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what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 6:01:23 AM   
ELUSIVE1


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Status: offline 		What is my responsibility as a submissive?
Do I need to hold true to the cornerstones of this lifestyle? Honesty, trust....or is that just for the Dominants?
Do I take new impressionable submissives under my wing and try keep them safe? or does that make me look like a total biotch, telling tales???
If I see one posting on another site, word for word posts that have been done here...do you want to know that??
Do I call him out on this at the other site, so that the people oohing and awwing over the posts know that he is not an experienced, wise , dominant...but instead a petty thief???albeit a popular one...
Should I care at all that this person is representing himself as a 'lifestyler' of which I am  a part, and acting in this manner??


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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 6:11:46 AM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		You have to find a way in yourself to accept the faker on the web and not let it affect you so strongly.
You can not control others in this electronic media and should not fool yourself in thinking otherwise.
Every single thing I put on this web I indeed know and accept can end up in my parents, my vanilla community, and my church communities lap.
I fully expect to open some nasty magazine to see someone used my photos I've given to people and ask to keep private.
Look at the little girl  & Frenchie on American Idol as an example.
If you are not willing to have things pirated from you you shouldn't post them.
If you think everyone here is who, or what they say they are, or in real time this exists you'll continually disappoint yourself.
I say take a deep breath, count to ten, hit block so he can't contact you and MOVE ON.
Being in a tizzy allows him to control your emotion and reactions.
Do you want to be so weak that others can control you this easily?
I doubt it.
I do have empathy for you as I myself have played the part of the sucker.
I know it's wrong, I know it's not acceptable, and I know what emotions it has the opportunity to bring out in you as I too have been weak and allowed things to get to me more often than I'd like.

In the end I have to push my reset button from time to time, and you need to push yours.
Good luck in reseting sooner rather than later & better luck next time.
I wish you all the best.
suzanne

< Message edited by onestandingstill -- 3/9/2007 6:14:15 AM >

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 6:12:47 AM   
SilverShadows


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Status: offline 		It has nothing to do with your responsiblity as a sub. There is no unified code that would allow such judgement to be made. I am afraid it is a judgement which depends on your personal code of honor. Unless you have someone you have given over such choice too, in which case ask him/her/it/etc.



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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 6:21:57 AM   
jauntyone


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Status: offline 		I can not answer as to what YOUR responsibilites might or might not be; I can however, answer as to what MINE are.
 
quote:

  What is my responsibility as a submissive?


to be pleasing and obedient at all times
quote:

  Do I need to hold true to the cornerstones of this lifestyle? Honesty, trust....or is that just for the Dominants?


I would first have to ask WHY you feel that these things are conerstones to this lifestyle? Would they not be so in life PERIOD?
quote:

  Do I take new impressionable submissives under my wing and try keep them safe? or does that make me look like a total biotch, telling tales???


I do not take anyone 'under my wing'; all I can do is answer their questions to the best of my ability. It is their own place to keep themselves as safe as they possibly can. I am nothing more than a messenger in this instance.
quote:

  If I see one posting on another site, word for word posts that have been done here...do you want to know that??


not particularly. Their words have no impact on myself; only Master has that power.
quote:

  Do I call him out on this at the other site, so that the people oohing and awwing over the posts know that he is not an experienced, wise , dominant...but instead a petty thief???albeit a popular one...


my question would be....'why should you care'?

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 7:20:07 AM   
SimplyMichael


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Status: offline 		Your post is sort of all over the place and seems a bit drama filled to me.  I wouldn't hesitate to call someone on their shit and I sure as hell hope they would do it to me. 

As for "saving" people, most can't be but a kind word or two to see if they will listen never hurts.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 7:25:21 AM   
toservez


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From: All over now in Minnesota
Status: offline 		Being submissive does not relieve you of the responsibilities, troubles and issues of the human population and society have.

If you have found someone who is stealing from another and feel you want to tell that person than feel free to do so. There is not some submissive code of conduct law everyone lives by.

Never ever let something in the cyber world surprise you or get emotional affected by it.



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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 7:26:16 AM   
KatyLied


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quote:

Do I call him out on this at the other site, so that the people oohing and awwing over the posts know that he is not an experienced, wise , dominant...but instead a petty thief???albeit a popular one...


People will find out in time.  Allow them the space to make their own decisions regarding who they think is "wise" and "thief".  It doesn't matter.  We must learn to navigate life on our own. 

There are no true cornerstones of the lifestyle.  People just say that crap to make it seem special.


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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 9:57:13 AM   
thetammyjo


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Status: offline 		I believe that the responsibilities that dominants and submissives have is nearly identical with the exception of those areas where they have agreed to set up their differences in authority.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 11:57:29 AM   
pissdoll


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quote:

ORIGINAL: onestandingstill

You have to find a way in yourself to accept the faker on the web and not let it affect you so strongly.
You can not control others in this electronic media and should not fool yourself in thinking otherwise.
Every single thing I put on this web I indeed know and accept can end up in my parents, my vanilla community, and my church communities lap.
I fully expect to open some nasty magazine to see someone used my photos I've given to people and ask to keep private.
Look at the little girl  & Frenchie on American Idol as an example.
If you are not willing to have things pirated from you you shouldn't post them.
If you think everyone here is who, or what they say they are, or in real time this exists you'll continually disappoint yourself.
I say take a deep breath, count to ten, hit block so he can't contact you and MOVE ON.
Being in a tizzy allows him to control your emotion and reactions.
Do you want to be so weak that others can control you this easily?
I doubt it.
I do have empathy for you as I myself have played the part of the sucker.
I know it's wrong, I know it's not acceptable, and I know what emotions it has the opportunity to bring out in you as I too have been weak and allowed things to get to me more often than I'd like.

In the end I have to push my reset button from time to time, and you need to push yours.
Good luck in reseting sooner rather than later & better luck next time.
I wish you all the best.
suzanne


you contribute some of the most intelligent / well thought-out posts on this site.
thanks for that.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 12:36:04 PM   
Devilslilsister


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quote:

Your post is sort of all over the place and seems a bit drama filled to me.  I wouldn't hesitate to call someone on their shit and I sure as hell hope they would do it to me.


your shit stinks!

there, you've been called out

Now go eat a bagel


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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/9/2007 1:30:35 PM   
onestandingstill


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quote:

ORIGINAL: pissdoll

you contribute some of the most intelligent / well thought-out posts on this site.
thanks for that.

That is a very touching statement for me.
Thanks ever so much for your words.
I'm not sure I'm all that, but I'm glad I can help others and make people think by expressing how I feel.
I'm Sincerely Touched,
suzanne

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/10/2007 2:20:58 AM   
ShiftedJewel


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Status: offline 		As many have done here you could post a link to the original post from collarme.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/10/2007 3:09:53 AM   
Focus50


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From: Newcastle, Australia
Status: offline 		This sounds a bit like Net "whistle-blowing" - is that what you're asking? 
 
Frankly, my opinion is that if you think someone is a liar or bullshit artist etc, simply don't get invloved with them and, by all means, warn your personal friends.  But I wouldn't recommend outing them publically on these boards (or any other) simply because its rarely appreciated and, as with most whistle-blowers, you end up being the one ostracised....
 
Same with "saving" other young or inexperienced subs etc - people in general rarely appreciate help with personal matters when it wasn't sought from you.
 
Focus.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/10/2007 3:26:32 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: Simply

I wouldn't hesitate to call someone on their shit and I sure as hell hope they would do it to me. 

Now this is priceless....
 
Let's see; you've had several gutless cheap-shots at me recently and each time I've called you on "your shit", you've done noteable impersonations of the invisible man.  While this statement suggests you talk a good and noble game , it just proves you're all mouth and no substance or ticker.  Pfft.
 
Lol, you're outed! *wink*
 
Focus.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/10/2007 3:40:19 AM   
Rumtiger


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ELUSIVE1

What is my responsibility as a submissive?
Do I need to hold true to the cornerstones of this lifestyle? Honesty, trust....or is that just for the Dominants?
Do I take new impressionable submissives under my wing and try keep them safe? or does that make me look like a total biotch, telling tales???
If I see one posting on another site, word for word posts that have been done here...do you want to know that??
Do I call him out on this at the other site, so that the people oohing and awwing over the posts know that he is not an experienced, wise , dominant...but instead a petty thief???albeit a popular one...
Should I care at all that this person is representing himself as a 'lifestyler' of which I am  a part, and acting in this manner??



Why dont you step away from the lifestyle and all your conceived notions of roles and other such things and realize your just another person and just do what you feel is right? I mean...cmon!

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/10/2007 3:55:34 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Reminds me of the saying that "Cream rises to the top....and so does scum"  Each person will discover if someone is cream or scum.  This is the internet.  There is no plagerism police. Once you post something it becomes public domain.  Nothing you can do about it.  Ask yourself, does the sun shine less brightly, are you loved less, are you poorer or less healthy because of this situation?  i, for one, do not let text boxes ruin my day and remind myself of that handy X at the upper right hand corner of my screen.

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RE: what is my responsibility??? - 3/10/2007 9:47:00 AM   
ELUSIVE1


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yes, I agree. with onestandingstill...your answers are well thought out and insightful, sometimes we just need reminded to stay grounded, keep it real...


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