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Vendaval -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 2:30:16 AM)

Hello Lillith,
 
I would say that a Dom/me who is sophisticated sets a high 
level of standards; education, grace, discretion and elegance.
 
Hope this answers your question.
 
Regards,
 
Vendaval



goodpet -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 2:39:50 AM)

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ORIGINAL: angeldevil

I like that!.....
One who doesn't take the light fittings out when using a bullwhip.


Oh my…light switches.. .
at a campout, a lady Dominant doing a single tail scene....
e whip went back.. tangled in the pull string for one of the lights,, it pulled down.... the light went off.... The room when Ahhh...and then single tailed released and smoothly came down and snapped right on target......  She confidently said, "It was just a bit too bright in here for me"...

Lady Beth of LOCK is my definition of a Sophisticated Dom




Vendaval -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 3:33:02 AM)

The Mistress who comes to my mind is Lady Hugs. 
You can find her profile by doing a search with her
name on your home page.



Kana -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 6:36:20 AM)

Is a sophisticated Dom someone who holds their pinky finger out when weilding a crop?

To me a sophisticated Dom will be interested in more than just the physical aspects of BDSM, and have more in mind than just power plays. It would involve some subtlety, a certain sense of nuance and tact, both in and out of play. I think that part of being a Dominant is opening her up to new ideas, not necessarily my own. Its about guidance and growing.
I have had girls read Plato and Aristotle (and quizzed them...grins, don't want to fail that test), exposed them to culture, art, opera etc... because I think it helps them become well rounded and more versatile as people. If she isn't better for having known me, then I have failed as a Dominant.

It also involves the capacity to attract with who he is as a person rather than through force. I think it was Clausewitz who said force is the first resort of the ignorant and weak. The ties that truly bind are made in the heart and mind, not the body. To attract is always better than to compel, and that takes patience and integrity.



goodpet -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 3:08:48 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Vendaval

The Mistress who comes to my mind is Lady Hugs. 
You can find her profile by doing a search with her
name on your home page.


I agree with you also Vendaval,  I think LadyHugs is a wonderful Dominant and a very good person. She fits the definition for me also.   Read her posts and get to know her.



LadyHugs -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 3:38:46 PM)

Dear bbwdommelilith, Vendaval, goodpet, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
I must admit my name in the topic response drew me into the thread.
 
First, I do thank Vendaval and goodpet for their kind words.  I'm very moved.
 
For the topic of what it means to be a sophisticated dominant, in my mind's eyes I see is taking everything one has experienced in life and no matter how complicated it may be; present it publicly in a artful and simplistic grace that all may enjoy, no matter how your experience levels may be.  Sophisticated domination is being able to inspire.  It is also a dominant 'force' which isn't physical but more mental and spiritual.  Sophisticated domination isn't barking commands and or orders but, subtle to which it is invisible to the others, unless they have keen eyes as to what takes place.  Domination in a sophisticated manner, is knowing the power of touch, power of presence and power of the spirit of good intentions and good will to all--some call it being a 'giving' Master and or compassionate Master.
 
Sophistication in Domination in my mind's eyes, is taking a complexed and difficult to describe, highly developed, mature, classy and or elegant style and keep it so I am reachable, grounded and not so distant from others.  It allows an opportunity to share my vast wealth of knowledge and experiences through my mind's eyes--to teach by doing, by sharing and by living.  Sophisticated domination is also keeping in my personal spirit of intent--to always ask in my mind's eyes--How may I be of help to you/others, in the most respectful and gentle manner.
 
I do wish to summarize; Lady is more than a title, it is a state of behavior.  Although there are times that I could take a more agressive stance in things or tempted to use profanity--I am a Lady--it is not an 'act.'
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 
 



velvetears -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 4:27:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bbwdommelilith

A friend recently asked me to write a little about my definition of a "sophisticated" dom(me). I have my own ideas, but would like to hear what y'all think about this.

Lilith


i think it would be a dom i would not be able to quite figure out so quickly. Someone who was educated, knowledgable, cultured and complex. Someone wordly and able to converse with anyone on any topic with ease. Someone who dressed impecably and with some personal style and took good care of themselves.  Someone who always conducted themselves with class and dignity. 



SimplyMichael -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 4:45:14 PM)

We are wresting with two concepts here, the meaning of sophisticated as well as how it modifies "dominant."

Most of us have a vision of sophistication and imagine James Bond or perhaps Cary Grant.

Sophistication also implies an advanced level of understanding of in this case dominance.

So we could have a Cary Grant sophisticate who is a novice at BDSM but handles himself with grace or someone who has so mastered his own dominance that he can make a woman's knees go weak with a glance or with the slightest lowering of his voice.

Subtlety is such a lovely thing, isn't it?



KnightofMists -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 4:48:10 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Hmmm... One that doesn't fart in the middle of a scene?


mmmmmm guess that leaves me out



slaveish -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 5:09:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ShiftedJewel

Hmmm... One that doesn't fart in the middle of a scene?


No, no, no. This makes for a classy Dom, not a sophisticated one. A sophisticated one would hold his pinky up while he did it.



ExSteelAgain -> RE: what is a "sophisticated" dom(me)? (3/13/2007 5:09:52 PM)

Contrived gadgetry doesn’t impress me that much whether it is with social graces, interaction or D/s. To start with a derogatory term, I can talk out of either side of my mouth depending on where and who I am with.

The way I am at a certain moment depends on whether I am avoiding blame or promoting myself as the inexorable progressive vanguard of dominance. The key is that I realize I and others do it and don’t take myself too seriously, especially, not on CM.

Could it be that the person who exhibits quiet understanding of your nature and bdsm abilities and tendencies is far more sophisticated than SuperDom slapping ritual after ritual on your ass?



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