sweetnsensual
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Wow there were a lot of replies in (my mind at least) not a very long time. Firstly, thanks everyone who replied and shared their experiences and thoughts. Unfortunately there were quite a bit of replies and I didn't get to read them all because I was burning to answer some of the questions that seemed to come up and clarify a little bit. The 2 classes she is struggling to make up are gym classes. In one of her gym classes she has had about 20 absences because of her depression and doctor appointments like I've mentioned. I'm unsure of how many days she's missed in her other gym class, possibly more or less than the first gym class. The school and teachers have doctor's notes but they still need something to grade in order to give her a grade. It's understandable but she wants to graduate, obviously. At her school, it is a requirement to have 3 years of gym or "Physical Education" to graduate. She's one credit behind in gym than other seniors because she'd failed the class previously (she's overweight, the kids make fun of her, she's self-conscious, health reasons on top of that etc.) I'm pretty very 95% sure that they don't offer gym in summer school. When a student is lacking in credits, they come back after their senior year for one semester to make up their credits. They're "lovingly" referred to as Super-Seniors. I should probably make something else clear: she hates the school. Ever since her freshman year, there has been nothing but trouble and fighting with the administrators. She's a bit willful, not really "normal" or "ordinary" and the school seems to want her to fit ever so neatly into the slot they've provided and when she doesn't or even can't, it causes problems between her and the school officials. Plus she's a bit opinionated and shares those opinions sometimes in a very loud and attention-getting way (i.e. walking out of school to protest the war with some of her friends, writing articles in the school newspaper against the principal banning participation in the Day of Silence etc). It's been nothing but this seemingly unending battle between her and the school and she says she's just really tired. I think it's her depression talking a lot of the time--she's no longer feeling motivated and she's extremely overwhelmed. The school has been nothing but stress--the other students being cruel, the teachers, the officials, the politics, etc...she has high-blood pressure due largely to that school and her days there and her doctor agrees. She's not making any decisions yet--she doesn't even know where to start if she did want to get her GED, she still has many questions. She's also waiting to her from one of her gym teachers tomorrow if there's any hope at all. If not, as of tonight she seems comfortable in the idea of quitting school and getting her GED. She'd have time to do things she wants to: sleeping in, getting things organized, better plan for her life, travel if she wanted, write (she loves to write and hasn't had time to do so in a long time), do things she enjoys until she can sign up for college classes. She says she has no ties, nothing holding her to the school. She has friends but it seems she doesn't feel them keeping her there anymore. She's no longer concerned about Prom, the one dance she was thinking about going this year because she's "too fat and wouldn't know who to go with anyway." If you knew her and the school and the guys there, you might understand better if you don't now. Also, someone mentioned working while being in school. One person said it's not a good thing--which I agree. I've done it and it's very difficult juggling school AND work, even if the work is only 27 hours a week and 6 classes of school a day. Her mother and mine in fact, both wanted us to quit working on our last semester. She didn't want to because--as silly as this may sound to some, it's important to her--she wanted to finish paying for her car. Car was originally her mother's, mother got a new one and was about to send the other car back to the dealership but daughter started paying for it herself. It's only got another year or less on it and it seemed like a waste to pay SO much money on it only to let it go. It was both practical and impractical of her but that's neither here nor there now. She pays for the car with the money from her job, it's not just "spending money." Car and gas, that's pretty much the extent of her paycheck. Like I said, she's not making any decisions, she's just looking at the GED as a semi-serious option for her, if the need arises. It may, it may not. She's only concerned with any opportunities lost if she got her GED in terms of future jobs or college. Oh, someone else also mentioned her plans for the future. She's already been accepted to the local community college and as I mentioned earlier has an interest in Creative Writing. She'll either stay at CC for one year like Columbia in Chicago suggested or just stay two years at CC and then transfer. She hasn't visited Columbia in Chicago yet but she plans to. She likes the idea of it because it's the only art school she's seen so far that considers Creative Writing art just as much as they do painting, photography etc. Plus the things she's read about the place makes her giddy so she's definitely interested. If there are any more insights or thoughts into this topic brought on by my new post, please let me know. Take care and thanks again.
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