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Padriag -> RE: DUO-BDSM TRAINING? (4/1/2005 9:07:36 AM)
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I have not heard the term before, but the form of training sounds like a fairly basic method of behavior modification that is being implemented in perhaps a clumsy way. Repetitive exercises are used by many to achieve a desired behavior. You see this done in the military in basic training to instill basic forms of behavior, address, dress codes, etc. I've also seen it used in some corporate training (particularly in Japan), and in other situations as well. I'm not prepared to call it brain washing based on what little you've said... it can become that if taken to an extreme however. In the lifestyle common uses for this form of behavior modifications are to instill regular and routine forms of behavior, such as forms of address, position training, some protocols, etc. It trains the submissive to react in a desired way reflexively... such as always saying "yes Ma'am" or "no Ma'am" to use a very simplistic example, or to always kneel when entering a room and waiting for permission to enter to give another example.
From what you describe I'm going to posit some guess, so take what I'm about to say with a grain of salt, I'm working on limited information about you situation. First you said your domme just learned this so my first guess is that she hasn't learned it as well as she may believe and needs to educate herself further. There is more to repetitive training than just repetition. Individuals progress at different paces, from your remarks it sounds as though you either are progressing quickly or you have a very active mind or you have a short attention span... any one of those will create a problem if its not addressed correctly. I'll outline each briefly and you can decide which best fits you.
Quick progression - in some individuals they learn very quickly, adopt new behaviors very quickly, change comes easy for them when they put their mind to it. Repetitive training present a problem if carried on too long in these individuals because they become frustrated. Having quickly adopted the desired behavior form they feel their progress has not been noticed (and indeed it may not have been) and they have not been rewarded for their quick progression. To deal with this the dominant needs to "test" them more frequently, giving the submissive more chances to demonstrate what they have actually achieved. This accomplishes two things, where the desired behavior truly has been quickly adopted it allows the couple to move on to other things... but, there will also be cases where the submissive has not adapted as well as they believe, and this gives the dominant the opportunity to point this out and discover what areas specifically need more work.
Active minds - some individuals have very active minds, they need to feel challenged and some sense of achievement more so than others. Repetitive training presents the problem of being too dull. To allieviate this the repetition needs to be changed in form, but not function. For example... if the training is to always walk one step behind the dominant, the situatios need to be changed up so that the environment changes, the conditions change, etc. forcing the submissive to think about it more, questioning whether or not they should repeat the behavior under the new condition. The idea is to engage the mind of the submissive, to allow that active mind to be active.
Short attention span - then there are individuals who simply cannont hold interest in most things for long. Usually this is the product of an undisciplined mind in childhood (I could write entire essays on this, but I'll keep it brief here). Short attention spans also need to be stimulated, but where the active mind wants to think, the short attention span does not. The dominat has to work twice as hard to keep the repetitions interesting, keeping them seeming new and novel, and in many ways disguising the fact that it is repetition.
As Archer pointed out it can become brainwashing if taken to an extreme. If the training is only to create reflexive responses in specific areas, such as protocols, dress codes, etc. I would not be concerned with brain washing. If, however, it carries over in to breaking down your will to resist to anything, your ability to say no to anything, conditioning you to accept things without questioning or thinking, that would be classic signs of brainwashing and that is indeed unhealthy.
I hope that helps,
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