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Attitude. - 3/5/2007 5:51:56 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		Ok as usual this is from another post. Which is more important in a relationship. Attitude or Experience.
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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 5:53:06 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Ok as usual this is from another post. Which is more important in a relationship. Attitude or Experience.

Speaking from the submissive side; for myself, attitude is much more important.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 5:55:38 AM   
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There is so much more than attitude and experience, esp in a dom for me, is good right now.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 5:56:07 AM   
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Status: offline 		Attitude is always more important than experience to me, especially in a D/s context. I am only attracted to mature men with good attitudes, but that does not mean they are experienced D/s wise.. my Daddy has experience, but his attitude was what attracted me.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 5:58:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		Not sure what you mean by attitude but I would have to go with that. Valyraen had no experience being dominant in the bedroom outside of fuzzy handcuffs when we started dating. He was definately a dominant personality, but no experience. When I explained to him that I was a submissive and what that meant and what I needed from him, he was very cool about it. He was definately an eager student and took to taking control very nicely!

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 5:59:13 AM   
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Status: offline 		Anyone can gain experience but if the attitude is wrong what is the point? A good attitude can go a long way.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 6:25:05 AM   
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Status: offline 		i would say both - Daddy has the attitude to be a loving, nurturing Dom as well as the experience.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 6:31:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		A few years ago when I was dipping my toe in the non-vanilla pool of life I thought that I would never understand this 'submissive' feeling that people talked about and thought it was due to my inexperience..... and then I met a Dominant who coaxed submission out of me, he encouraged me to learn as much as I could and he provided a safe environment in which I could gain experience with different implements ... It was his attitude that hooked me and made me eager to learn more. Even though he had years of experience it was his attitude that attracted me as he reassured me about the fears I felt, he made some of the scenes fun to make me more comfortable yet at the same time ever so slowly he pushed my boundaries. He was caring, commanding, fun, realistic and flexible and I was able to feel my desire to submit to him grow.  so even though he had the experience I definitely submitted because of his attitude and also my own attitude.

Gosh, not quite sure I answered the OP, I went off into memories of a very intense and exhilarating timeof my life...smiles.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 6:42:11 AM   
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Status: offline 		Experience is a constant learning process. I think your attitude is what can make or break a relationship.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 7:16:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		well I thought even though I dont know alot , my willingness to discover was priceless , was I wrong?

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 7:34:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think it depends on what you're doing. If a dominant with a lot of attitude and no experience picks up a whip, knife or some other serious toys and invites a submissive to play, it is probably better to run like hell toward someone with a lot experience and a cautious attitude. If you are talking about service oriented situations, then attitude can compensate for a lack of experience.

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 7:39:17 AM   
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Status: offline 		Attitude!  That makes up for lack of experience by far when compared to experience itself.   With Attitude is makes everything more enjoyable, be it something old, something new, or something to explore. 

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 7:40:27 AM   
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Status: offline 		A Dominant with the right attitude for my submission is more important to me than how much experience he has.

Just my thoughts....

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 7:47:13 AM   
hereyesruponyou


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Status: offline 		I agree with many of the other posters here that someone with the right attitude can always gain more experience and it can be fun learning together, as long as the person knows his own limits and does not try things that are too far beyond his reach without training and knowledge. But i do think that attitude often comes with experience for many as in learning about ourselves, we often become more comfortable with ourselves and our self-confidence shows for both Dom and sub.

I think in specific one on one situations however you can't discount chemistry too. Even with experience and the right attitude, if you just don't connect it will not feel right. No faults on either's part, just looking for someone else

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RE: Attitude. - 3/5/2007 8:27:04 AM   
szobras


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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Ok as usual this is from another post. Which is more important in a relationship. Attitude or Experience.

In reference to a D/s, M/s realtionship. As a Dominant, I would find a "good" attitude more important.

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