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BeautifulRacket -> RE: What would your ideal day look like? (3/11/2007 3:34:36 AM)
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Thank you all for your interesting responses thus far! [:)]
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ORIGINAL: onestandingstill
My day would be waking up next to my Master, having some kind of morning connecting ritual for those first seconds we're awake, and hopefully some brief friskiness. I'd then make his morning beverage, fix his breakfast, pack his lunch and fuss over him to get him dressed and ready to face his day in any way he or I can find. We'd then go to our jobs. When we re-connected at home there'd be another greeting ritual, dinner, night chores and such. After chores are done and my Master's fed and content I'd hope sometimes to snuggle in front of the TV and be frisky a little, or go out. I'd love to just have constant heat and lighthearted whacks as I walked by him and things like that that kept a physical and Dominant undertow in our regular day to day lives. I'd prefer to play once to twice a week and really hard and deep like once every two weeks.
I'd want to be treated and expected to over all act like a sex maniac french maid, or english butler. When we went to bed again as we climbed in to our bed there'd be a good night ritual and I'd drift of to sleep content with a smile on my face knowing I was home and safe in my Masters arms and home.
I'd also like us to be a part of the local BDSM community and social gatherings to some extent.
It's hard to be specific as to how to make this sort of dynamic work successfully.
A lot of it has to do with me.
I want to be fully controlled, but not micro managed or oppressed.
There's fine lines between the dreams I seek and the balance not being out of whack and suffocating me instead.
Full control and leadership keeping freedom and contentment as the emotions it causes is a hard thing to have in real life.
I want to be fully owned, but free to feel like I'm living my purpose and dreams.
suzanne
When I first asked my sub this question, this was the type of response I was hoping to get, suzanne. To me at least, it seems well thought-out, specific and realistic, which I like very much. You make excellent points about balance and making it work, and in my mind, your sample/ideal day brings clarity to those ideas. I often prefer more concrete examples over abstract concepts, which is likely why I feel getting an idea of my sub's ideal will be helpful to me/us.
While this thread arose from curiosity rather than a desire/need for advice, your post has given me some good food for thought, and I believe it'll help my sub move forward in pinning down (at least for the time being) his answer as well. Working on this will aid our relationship, so thank you from both of us!
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ORIGINAL: youngsubmissive
hmm...my ideal day isn't very submissive...but it's being left alone in a room with a notebook and pen.
Yes, I realized the question could be interpreted that way, but struggled with how better to word it to get what I was most curious about. For me, it's very easy to describe the day of my dreams, a realistic one without any D/s, or one with my husband, but it's more difficult to be specific about what I'd put together to create an ideal, yet realistic, day as a Dominant just because I haven't explored that part of me as much.
Would your answer change if you had to put it in the context of what you'd do as a submissive? And/or, what are your ideal expressions/activities as a submissive (e.g. I'm particularly fond of being served and expressing my sadistic side in a variety of ways, caring for my sub, cuddling/affection and discussion, so I'd put those things into my ideal day as a Dominant)? Everyone's welcome to answet, BTW. :-)
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