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hisannabelle -> RE: do married guys have much luck here? (3/16/2007 10:01:30 PM)
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ORIGINAL: chrissyslave
LOL!...this is gotten so off topic! My comments were directed only at the poster who put up a lousy photo, and at least to me if I were a Domme would cause me to pass by his profile faster than a bullet BDSM train. Anyone who read anything more than that into my straight forward comment has some sort of personal issue...i.e. some reflex action due to past comments on their size and looking for an excuse to take their rejection reaction out upon.
The reality is, in my own view that is, that most of the guys here simply realize that most skinny/average sized woman have enough suiters in the vanilla world of a VARIETY of styles/sizes (dominants included) that the woman have enough opportunities for fulfillment that for what they are mostly interested in that appearance here MUST be secondary...not that they really prefer plus-sized woman. I would "love" to see someone start a poll that includes "if you had your rathers you would prefer:
-skinny
-slightly trimmer than average,
-average (not plus size even if 14W is mid-range)
-a few pounds heavier
- BMI of 25 to 30
-BMI over 30
All I can say is I'll wait to do my voting in that poll. Meanwhile in the vanilla-world I'll take the votes on sites such as "Hot or Not" and go from there (for myself always 8.0 and higher), but then most photos there from plus-size woman are from shoulders on up....go figure. I would love to see a "BDSM Hot or Not" site be started, with and without scene gear on. The question is whether most Doms/Dommes here truly have different preferences or are more "willing to settle" after their primary "Dom" concerns are met. Frankly I think the PC view expressed so far is a bit different than the reality-check that most on here are unwilling to put into a new topic thread and be tested on. (silence again?) But pleasseeee...go ahead and make my day....and prove me wrong...LOL!
Meanwhile I still content that the poster here should have left his clothes on, as well as his wedding band on his finger....and the Dommes here have basically given him their silent finger in response.
And please tell me you "fuller" size woman have more self confidence than to dwell on a single comment made to a out-of-shape middle aged man in tight briefs to defend than "weight issue" here on a Friday night...instead of getting laid or whipped into sub-space!
All us woman breast size A, B and C (sorry a cut off point here unless you provide the serial number of your implants) may we unite! We have the right to be trimmer and more healthy!! Tennis anyone?...slot open on court 9 at 2 PM tomorrow ... ...LOL!
chirssy - trim slave
personally, i do not find you attractive (as a bisexual female). you don't look particularly confident or joy-full to me, and your weight really doesn't have a whole lot to do with it (at least physically - i don't find you at all attractive because you're thin).
*shrugs* i think me, geeky, and aquatic are pretty damn sexy. (and hey, i never used to have a dearth of emails when i had my pics up, hehehe...i'm 5'3" and 195-200lbs, which is in the 35 bmi range, by the way. i also have 38ddds. completely natural.)
if you like taking your opinion from hot or not sites, then more power to you. i would caution you that MAYBE the real world would be a good place to venture every now and then. just a little bit.
i do not have a dearth of men trying to pick me up in real life. if i wanted to, i could sleep with a different man every night. however, i don't measure myself in how attractive i am to other people (nor do i really need to fuck that much). it seems you do. more power to you, although that appears to me to be a very unfulfilled existence.
never was a big fan of tennis...i could probably kick your ass in a dance competition, though. up for a yoga class?
that said, to the op: maybe in your position it's good to put out what you want to put out to get what you want, and your original picture isn't good marketing. but if it's what makes you happy, who the fuck cares? if you're really THAT concerned with finding a domme, cater to that...if you want someone who judges you solely on your looks. but i don't think there's anything wrong with your pic. it isn't attractive to me, personally, but then again, it's on the same level of attraction as chrissyslave's pics...neither of them really tickle me. i don't think there's anything wrong with it.
p.s. i was watching tlc the other day and saw a program on a man who weighed over 1000 lbs (no, i am not joking). he placed a personal ad when he was near his highest weight and ended up marrying one of the respondents. they are still very happily married and she has supported him through his weight loss (at the time of the showing, his lowest weight was around 600 lbs). she saw past the way he looked. i have confidence that other people do, too.
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