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Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/4/2007 7:50:42 PM   
littlesarbonn


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Status: offline 		A long time ago, there was a bdsm thread that started by me stating that I had a fuzzy slipper fetish for my mistress of that time. From that point on, the responses were all over the place, with one person after another coming forward with some kind of fetish of this or that nature. My mistress at the time was a professional dominant who was also married. She had clients appearing before her wanting the "fuzzy slipper fantasy" because she and I were known in on and off line circles. Even her husband at one point dropped her a Christmas card saying he also loved her and her fuzzy slippers.

What was interesting about this was that the fuzzy slippers were an analogy, and they pretty much represent my entire rationale behind being submissive to someone when you have finally found the right person. At the time, my mistress worked very long hours practically 7 days a week. The only time I ever got to see her take a break is when she was wandering around the house in her fuzzy slippers. So, for me, the one time when I saw her in complete relaxation mode was when she was walking around the house in fuzzy slippers.

The analogy was that I was happiest when she was most comfortable, even if it meant being completely out of stereotypical dominant costuming. Actually, especially if it meant that.

Yet, no matter how much I talked about that part of it, people never could get beyond the fetishist aspects of fuzzy slippers.

So, the question I ask, specifically to submissives, is at what point do you find yourself happiest in the service to another? And the dominants' question: At what point do you find yourself most in a blissful circumstance with your submissive/slave? For those who have not achieved either end of the successful spectrum, where is it you wish to be when finally reaching what it is you seek in finding what it is you're ultimately seeking?


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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/4/2007 8:07:59 PM   
Mysti


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Status: offline 		Awesome story. Thank you for sharing.
I'm happiest in service when I know that my service is appreciated and not expected. That he knows I have my own life and dreams, and am able to still persue them while also giving myself to him.

Sadly I have yet to experience that.. so so far its a pipe dream

But I really did enjoy the fuzzy slipper story

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/4/2007 9:26:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn
So, the question I ask, specifically to submissives, is at what point do you find yourself happiest in the service to another? And the dominants' question: At what point do you find yourself most in a blissful circumstance with your submissive/slave? For those who have not achieved either end of the successful spectrum, where is it you wish to be when finally reaching what it is you seek in finding what it is you're ultimately seeking?

Gosh I don't know that there's a particular time, other than when things are going well and I pause to take a look around and just feel utterly blessed, surprised, and in awe of how amazing my life is, especially to have my partner int it.

I suppose that mostly happens when we're in bed snuggling and watching a DVD together, but other times also.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/4/2007 9:38:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		Love the post littlesarbonn, just beautiful.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/4/2007 10:37:25 PM   
obis


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Status: offline 		When i'm petting her head in my lap and I know both of us are experiencing absolute bliss. I love petting her, she loves being petted. D/s to me is just that simple! 

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/4/2007 11:56:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Do they make fuzzy brown masculine slippers?  I'd like Sir to wear them after he has traveled through both States in one day, finally home, relaxing  and smiling.  I would be the happiest women to slip them on his feet, sit next to him and feel the pounding of his heart slow down to a creeky rocker rhythym, instead of the gallop of his long work day.  

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 3:42:01 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn  

So, the question I ask, specifically to submissives, is at what point do you find yourself happiest in the service to another? 



When I'm providing a real service that the Dominant actually needs and that makes his life better.  For me, the difference is between enriching someone else's life vs. providing a convienent distraction.  If I think I'm being used as entertainment or escape, I start feeling guilty.  I guess this goes straight to how I view the Dominnat in the context of my life: if its a productive dynamic, their contribution to my well being tends to be immesurable and I like to think that I'm giving back in a like vein.  If I'm not, the guilt becomes unbearable.

Generally, if I'm attached in that way, the 'play' and stuff becomes secondary in my mind.


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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 4:12:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's a sense of peace - within. It's the way he sometimes brushes my hair off my forehead. It's kneeling next to the bed and hearing him tell me to rest my head on his chest. A moment - a second - when all is well in the world. Like being lost and finally finding my way home. It's waking up in the morning and realizing I've been granted another day. Another day of him in my life. And sometimes, my greatest reward is an isolated second when i know he is glad he chose me.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 4:25:44 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

What was interesting about this was that the fuzzy slippers were an analogy, and they pretty much represent my entire rationale behind being submissive to someone when you have finally found the right person. At the time, my mistress worked very long hours practically 7 days a week. The only time I ever got to see her take a break is when she was wandering around the house in her fuzzy slippers. So, for me, the one time when I saw her in complete relaxation mode was when she was walking around the house in fuzzy slippers.


quote:

So, the question I ask, specifically to submissives, is at what point do you find yourself happiest in the service to another? And the dominants' question: At what point do you find yourself most in a blissful circumstance with your submissive/slave? For those who have not achieved either end of the successful spectrum, where is it you wish to be when finally reaching what it is you seek in finding what it is you're ultimately seeking?


I love this analogy, littlesarbonn
For me, there's not ONE particular time, costume or anything, but I can give you one of my favorite scenarios. It's only one of a myriad of things that helps to relax, but it is among my favorites.

The Dominant involved sits in "his" chair (you know, seems they all have their chair that "fits" them!!), after I've helped wrap him up in a blanket or throw. Possibly get a fire going, possibly not. Add a cup of hot cocoa or hot beverage of choice. Rest his feet on a footstool.

Then I do a complete footcare session. Soaking each foot for a few minutes in hot water. Using the foot file, brush, pumice, etc..  Massaging the foot with a combination of "common sense" and reflexology techniques, rubbing in intense moisturizers while I do. Finally I do the nails and make sure everything is clean. Then wrap the "still-moisturized" feet in fresh socks, add the slippers.

And finally..... just sitting at his feet, stroking his leg softly, talking about things that will make him laugh and relax, and just being there with him.


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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 4:34:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Well, I can't really speak for Valyraen (it being that he's focused on SW Battlefield and isn't interested in answering), but I'm happiest when I'm curled up in his arms and he's called me his little kitten.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 4:54:11 AM   
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Every Sunday, when the unmentionables are with their dad, my owner and I go out, drive around, do some window shopping. I walk at his right, slightly behind him, we hold hands. I open doors for him, carry whatever packages we have. He asks me what I think about this and that. We usually stop to eat, he orders for me. It's our Sunday quality time ritual that melts away all the weekday stresses. Many times he wants a bath when we come back and we'll laugh and talk while I scrub his back. No Ums, no dayplanners, no worrying about making the grocery money stretch a few more days. Just he and I, falling very naturally into the roles that calm us the most. =)

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 5:31:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think one of the most content moments I have ever had was with My last pet, stroking his hair while he purred.  He had long, very soft hair that he had been instructed to take particual care of, so that I would enjoy the sensation on My fingertips.  Stroking the pet's hair was one of My favorite rewards for him, as it was also a reward for Myself.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 5:47:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: obis

When i'm petting her head in my lap and I know both of us are experiencing absolute bliss. I love petting her, she loves being petted. D/s to me is just that simple!


That is a very nice parallel though for us it's when his head is resting on my bed just between my knees. His entire body goes limp and he just breath knowing that I could close my thighs and end his breat or just continue petting his head.

He also loves to have his ears scratched but then again he's a furry so being treated pet-like is a big deal for him and the pet-owner relationship is more relaxed (in our opinions) than the owner-slave dynamic.

We also just love sitting and watching tv together, just being ourselves is great.

Not Ds or slave behavior one says? See what happens when I just move my empty water glass toward him and he gets up without a word, brings it back with water and a "Here you go, Mistress" whisper before sitting next to me again for the show or movie.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 7:20:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

The analogy was that I was happiest when she was most comfortable, even if it meant being completely out of stereotypical dominant costuming. Actually, especially if it meant that.

Yet, no matter how much I talked about that part of it, people never could get beyond the fetishist aspects of fuzzy slippers.

...For those who have not achieved either end of the successful spectrum, where is it you wish to be when finally reaching what it is you seek in finding what it is you're ultimately seeking?



That is exactly what I seek. Being comfortable with one another when not "on" yet still being in that undercurrent of D/s.

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RE: Fuzzy slipper submission analogy - 3/5/2007 12:39:46 PM   
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Status: offline 		JC Penny's has a very nice pair of men's fuzzy slippers ( St John's Bay ) on sale now. Real leather that smells good, too.  Look in the Men's sleepwear dept.

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