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What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 12:55:36 PM   
Superman42280


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Status: offline 		Hello. My name is Christoper. I'm a 25 year old Dom from the Columbus Ohio area. I wanted to share what I'd ask from a sub. First, I do have a uniform policy of stockings always. Even under pants.

Money is not something a sub of mine would need to worry about, I've supported others before when they've been with me. I'm a huge animal lover and my sub would not work, but be volunteering at an animal shelter. So long as the sub was one who didn't *want* to work, as many don't. Although, of course, there are those that do. I wouldn't force a sub to do something against her life goals of course.

Also, the sub would will care of all the cooking and the cleaning. However, this sub will be loved, cared for, and kissed and hugged all the time. My sub will get the approval and love she craves. So long as she pleases me the way I want to be pleased (wearing stockings all the time with skirts and heels and giving oral isn't much to ask compared to a lot of others I know).

It's not just about the sexual stuff, just my kinks. The rest is personality, love and chemistry.



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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 1:09:00 PM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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ORIGINAL: Superman42280

What are people's opinion of this may I ask?


Hmmm... Kinda vague. You want a mouth for blow jobs, legs and feet for stockings and heels, and financial dependance. Is that it?

What about things like intelligence and intellect? Do those matter? Interesting conversation is optional...or will her mouth always be busy with other duties?

You don't want her to work, other then your choice of a rather dead-end occupation of animal shelter volunteer. I am assuming a woman who's career was important to her would be out?

What if she didn't work at a demanding career for the money, but rather for the thrill of the job...would she still have to give it up to work at a shelter?

What about a sense of humor? How about some style and grace? How about a mean game of chess or a knowledge of wine and cheese?

It's funny...when I think about what I want from my slave, I think about the things I don't have...or would like more of. Strength, intelligence, charm, grace, style, a willingness to submit, but only after she has analyzed the situation. I want my slave to add to my life, not make me work harder at supporting her.

The stockings and blow jobs...those are so trivial and, quite frankly, without consideration, as such things would obviously be part of my slave's life should I desire them. What I need from a slave is so much more then what she would do for me...

Taggard

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 1:09:43 PM   
sub4hire


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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 1:34:04 PM   
resademilo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

Hmmm... Kinda vague. You want a mouth for blow jobs, legs and feet for stockings and heels, and financial dependance. Is that it?

What about things like intelligence and intellect? Do those matter? Interesting conversation is optional...or will her mouth always be busy with other duties?



haha you have me cracking up here Taggard but seriously if i took a poll of what Doms wanted from the ones who visit my profile intellect would be low and bjs would be high on the list of conversation.

Most of them believe the start of a conversation is "what's your kinks and limits" even when you have a list of some on your profile. I complained in my journal about it and one told me well this is the BDSM community so it's important even when you're just looking for friends.

But i don't have any comments for the Op save for to each his own.

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 1:41:04 PM   
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Most of them believe the start of a conversation is "what's your kinks and limits" even when you have a list of some on your profile. I complained in my journal about it and one told me well this is the BDSM community so it's important even when you're just looking for friends


I have found this as well. I have even had people get offended because I don't "play" with my friends. Some seem to think that everything revolves around sex, and that's just not so.



Taggard,
I agree with you. I just had someone tell me that I need to break up with my boyfriend because he "doesn't look (my) type." Quite frankly, that's the silliest thing I have heard in a while.
When will people realize that sex is only a bonus, just like in a vanilla relationship?
*sigh*
At least I know
-Di

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 1:51:59 PM   
resademilo


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ORIGINAL: siamsa24

I have found this as well. I have even had people get offended because I don't "play" with my friends. Some seem to think that everything revolves around sex, and that's just not so.


That's because they think a bdsm friend equates to uncommitted booty calls. And yeah i don't screw or play with my friends either so i generally like to talk about things not pertaining just to kink. I prefer friends who are kinky so when i say something naughty just out of the blue i don't have to worry if i said it in front of someone who's a kink-a-phobe.

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 1:53:22 PM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with Gloria... your profile on the other side is blank... I would suggest a pic to go along with it as I have noticed that profiles with pictures come up in more searches. And not everyone that is searching will search the message boards, I found quite a few that have never even glanced at them.

It sounds like you are looking for a one on one relationship, which is good because it seems that a lot of females are looking for just that, but I would, IMO, instead tell them that you are a big animal lover and would really prefer a woman that isn't particularly interested in working full time outside the home (there are some of us out there) but instead would be interested in volunteering at the local animal shelter or some other worthy cause that is geared towards helping animals.

I would also suggest that you be prepared to let them know how you intend to take care of any outstanding bills they have as well as what you plan to do if they become ill, have to go the the dentist or other things that may come along. Not to mention what will happen if they do quit their jobs and come to live with you, what are YOU going to do if it doesn't work out and the relationship ends? Security, financial and emotional are very high on most peoples priorities list.

Jewel


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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 2:35:24 PM   
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Hmmm... Kinda vague. You want a mouth for blow jobs, legs and feet for stockings and heels, and financial dependance. Is that it?


Taggard,

You surprise me. Responding to such an ridiculous post only allows the virus to permeate this site further. The implementation of a monthly fee at a different site has sent many of the posers here. I'm taking a sabbatical, other than the Vegas related thread, from posting to any new thread unless I know the poster. Maybe we can starve off the infection by ignoring it.

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 3:31:54 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		Personally, I don't want a dom who negotiates with me and feels that I'm giving sexual favors in return for comforts. I also don't want him to feel like he needs to give me those things in return for my submission.

Sounds more like you want a pretty at home trophy wife slut.

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 3:59:33 PM   
SirCache


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Status: offline 		Sex is an easy talent to replace. It is relatively easy to teach. I can honestly say the slave I look for will have a knowledge of the arts, music, and dance. She will ensure that I never go out in public without looking absolutely perfect and even keep up on the latest good fashions so that I will always remain current.

She needs to be able to entertain others and most of all, she must completely embrace who she is as a person so that she may give herself over to me without anything held back.

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 5:20:37 PM   
happypervert


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Status: offline 		After reading what you want in a sub, I'm curious why you would think any of us care. Now there have been threads recently where someone asked what folks are looking for; other times the topic arises naturally in conversation so folks post their ideas because it is on topic and clarifies the discussion.

But to just plop this "I have a stocking fetish and heres's what I want" thread in here just seems odd and clumsy to me. Rather than stimulate a discussion about "stuff, what you've really done is said "Let's talk about me". We'll, we are, but instead of seeing superman's big S on you, it's looking more like a target.

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 5:42:12 PM   
TallDarkAndWitty


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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

You surprise me. Responding to such an ridiculous post only allows the virus to permeate this site further.


You are, of course, correct. I was rather bored...Focus50 seems to have gone and I had no one to ridicule.

I will try and hold my tongue in the future... *wink*

Taggard

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/30/2005 6:22:33 PM   
stef


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ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

You are, of course, correct. I was rather bored...Focus50 seems to have gone and I had no one to ridicule.

He's still about. He didn't appreciate it when I pointed out the irony of making spelling errors in a spelling flame. He wanted to 'discuss' the matter further via email. I declined.

~stef

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RE: What I Want From A Sub - 3/31/2005 12:16:14 PM   
Superman42280


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I honestly appreciate all the comments. Always looking to learn more - that is why I joined this board. Thanks and respect to you all.

Chris


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