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RE: phone calls, e mails and smothering - 3/16/2007 11:40:13 PM

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everyone is different in their daily communication needs and expectations, and things usually do settle down a bit after the "honeymoon" phase, but i tend to agree with losttreasure; the only time i was okay with decreased communication was when i really wasn't interested anymore.

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RE: phone calls, e mails and smothering - 3/16/2007 11:48:24 PM

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Angel and I have gone from talking every day to being lucky to speak once a week. He still needs to hear me, and I want to hear him, but we cant work it into our schedules all the time. We do what we can, but it is difficult to go from being in constant contact to near nonexstant contact.

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RE: phone calls, e mails and smothering - 3/17/2007 5:28:23 AM

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In my relationship, eeing each other every other weekend works for now because it is a LDR as well. i am required to call Him every morning at a set time, not because of any control issue but because He wants me to be His wake-up call and because He wants to hear my voice. He and i have lives, jobs, other things to attend to during the day, we may not talk on the phone but a minute or two. Right now i can't imagine not having daily contact but i am not at all dismayed that some of our daily contact is extremely brief.

In previous attempts at LDR, as soon as the next logical step was to meet in person it was amusing how quickly the communication went from every day to once a week to not at all...

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RE: phone calls, e mails and smothering - 3/17/2007 7:27:37 AM

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The level of contact or interaction has never decreased. It's actually been rather steady over the years.

For myself, if I could only be factored into someone's life once a week, their significance in my life would dwindle because other things would fill the vaccuum; their impact on my life would be far less than someone who's *in* my life everyday with their finger on the pulse, so to speak.

If it was a short term thing, it wouldn't be a major bother but if it became how things were in the long term, initiated EITHER of us, it would signify a lack of interest or priority.

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RE: phone calls, e mails and smothering - 3/17/2007 7:30:36 AM

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How many others here have gone through the same kind of things as I have written of? The slowing down of e mails, talks on msn etc? Did it make you upset? In time were you appreciative or happy this happened and why.?

The only thing I will add is that it is amusing how Dom/Masters sometimes behave obsessively during the on-line "courtship" phase. With tons of emails and pms and ims. I've gotten to the point with a few that it was draining, having to respond to them. I was the one who felt smothered and forced to respond.

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