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How can anyone live a polymorous relationship?


Should all polymorous lifestyles be made illegal in America.
  16% (3)
Or no please leave it as it is.
  72% (13)
Or sorry i don't know.
  11% (2)


Total Votes : 18
(last vote on : 3/5/2007 6:47:31 PM)
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How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 7:46:32 PM   
seekstofasn8adom


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Status: offline 		As i'd be so jealous having to share my partner with someonelse.I don't know how anyone can do this i really don't thankgod it's illegal in England.But i hear it has quite a cult following in the good old USA.Which seems utterly crazy to me but what do you think?

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RE: Who can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 7:49:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		A rather odd question to ask in a polyamorous forum. Personally I like it quite well, though I would hardly call it a cult over here. There aren't very many of us.

So no it doesn't seem any crazier than thinking one person can meet all your needs.

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RE: Who can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 7:49:34 PM   
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Edited to add: WTF KINDA BS QUESTION IS THAT???
although I am glad you fixed the typos in the header.


Polyamory isn't for everyone, most can not handle a relationship with only one person. But in my opinion, there may be more sacrifices at times but there are way more joys.... of course I'm a bi-sexual slut so I'm biased. You sir, have obviously never been to the "states" and know very little about what goes on over here.

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RE: Who can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 7:50:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Sooooo....you hate that the lifestyle you choose is illegal, but are thankful to god that a lifestyle that is not your choie IS? Not very tolerant.

Being poly is a natural thing for some people. It doesn't mean that we never have jealously issues or bad relationships or whatever...it means that we are happier when we have more than one partner. Some people are wired this way, some are not. If it's not you, it's good that you know.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 8:02:24 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom

As i'd be so jealous having to share my partner with someonelse.I don't know how anyone can do this i really don't thankgod it's illegal in England.But i hear it has quite a cult following in the good old USA.Which seems utterly crazy to me but what do you think?


There are so many things wrong with this post.

1. Assuming that because something is illegal, it's not happening where you are.
2. Assuming because you don't like it, it's "utterly crazy".
3. Assuming any group you aren't a part of is a cult.
4. The bias poll which doesn't really ask an opinion on the topic.
5. Assuming a jealous relationship is a healthy relationship.

In conclusion, please rephrase your post and then it can be addressed in a mature respectful manner.

Edited for spelling.


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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 8:23:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well said singsomelyrical. I didn't answer the survey because of it's bias. I'm not even sure what the poster means by illegal. We also have all kind of silly co-habitation laws.

Is poly legal in the US? If so it will be news to most people. Does the UK actually have a law which says "Polyamoury is illegal?" I don't know and I don't trust the word of the poster.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 8:32:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: SilverShadows

Well said singsomelyrical. I didn't answer the survey because of it's bias. I'm not even sure what the poster means by illegal. We also have all kind of silly co-habitation laws.

Is poly legal in the US? If so it will be news to most people. Does the UK actually have a law which says "Polyamoury is illegal?" I don't know and I don't trust the word of the poster.


Seriously, if being illegal means it's not there then Polyamory wouldn't exist anywhere. 

Weird... my relationships don't feel imaginary...


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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 8:37:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		It is totally imaginary. We are all crazy here.

Okay I'll just speak for myself. I'm a little lopsided.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 9:23:24 PM   
MsParados


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Status: offline 		it's that whole shootum up cowboy thing that the US has going on..... I guess since as a country we do whatever we want, outsiders think we as a people too can do what ever we want. Lord I wish it was so grand.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 9:28:10 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		You might be jealous, but not everyone is.  And polyamoury is not illegal anywhere.
POLYGAMY is, having more than one legal spouse is illegal most places. Polyamoury is not, however, since there are no laws on how people can date.  Check your terms.

If you dont like the poly lifestyle, than dont engage in it.  You wouldnt speak poorly of Gay relationships, just becasue you aret gay, would you?  Should we end Daddy Dom/femsub realtionships becasue you dont agree with that concept too? If you arent interested in someonthing, then stay away from it, but dont be intolerant of others that are happy that way.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 9:33:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		um DV.... that was directed at the OP correct? I hope you hit fr and don't think that I am anti-poly.....  just checking.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 10:02:25 PM   
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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 11:30:00 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: seekstofasn8adom

As i'd be so jealous having to share my partner with someonelse.I don't know how anyone can do this i really don't thankgod it's illegal in England.But i hear it has quite a cult following in the good old USA.Which seems utterly crazy to me but what do you think?


Are you directing this question at only those members that live in the USA? If so you should say so in your post. There are members of this site from all over the world including some from countries where polygamy is actually legal.

You are correct that polygamy is illegal in the UK but that does not mean that there are no polyamorous relationships in the country. You would be aware of this from your membership to a UK based bdsm site that you used to frequent. One that you no longer use due partly I think to so many people being annoyed at your constant posting of ridiculous questions in off topic forums.

Perhaps you need to step back a bit and think about what you are doing here before continuing to post these sorts of "questions"

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 11:40:09 PM   
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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/4/2007 11:51:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		The post here are very well written and well said. While it is illigal to have a polyagmist household, it is not illegal to have more than one partner. Partners are an emotional connection, thus polyamorous is the proper usage of words.
I believe that polyamorous is a mindset which means you dont limit the love you share with a partner. And of course if its just a physical connection.. one of sexual libido and satisfaction.. Thats just as good as long as its mutual with all parties involved.

There are so many biased people when it comes to the word "poly" they judge it as a bad thing without understnaidng how deep and how genuine it can be between 3 or more people. (nods)

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/5/2007 3:34:33 AM   
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Status: offline 		I couldn't live poly, however i  think it should be legal.
It dosn't hurt anyone, perhaps emotionally people can get burnt, but gee dosn't that happen in monogamous relationships all the time? And in certain situations where unmentionables are being raised in the household, it can help to provide a stable environment for them - someone always at home to look after them, rather then the kids home alone or in after school care-
Basically i believe in freedom of choice, if people want to live poly let them. If you don't like it you dont have to associate with them.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/5/2007 4:37:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		        Given the right situation I could live in a poly household- there is no room for jealousy. Every person is connected to the other- open communication and it's not all about sex like the outside world would have you think. It's not for everyone and surely it's not for me unless the conditions are right..

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/5/2007 7:20:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		"Should all polymorous lifestyles be made illegal in America."

And 22% said yes, that is just f&*^* scary.

It is already illegal to marry more than one person in America, so i can only assume these 22 % want the goverment to start passing laws on who we can date and sleep with. Don't you think they are already spending too much time worrying about this? Do you really want them to start arresting people who are in a relationship with more than one person at a time?

As to the OP, so you don't want a poly relationship, that's nice. Not everyone is like that and that's good too. i know many poly households and they are very happy with the arrangement.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/5/2007 7:34:42 AM   
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Status: offline 		Some people are able to be polyamorous and some people can not be polyamorus. Not everyone is hardwired for monogamy. I don't believe it is correct to classify polyamorus relationshps as a cult and it is definitely not restricted to the USA either.
It appears poly isn't your thing but just have a open and honest discussion with someone who is poly and listen tho their views. This will help give a better understanding on how they think, which in turn will enlighten yourself. What I'm trying to say is to simply understand their side even though you personally don't agree with the concept of being poly.

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RE: How can anyone live a polymorous relationship? - 3/5/2007 10:17:41 AM   
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