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Aswad -> RE: First anal (4/6/2007 10:44:34 AM)
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Yeah, enemas will tend to irritate the area. If you're concerned about fecal matter, I would suggest using a condom. Otherwise, getting a lot of vitamin C and urinating as soon as possible after enjoying it is a good idea for the penetrating party.
Anal sex can certainly be painful sometimes, particularly if the sub is tense or not aroused. Of course, for me, that is a turn-on, and part of the point when I do this with nephandi, although I do prefer anal sex in general as well, not just the rough stuff. It does get a lot easier for her after a little while, most of the time, but sometimes I go hard on her so it doesn't ease up. Depends on your preferences.
If the OP has a sub that would enjoy the pain, it can be worth giving that a go as well, but usually I'd recommend being very careful, using lots of lube, and doing it when the sub is really aroused and preferrably relaxed. Pushing out, as when passing a stool, is also something that helps, as this relaxes the sphincter muscle, but this also tends to cause urination if there is a significant volume in the bladder, and it can cause fecal matter to become more of an issue.
In either case, if there is a bit of pain, it's usually not a problem, except insofar as this is something the sub dislikes. But if there is a lot of pain, I'd recommend checking to see if there is any bleeding, particularly if the sex is rough. A little bit of blood is okay, apart from the STD concerns, as this just stems from tiny tears in the skin or mucosal membrane. Bleeding anything more than that, however, is a sign to stop, and significant bleeding or bleeding that doesn't stop should be dealt with by calling 911 (or 112 for most of the world outside the USA) immediately.
Our bowels can take a fair bit of abuse, particularly the first part of it (which is covered by a large muscle), but in general the intestinal wall from about 15cm in or so (to be on the safe side) is about as strong as a wet paper towel. If it is pierced, that absolutely needs to be treated immediately at a hospital, as sepsis can occur in a matter of hours.
In general, though, rough anal sex or anal play isn't a problem as long as the sub is along for the ride. Needless to say, though, this needs to be discussed with him/her up front. I know one of the main people behind the Norwegian BDSM organization SMIL actually went way over the line with regards to this, essentially going rougher when a vanilla partner started crying during anal sex. While I get the "turn-on", that hardly qualifies as consensual.
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