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Contradictions - 3/14/2007 9:31:47 AM

Dnomyar

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In a recent post I ranted about people flaming a op because he asked a question. I see that was a contradiction because there I was flaming them. From reading all of these post it seems that the whole lifestyle is one big contradiction. To me it is to each their own kink. But to many in here your kink is the start of flame city. My question is there an acceptable type of contradiction?

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RE: Contradictions - 3/14/2007 9:43:35 AM

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What do you mean by acceptable?? Myabe you could clarify more i don't fully understand your question.

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RE: Contradictions - 3/14/2007 9:43:36 AM

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Sure- in fact it's all acceptable as long as you admit it.

Now, you will lose credibility because of it. If you say you value X and your words and actions would be a clear demonstration to others that you do not value X at all, you will be seen as inconsistent and that means lack of awareness and stability and those are all not good things to have in a mature adult.

However, within a single person, contradictions can and should abound. I often get told how contradictory I am, specially given that I am a switch. I can talk about sucking out blood of a person and whoring myself out one moment, and then talking about cute pink fluffy bunnies the next. There are things I choose for myself which I admit are completely irrational and completely lacking in sense, but I still do because I think it's right for myself.

I think the issue tends to become a problem when we try and suggest that others should hold themselves to our personal standards. I'll tell someone what I think they should do if they ask, or if they repeatedly bang themselves publicly into walls, but I accept that it's always their choice.

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RE: Contradictions - 3/14/2007 11:04:40 AM

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I myself, I am human. I am not perfect. Sometimes, I will look at things from both sides of an issue or coin. However, if somebody hits something specific that triggers me. Logic tends to become buried in emotion. I am always open to the idea that I am wrong. It might take me a few days, hours or minutes to come around to it. I have no problems in admitting I am wrong, but I'm not going to kiss somebody's ass for it either.

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RE: Contradictions - 3/14/2007 11:28:07 AM

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Logic becomes buried in ego also. This was a hard question to phrase. Thank both of you for understanding what I was trying to ask.

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RE: Contradictions - 3/14/2007 3:44:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiplashSmile

I myself, I am human. I am not perfect. Sometimes, I will look at things from both sides of an issue or coin. However, if somebody hits something specific that triggers me. Logic tends to become buried in emotion. I am always open to the idea that I am wrong. It might take me a few days, hours or minutes to come around to it. I have no problems in admitting I am wrong, but I'm not going to kiss somebody's ass for it either.

I think this pretty much sums up my feelings also.

I have learned that some of the things that bug me the most about other people are things that bother me most about myself. Obviously calling them out on their behaviour when I do it myself is pretty rediculous, doesn't always stop me from doing it, but I laugh (or get mad at myself, depending on the situation) when I realize I am doing it. Damn, guess I am not perfect after all.

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