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Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 11:37:56 AM

SirDraven

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I was wondering how everyone got into the lifestyle.

I was wondering how everyone else got into the lifestlye or became aware of it.

My exposure to the alternative lifestyle is quite an entreating story.

Until I entered the Army my life was a very narrow safe vanilla box that I lived in.

Now I'm in the Reserves and doing some active duty training after Basic. I'm all of 19 and I get this call..."meet the person at.." I get no further info from dispatch other then its a call for service.

I find a payphone and call back and all she will tell me is go help them out.

I get there and the husband opens the door all dressed out in what in my mind is a biker outfit. Didn't dawn on me that I didn't see a bike in the driveway. I'm taken to the bedroom and on the way he says we need to borrow your handcuff key.

I'm not fully understanding this as we get the bedroom. Candles, whips, chains, the wife spread eagle naked cuffed to a four poster bed. She looking all kinds of beat up, down and sideways.

One hand goes to my gun, the other to my radio. Both of them are telling me its ok we do this, its just play. I back down from def con 1 to 1.5 and un cuff her while I'm asking her if she is ok. Her response is "oh yes hes a great Master"

I am just trying to keep up at this point. I no sooner get her un cuffed when she gets on her knees at his feet. He tells her to apologize when she crawls over to me (still naked mind you) looks up at me and says..."I'm so sorry, I'm a sex toy and you can play with me as a way to make it up to you"

Looking back, knowing what I know now, I'm sure he told her to say those exact words. I looked at her , looked at him and said I have another call to handle and I left. Quick. Fast. And in a hurry.

I didn't have another call and instead caught up with my partner. He wanted to know why I didn't call for back up as he wanted to see what she looked like.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 11:50:01 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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I fell into a bdsm chatroom.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_575022/mpage_1/key_chatroom/tm.htm#575202
who taught you about bdsm?

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A sort of random question

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When did Bdsm become a defining moment for You?

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first time submsisive feelings

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bdsm humble beginnings

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 12:00:49 PM

GeekyGirl

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I started having bdsm thoughts at a very "unmentionable" age, mostly stuff about being naked and tied up and cut on (this was before I even knew what sex was.) I also noticed that I always enjoyed watching tv scenes where the men were rough with the woman. I had a huge crush on "villians" even in cartoons (I can remember watching Ninja Turtles and fantasizing that Shredder was my boyfriend.) My attraction to dominant and sadistic types became more and more pronounced as I developed attractions to various fictional villians (the vampire Lestat, Hannibal Lecter, and later on Riddick in "Pitch Black" to name a few). By the time, I met my now-ex-husband, (still an unmentionable at the time) I was already surfing the web for kinky porn and had experienced some pretty kinky cyber sessions. The exhubby and I were mostly vanilla but we got into bondage and role play. During my separation leading to my divorce, I decided to further indulge my kinky fantasies and began to do a lot of online research, spent a lot of time here and on literotica and a few other sites. I finally met someone who was also curious as I was (though we were both inexperienced). From then on the rest was history...he and I did a lot of sexual experminetation and after him , I fell into my first 24/7 master/slave relationship.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 12:03:00 PM

SingleRarity

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A couple of kinky women I met online encouraged me to look into it, which I did more out of curiousity than real interest, but it wasn't really until someone asked me to do evil things to her the next time we were together (which was like five minutes later) and obliged that I discovered it completely and deeply resonated with me.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 12:27:47 PM

toservez

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By pure luck I got into the lifestyle. I was working part time while going to school at a hospital. A married woman in the life had seen me going out with much older people and seen how I acted and thought what the heck and basically she and her husband seduced me and introduced me into the life.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 12:48:21 PM

hereyesruponyou

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My husband and I played with bondage and s/m for fun as exploration during our marriage. It was exciting and i always enjoyed it, but stayed on the receiving end. Never really put a name to it though or knew about the community. A few years after he passed away found a great "story" site and started reading bdsm stories, almost obsessively. I explored that way for a year, kinda figuring out what turned me on. Then tried the chat room. Found out the people were pretty "normal" (some nice, some asses, some smart, some funny, some annoying as hell), and was satisfied with this for a brief time, along with self bondage and pain while masturbating.

Eventually i wanted more. Got turned on to collarme a few years ago and started my real life exploration. I still think i am learning about myself somewhat with every experience, but now i have a better idea of what i really want/need, and what i can or can't give others.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 4:39:29 PM

WhiplashSmile

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I could almost say, I was practically born into it at an early age.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 9:09:04 PM

Aine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I fell into a bdsm chatroom.

Indeed....that's pretty much where it started for me too. I was bored and bouncing around yahell chatrooms causin' a ruckus and ended up talking to some kickass people...who slowly turned my view about BDSM completely around. (Albeit with a little kicking and screaming on a few particular subjects

)

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/5/2007 10:14:52 PM

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As an unmentionable I discovered erotica. Things were rather hidden till I got to college and get rid of my virginity with a dom. Things really started happening while dating my ex-fiance.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/6/2007 12:29:26 AM

sadomasokisti

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I just met few ppl about ten years ago and we organized and set up a national BDSM organization.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/6/2007 2:17:45 AM

SDFemDom4cuck

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Just seems to have been a part of me since birth. Curiosity and experimentation began as a UM before I even knew or realized a name for it. I was lucky enough to have some very willing subjects through the years and then at 20 I met the right person to see something within me that brought about that moment of Ah ha! Nooow I get it!

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/6/2007 2:26:59 AM

ExSteelAgain

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I had a good basic background from reading and was not a dummy when the girl said many years ago, "I liked to be tied up and spanked." I reacted very well, thank you.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/7/2007 4:54:36 PM

rebdomine

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Why think about it so much, I believe you either like it or you don't? I'll I know is that when I was young, probably around 11, when most kids played cops and robbers and played around with handcuffs, I was just a little less open to just handcuffing anyone for reasons I couldn't think of. Like it was something special, not a game. Oh, and I was spanked as a child by my mother, and one time I just laughed when I was being punished, from then on I did not get spanked. A couple years later, I would self-bondage, just the legs or arms, or to a chair, and I found it very comforting, again...without understanding why. Fast forward a couple years yet, I would have fantasies of dominating and tying up the females in my classroom at school. About a year ago I discovered on the net this thing called BDSM, i'm not even sure how I found it, but I did. I wasn't repulsed by the images that I saw, it turned me on instead. It instantly triggered memories from my my childhood and brought a meaning to the whole thing. Well, I guess a sadomasochistic-switch was both born, and made through experiences. :)

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/7/2007 8:04:32 PM

sambamanslilgirl

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by accident - meet a dom while chatting online about 5 yrs ago. something about the way he chatted kept me replying back to him with "Yes, Sir" and/or "No, Sir". i didn't know what the heck a "submissive" was but it did get my curiosity going. he explained to me what a submissive was however he was one of 3 "do me" doms i would be meet online. met Daddy online almost 7months ago and we're so happy together.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/7/2007 8:09:05 PM

sweetnurseBBW

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I was in my last year of college about 13 or so years ago. I had a boyfriend break up with me because he said I was too submissive. I was shocked because I was just being me. My roomate (who was in the lifestyle) asked me to come to a party with her. It was a munch. I met people and started going to more munches, eventually met my first Dom and the rest is history.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/8/2007 9:31:47 PM

ncmaster75

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stumbled across a sexy girl online who was a sub, and from the very first order she followed I was hooked! It was nothing like I had thought it was, I just assumed all the collars and chains were for fashion.

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/9/2007 5:44:19 AM

Phin

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A good Friend of mine invited me to "Dirge Factory" and considering that I knew her through music circles I assumed that Dirge was a band. She did call me back and made sure that I knw what Dirge was, I then found out that it was a fetish club. My wyfe and I have an open relationship (she was accually visting a "friend" that night) so I said what the hell. Had you asked me 10 minutes before I got strapped to the cross if I was into S&M, the answer would have been an impolite NO

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RE: Introduction to the lifestyle - 3/9/2007 6:12:39 AM

lonlyrossInNeed

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I Always Knew i was a big difrent then others since i was like around 8 years old
I found out what difrent was and started feeling more for pleasure then anything els when i was 11 and i didnt act or do any BDSM activitys untill have a girfriend and Me saw a Movies when i was 16 and a half and there was bondage and SM in it and i asked her if she would be intrested in trying this
and she sayd yes so we did she didnt like it but i was in love with it

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