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simplewhispers -> Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 4:09:10 PM)
all though I have yet to see the man I shall know as my Dom my rose colored glasses lets me see he will be my complition ... the compliment that I have been seeking for years .... in fact all my years........ what does your Master/sub make you feel ? Can you share with me... might feed my desire for a bit .......thank you sw[:D]

SilverShadows -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 4:12:24 PM)
You’re a total pervert! That is the compliment I seek, said with total conviction and sincerity.

hisannabelle -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 4:45:01 PM)
just a thought, but maybe instead of spending your time searching for someone to complete you, it would be better to complete yourself and be fulfilled while searching for someone to complement you. it's just a personal belief, but i think we should fulfill ourselves as people, not rely on other people to fulfill us. i've experienced a lot of disappointment from relying on others for my own completion. that said, he makes me feel a wide range of things. fear, ecstasy, contentment, joy, release, desire, there's a lot more to that. i think contentment is the biggest feeling for me, though, or perhaps joy.

goodpet -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 5:00:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: hisannabelle it would be better to complete yourself and be fulfilled while searching for someone to complement you. You know i had the same thought also. well said

sub4hire -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 6:18:07 PM)
My dom is mainly my best friend. Other smaller things but overall my best friend.

velvetears -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 10:34:46 PM)
i agree with hisannabelle - don't seek out anyone to "make you complete" - Know who you are, what your strengths and weaknesses are, likes and dislikes... be happy in your own skin, this will attract someone to you far more then waiting in the wings for your "dom in shining armor" to come and swoop you off your feet. i don't think there are many out there who want "incomplete" subs - Think instead - what can i bring to the table that makes me worthy of being sought after :-)

juliaoceania -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/11/2007 11:08:14 PM)
I would echo the "complete yourself" crowd..... two halves only make a hole to fall into , they do not make a whole when it comes to relationships. I found it far more productive to work on making myself the kind of person I would be proud to be with was a much more valuable use of my time than expecting that someone else would increase my value as a human being by completing me. The more I became on my own, the more I had to offer a super fantastic dominant sort... and it worked well for me.. we compliment each other rather nicely... but he does not complete me, although he does beat me[;)]

eyesopened -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 3:30:28 AM)
i understand what you are seeking but i agree with the others that completeness is something we must find within ourselves. i remember a time when my mother yearned for travel to distant places and collected travel brochures and mapped and planned and had a small mountain of literature of various locations and never once went anywhere. i'm not sure why but rose-colored glasses seem to get scratched and dirty a lot easier than any other kind of glasses. One exercise i was told to do years ago is to write out the following: What are the three most important aspects of a D/s relationship? Why? What are the two most important traits of a Dominant? Why? What is the single most important thing you have to offer a relationship? Why? Happiness is a choice.

hereyesruponyou -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 4:53:28 AM)
Learning and expressing what you have to offer to the relationship is a very important step and one that many subs do not seem to consider before searching. It's a nice thought that you can just "give yourself over completely" to another, but who you are and what you bring to the exercise is going to have a major effect on it. Know and love yourself first and then you might be able to find someone you can make that elsuive click with, otherwise it's just sense beating your head against the wall.....

Dnomyar -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 5:25:10 AM)
Might feed your desire for me also.

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 6:01:47 AM)
Daddy and i compliment each other as nillas as well in our D/s relationship. we share the similar interests, tastes and dislikes. i would also like to chime in that i wasn't looking for Him however He was looking for me. Daddy chose me not because of my submissiveness only but for what i could offer him as a woman and submissive.

angelic -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 6:07:39 AM)
i cannot specifically tell you how my Master makes me feel as i do not have one. However, i do understand (i think) what you mean about him completing you. i am a whole person as i am right now. Yet, there is still part of me that is unfullfilled because i do not serve one. Yes, i serve many throughout my day and yes it does feed a portion of my need to serve; however, it is simply not the same. So being 'complete' does not necessarily mean i am not 'complete' as i am (at least for me, in my mind), but i am not entirely whole, either. (If that makes sense).

KatyLied -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 6:12:29 AM)
You need to find completeness without another person. On your own, discover what makes you complete. If you depend on another for "completness", ask yourself what will happen when then person is no longer in your life? Will you cease to be "complete"? If so that is sad.

BeachMystress -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 6:33:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers what does your Master/sub make you feel ? To truly answer this would take weeks. Love, romance, soulmates.. that is how I feel about him. In brief, it feels like he and I are one person at times; as if my heart beats also for him. His presence so fills me, that even when we are apart, I don't feel lonely or sad. He is the most important thing that has ever happened in my life. His kneeling to me is magic. His touch contents me and enlivens me. While I was a complete person before I met him, I would no longer be a complete person if something happened to him. He has become part of my life, existence and soul. If you'd have asked me if any of this was possible three years ago, I'd have laughed and said that no one can be such to another. I was a commitment phobe, after losing a fiancee at a young age. While someone may not be able to complete you as a person, they are able to complete your life. May you find such as I have.

angelic -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 6:39:43 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BeachMystress To truly answer this would take weeks. Love, romance, soulmates.. that is how I feel about him. In brief, it feels like he and I are one person at times; as if my heart beats also for him. His presence so fills me, that even when we are apart, I don't feel lonely or sad. He is the most important thing that has ever happened in my life. His kneeling to me is magic. His touch contents me and enlivens me. While I was a complete person before I met him, I would no longer be a complete person if something happened to him. He has become part of my life, existence and soul. If you'd have asked me if any of this was possible three years ago, I'd have laughed and said that no one can be such to another. I was a commitment phobe, after losing a fiancee at a young age. While someone may not be able to complete you as a person, they are able to complete your life. May you find such as I have. What a wonderful testament to what you have.

SirDominic -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 8:34:11 AM)
simple, take off your rose colored glasses. You are seeing a distorted reality through them; you are seeing a fantasy that doesn't exist in life. It is harming your ability to find the very thing you are looking or. For all you other posters, the OP never said she needed someone to "complete" herself. She said she was seeking someone to compliment herself. Two entirely different things. Namaste, Sir Dominic

angelic -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 8:36:45 AM)
"lets me see he will be my complition". Although maybe not spelled properly, i assumed she meant 'completion'. i believe that word does come from the word 'complete'.

toservez -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 8:53:00 AM)
I pretty much fall into the need to complete yourself category but will offer this perspective: Your one can certainly compliment you and in a way complete you and I would not just totally throw out the thought, but many, not assuming OP, are looking for the one to complete them is really about finding a person who will transform them from being in some state of unhappiness and loneliness to the happily ever after notion, the magic pill theory. If you are not happy with yourself then another person will never be able to transform you. I like the line from a Sheryl Crowe song “It is not about getting what you want but wanting what you have”. Rose colored glasses are fine but setting standards too high or too low are just setting one self up for failure and end up settling for a far from perfect match and in denial to convince one self they have found the perfect one.

BeachMystress -> RE: Rose colored glasses (3/12/2007 9:41:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SirDominic For all you other posters, the OP never said she needed someone to "complete" herself. She said she was seeking someone to compliment herself. Two entirely different things. quote: ORIGINAL: simplewhispers my rose colored glasses lets me see he will be my complition ... You just missed it. It is there.

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