or more of a million things.

Sure, maybe she could've told you why, and maybe for personal reasons she just couldn't.

Being the net and all, you just won't know - and the faster you are able to move on to the next thing, the better you will be.

Good luck, I know this wasn't much help.

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