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justmi -> questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 6:35:34 AM)
I recently updated my profile and was blocked by a Dom with a note that said I needed to rethink my profile as I was driving people away. He had commented earlier on a journal entry I had made about wanting to meet with someone...I really was excited about meeting him..We didn't meet for some really kind of underhanded reasons but in my journal rather than flaming I chaulked it up to distance. But here is the question when does someone make the note they have found someone they would like to investigate a little deeper? Obviously this one did not work out, so it was too soon to make that note. I mean you email a few times, maybe a phone conversation or two...they still seem to be what they are projecting, you meet them..maybe ok or not. But it is still a long way from being claimed or collared. At what point in this process do you want to say "I'm am interested enough I do not want to lead someone else on" but I am not taken? After being blocked for my journal entry I am not certain that is where I want to make the note. After several months with this profile and a couple of years with another one, that still remains to be my question about the online venue. Any advice?

odalisqueslave -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 7:01:24 AM)
justmi... firstly why the concern over one dom in thousands listed here, who has taken umbrage over comments posted in your profile?...his issue, not yours...let it go. i see nothing wrong with playing the field, as it were. we all know there's alot off talk here, nature of the beast, that's why i keep a bucket of salt by my pc <wg> but as you stated unless one is collared and all the other ramifications of that, your a free agent. keep it simple, stay true to who you are and your convictions,. be as honest and upfront as this format allows. petty postings rarely bring forth positive imput in journals, but if presented in a non threatening manner...can have the opposite effect. so i say keep on trucking and good luck! odal

corysub -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 7:22:05 AM)
Great advice odal. We all know that there is a lot of talk here, and that is ok...but it also is a place with a lot of really great people, both Dom/Domme and subbies. Sometimes it seems like a "lottery ticket" in picking a winner, and that's ok..it's a free ticket. wish you well... cory

viperess -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 7:22:32 AM)
Greetings, If you are interested in seeing where a relation might go with one Master and you know He is also interested then you can always post that you are under consideration. Many here will respect that...others well they seem to not notice when it says you are collared so saying your under consideration is looked over too. As far as someone not liking what you have in your profile or journal...sounds like their tough luck as long as you are being true to yourself and not naming names you are fine. Respectfully

countrygirl69 -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 7:35:17 AM)
I am new so take my advice with a grain of that salt. but some people do not care if you are collared ,or owned ,or anything so you have to police yourself if you like someone and are waiting to see what happens then tell people that when they are interested honesty works best in my humble opinion

MasterFireMaam -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 7:56:35 AM)
At what point in a relationship would you say that person was your BF/GF (meaning you were dating exclusively or that they have become is significant importance)? All you have to do is put a line in your profile that you're actively pursuing a relationship with a particular person and that you want to concentrate on this without pursuing other relationships. If they ignore that, you know they don't respect you enough to be worthy of your submissive. Master Fire

SimplyMichael -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 9:12:56 AM)
Anyone who would send you a note saying they are not going to send you any more notes is trying to guilt you into responding which it seems worked for them didn't it? While online is okay and I have met some people from here, nothing beats going to munches and other real life events.

Eruditegirl -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 9:33:42 AM)
Why not leave your profile alone and just respond to a Dom if they email you with a polite.... "Thanks for the email...I am talking to someone right now...unsure of where it may lead...but willing to find out...." I have done this a few times and all the responses I got back were...thanking me and letting them know if it didn't work out.....

justmi -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 7:56:13 PM)
All good stuff ...Thank You. I logged on tonight and looked under the "who's viewing me" tab and saw alot of subbies...LOL then it occured to me that I had posted this question this morning. I am not so concerned with the Dom that said I was driving people away...in some respects I was. I am not much for being an online submissive. For me it just really does not fufill that need in me, but I know some that are very contented with it. I am much more of a hands on kind of girl. smiles Getting to the munches is bout an 1 1/2 drive for me since I moved. But I am happy to say I get to attend kinkfest this year....I am excited.

myobedience -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 8:15:28 PM)
Personally, I do not like the "journals" here...why? The blogs on other sites are wonderful venues for people to make comments and clarify thier own thoughts in public or even get a mini forum going. There is no possability to do so here. So I have sent emails to a few whose journals I really appreciated and would have had liked to discussed more, if no reply, then how can it be? I also am not pursuaded with the "under consideration" phrase. Someone bombasted me for my tag line and the various changes in it... semantics, so is the phrase under consideration. We like the jargon of BDSM (generalities) and get caught up in it. Training collar, under consideration, collared, owned ....personally I am happy with saying that for the time being I belong where I am on my journey.

sleazybutterfly -> RE: questio about the profile and journals (3/14/2007 10:22:57 PM)
If I were talking to someone else and getting to know them, I just put in that in my profile. I was always upfront with anyone I was talking to about them not being the only one. If someone wasn't okay with that, they weren't someone I was interested in anyway. I would never change my profile to say I was owned or not looking anymore until the person I was making the choice to serve did the same thing. I have seen too many profiles where a sub/slave gushed about being owned by such and such..then you go to the Doms profile and it still reads as though they are looking. I did that a couple of times in the beginning, when I met Master I told him from the beginning that this slaves profile will not change till his does. We changed it after we came back from meeting and its been that way ever since.

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