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LadyHugs -> RE: comparing past sub/slaves to a new one (3/13/2007 3:11:33 PM)
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Dear patina, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my mind's eyes I see, a person in a slave/submissive role in the lifestyle/BDSM/community can often compare past Masters/Mistresses with the current and or new one. What is the difference between Masters/Mistresses/Dominants compare the past slaves/submissives and or servants with the new ones. Nothing. We're human and humans always judge other humans.
That said, having several slaves and or submissives in the past; each one was different. There may be some comparisons of the slaves of the past and present. However, that is not a signal in my mind's eyes that I would drop the present slave for one from the past. The reason why slaves of the past are because that phase is over with, for one reason or another. Most of my past slaves have passed on. Some have moved on. Some have grown and become Masters themselves.
Comparisons can be an expressed example of what was pleasing service by another, much like an example, a lesson and or an analogy.
Sometimes a comparison is an expression of frustration, to which communicating is the only means available. Comparisons can be due to many reasons. How a person handles comparisons is important. Either it can be negative and or positive. Only you (in general) can determine how being compared with another affects you (in general.)
As we know, employees are given evaluations on performance of their job--comparing employees are how evaluations take place.
In my mind's eyes I see, each slave comes into my world and teaches me something new and or challenges my knowledge, skills and or physical state. But, the "first" in anything is the person we remember the most and create a measure/standard from which everybody else is judged and or compared against--especially if extremely happy and or pleasing relationship.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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