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RE: Snapping - 3/9/2007 11:26:15 PM   
smilingjaguar


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My Dad used to joke about needing to pick up batteries for a pacemaker whenever getting in  the car to teach me.


My driver's ed teacher found out his brake did not work while I was driving...needless to say he was very nervous for the rest of the year.

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RE: Snapping - 3/10/2007 12:08:59 AM   
AquaticSub


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My Dad used to joke about needing to pick up batteries for a pacemaker whenever getting in  the car to teach me.


*cracks up* Did he ever get it fixed?
My driver's ed teacher found out his brake did not work while I was driving...needless to say he was very nervous for the rest of the year.


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RE: Snapping - 3/10/2007 12:19:39 AM   
smilingjaguar


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*cracks up* Did he ever get it fixed?


Not that year.  They had leased this horrible Ford Escort for driver's ed at a huge discount, so every time he took it in for the brake, they'd do something to make it work for a day or two before it broke again.  The teacher was my best friend's dad, and he used to tell her that I would be the death of him.  I was, and still am, a bat out of hell.  :)

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RE: Snapping - 3/10/2007 1:21:19 AM   
asiandoll27


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Status: offline 		Oh I have snapped before, and learned that i had better have patience and manners the hard way.

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RE: Snapping - 3/11/2007 10:23:08 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		What is it with men being passengers? He usually drives but I did the other day and he did nothing but complain the whole time. I think I did ask him if he wanted to drive instead which did make him rethink his attitude. However his daughter just got her permit which may be why he's suddenly acting this way.

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RE: Snapping - 3/11/2007 10:30:20 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Oh, we had a day like this the other day.
I was helping Angel fix his car, we thought the problem was his spark plug wires and so we were changing them. Well, he is far taller and has longer arms that I do, so he was doing most of the work and i was juts handing him tools and things like that. He asked me to hand him something, and not looking i picked up the wrong ratchet. We were both pretty frusterated by this point because he didnt really have the time to spare from schoolwork to fix the car, but without getting it fixed he was depending on friends and me to drive him everyewhere. Instead of telling me i had grabbed the wrong sized ratchet, he turned around and said if i wasnt going to help hed rather tjust do it alone, he thoughtI knew what i was doing.
HE snapped, becaue he was frusterated.  I didnt appreciate it, but I also didnt get WAY too angry with him. He got disciplined for the way he spoke to me.  And I dont kid myself that he wil never do it again. This wasnt the first nor will it be the last .

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RE: Snapping - 3/11/2007 10:42:11 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		it's one of my major problems that Daddy doesn't like. i snap when i'm trying to beat a deadline ...i snap when i'm on my cycle ...i snap (or i try not to) when we discuss the way my relationship is going with this collarme guy i'm seeing ...i snap when i'm having "a really pissed off, don't bother me or you'll get your ass kick" kind of day.  He knows i thrive on pressure and stress becuase i want things to be "perfect" - old habits are so hard to let go and He knows instantly when i'm having a bad (or good) day.  however recently, i've been snapping less these days since re-arranging my schedule and meditating twice a day.

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 5:53:42 AM   
whipingherfeet


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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 6:23:14 AM   
Mustardseed


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Status: offline 		Yep. Once I honestly blamed low blood sugar, more often than not a Daddy-brought-on lack of sleep, but sometimes I snap even though if I'd really bothered to I could have held it back. It happens. Sometimes it's an issue that needs to be dealt with, sometimes it's simply punishable. I don't sweat it anymore -- crap happens.

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 6:45:40 AM   
jauntyone


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Status: offline 		Greetings
 
early on in our relatinship I did not have the control over myself that I do now; I mouthed off in anger quite a few times. It took some time to learn to control my temper in that instance.
 
In the beginning though, Master did not punish me for letting my temper get in the way; now though, if I was to speak sharply or raise my voice in anger to him; it would not be pretty
 
We can not all be perfect all of the time ; we are after all, human.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa
 
 

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 7:00:08 AM   
whipingherfeet


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ORIGINAL: jauntyone

Greetings
what a good master
early on in our relatinship I did not have the control over myself that I do now; I mouthed off in anger quite a few times. It took some time to learn to control my temper in that instance.
 
In the beginning though, Master did not punish me for letting my temper get in the way; now though, if I was to speak sharply or raise my voice in anger to him; it would not be pretty
 
We can not all be perfect all of the time ; we are after all, human.
 
I wish you well
 
melissa
 
 

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 8:25:55 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		The outside reasons people "snap" are exactly the reasons I hold the position that a slave serving a Master on a practical 24/7 basis can not have another "master". Work, outside responsibilities, family commitments all can cause snapping within the relationship because the relationship should be a place where being "natural" takes over. It is natural to need a vent if you are forced to be a 'slave'. Work, by the very nature of the word, implies force is involved. The 'force' maybe monetary need, or complying with someone else's definition of a fulfilling life.

What is not in your nature or natural for you to do will generate a "snap".

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We can not all be perfect all of the time ; we are after all, human.
If this is regarding "snapping" I'm happy to report I have an alien as a slave.

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 8:35:50 AM   
ownedgirlie


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I hold the position that a slave serving a Master on a practical 24/7 basis can not have another "master".


I realize this is your view on things and it is no secret we have differing views here, lol..

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What is not in your nature or natural for you to do will generate a "snap".


I will simply say I do not ever snap at my Master - never.  It is totally inappropriate to do so, whatever life circumstances there are.  (I will join beth in her alienness, lol)  With me, it is not a case of being removed from life outside of his house; rather he has taught me to deal with the extreme circumstances that have come my way, in a much healthier way.  My way of dealing with such things does not include being negative to him. 

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 9:14:24 AM   
Casie


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Status: offline 		I snap more often than I'd like to admit...no one is perfect

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 9:20:18 AM   
daddysprop247


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Status: offline 		no i've never snapped at my Master. that isn't to say i've never been irritated with him, but no matter how bad my mood, i never lose sight of the fear i have towards him, and that fear has saved my butt on many occasions. it keeps me from crossing the line at times when nothing else would.

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 9:33:46 AM   
Argentopal


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Status: offline 		Does ripping my collar off and throwing it at him as hard as I could across the room count?

Now I can look back and laugh at how melodramatic I was.  At the time, I was dead serious and he realized there was something deeply wrong going on. In my past I had a very very bad temper and he knows how hard I worked to teach myself other and better ways to react to things and it had been many, many years since he had seen my loose my temper.  We let me cool down, took a break from that "discussion" and came back later and addressed what I was really upset about and actually laughed at how "dramatic" a moment I imanaged it was.  Sometimes in life we all have reactions we wish we could take back. 


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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 10:51:43 AM   
amuzingtoyou


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Status: offline 		Have i ever snapped at my dominant? Hmmm...well yes, of course I have. On rare occasions. Usually it had more to do with other pressures going on in my life. More often when I am upset I do the complete opposite and completely shut down. So he would get the one word responses. "yes" "no" or the famous "im fine". It is not easy to juggle work, unmentionables, and a relationship. Usually when those things occur we take a time out, and come back and talk when emotions are not running so high. I have always appologized when snapping at him. It happens. Im human.

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 11:54:52 AM   
softness


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Status: offline 		was always schooled ... from the earliest age .. in tempering my instinctive reactions to outside influence. This was basic manners given me by my parents. so if now ... as an adult i snap ... then it is an unavoidable, unconscious reaction ... an action of complete honesty and no artiface .. because my normal range of self control has been exhausted.

I find myself lucky to have been only with Doms who appreciate honest human reactions... this is mainly because they enjoy being the only people who can induce me to lose my cool. i have been told i am infuriatingly calm at times... its a form of control i have over myself ... that they have enjoyed bringing under their power

i think that i have never been punished by a Dom for snapping for two reasons ... They have understood that my self control is excellent, when i do something wrong it is an honest and genuine mistake - and i avoid dynamics where innocent non-playtime mistakes are punished beyond a look and a cuff round the ear ... secondly ... snapping from me is a naked and honest response and have always been tauight that honest reactions do not get punished ....

this is obviously .. my experience ... am not slighting any Oothers


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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 12:02:41 PM   
greeneyes1962


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Status: offline 		Oh, yes i have, in phone conversations. I'm trying to control it, but it's a bad habit left over from my vanilla marriage, and i really have to work hard on it.

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RE: Snapping - 4/18/2007 6:09:03 PM   
curiouslyseeking


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Status: offline 		Greetings Everyone..
 
I'm not generally a snappy person, but I have "snapped " once.....being that this was the first time..my initial thought was...."Oh, shit.., what's he going to do?", but to my amazement he ignored it, it bothered me so badly that within a few hours I was asking for him to forgive me without that moment being brought to my attention...
 
In my apology, I asked did you not recognize my tone?  He exclaimed he did, but he knew I would learn from it.  And it is true, I learned about my mouth without his hand. (I'm not going to try to push my odds on the second time though)
 
The ironic thing is, I cannot remember what I snapped about now, but I remember the feeling of it quite vividly.

Always,
~curious~

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