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Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:02:18 PM   
GainesvilleSlave


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Status: offline 		Help! I need advise. If you meet a Master and he says something but does not follow through with what he says, should a slave be on guard and lose trust in the Master. I have a problem with being told to be on line at certain times and he never shows up. I am losing faith in him as a Dom. but he says and I quote" i will say things and i wont follow it up" Should I thrust this Dom? Should anyone trust someone who says he will or won't do something and then not follow through with it? Are we not suppose to trust our owners words? Please help with some advise. Thank you all!
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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:07:33 PM   
KatyLied


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" i will say things and i wont follow it up"


That says it all.  Why waste your time with someone like that.


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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:07:59 PM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		You don't need us to tell you if you should or not. You already don't.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:09:24 PM   
onestandingstill


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Status: offline 		For me actions speak way louder than words.
If he gives his word with no intention of keeping it what's left to trust???
I think you know the right answer.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:13:22 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		No.  No.  No.  Jerk.  Move on.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:14:49 PM   
rascallymisty


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Status: offline 		Hello gainesville,
 
I'm afraid I will be giving you little advice other than to go with your gut feeling. Your profile says you where owned once before, so I would think only you would know best what you feel and think. Do you want a owner who does not follow through on what he says?
 
~ misty ~

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:18:08 PM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		The answer is right in front of you.  Why be with a person who you can never trust?  It seems you like this Master and want to trust him, but you will never be albe to totally trist someone who never keeps his word.  I think you should move on.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:20:02 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		I view trust as something one has to earn. Valyraen earned my trust as a friend, then as a boyfriend, and then I asked him to the role of dominant in my life. What has this person done to earn your trust?

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:22:13 PM   
proudsub


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quote:

I have a problem with being told to be on line at certain times and he never shows up.


He's probably playing with his wife and can't get online.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:42:29 PM   
EmeraldSlave2


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Status: offline 		You can trust that he won't be consistent or timely.

If you're ok with this, then it's fine.  But you don't seem to be ok with it.

I can trust that my partner will lose track of time, be late and have to catch up.  I know this with almost as much certainty as I know my name.

That doesn't mean he's a bad person for a relationship, it's a part of him I accepted and work with as best I can, and which only occasionally causes a real issue.

There are slaves who know not to expect their master to make promises, to be on at a particular time, or to expect a regularity.  The thing is- they learned what to expect/not to expect and decided for themselves whether it would work for them or not.

It doesn't seem to work for you, so say no thanks and move on.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:44:03 PM   
Quivver


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Status: offline 		Words are Cheap............. except when they are ~good by~.
I'd use those two.


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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 1:46:01 PM   
leatherorlace


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Status: offline 		HEXZACTLY. you already have questions about the cyber-space cadet so why pursue a poseur? I get the feeling that the varmint is married and a player at garnering mastubatory (whack-off)materials.he a pathetic boydawg that's probably hasn't been bedded in weeks. you do know that thosewives that finally realize that their MAN is in actuality a boydawg and is incapable of ever stirring their loin again he closeted variety raises all sorts of problems
 Backdoor playing is extremelydangerous nonsense, and I'm not talking about one of My favorite practices of rump-humpin'.
Read your post back to yourself. Read it as if another hsd posted it, and  with a criticaleye and see the underlying truths of what this clown IS NOT. If he were able to join you, I'd wager that he would be begging you to top him in a week or two with you wearing a huge strap-on. lol
  I dare to say that there are no two individuals that could meet every expectation of another, in rea life. Role-playin'  is quite different, and no, no all realize or accept any truths as they continue to deluded themselves into accepting the words of glib "parrots" to pronounce the latest word de jours ad still arn't capable of expressing an opinion of their own.
  By the way, does anyone else have a problem with dropped letters in their posts?
Gentry

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 2:31:38 PM   
mystiquenz


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I do believe that Quivver and others have said it very well.

Move on, dust your butt, and be thankful that you haven't wasted too much time.




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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 2:50:41 PM   
Masstohr


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Status: offline 		I agree.  It sounds like you already know... and you should always keep your guard up regarding online anything.  I use online solely as a mechanism to meet a sub and get to  know them and how their head works.  If your wanting something in real time to occur, then its an excellent opportunity to get to know someone before you meet them.  If your looking for cyber only........  then you should be forewarned that you will meet plenty of 'posers'.

Keep your wits about you while you have your fun.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 4:36:29 PM   
velvetears


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Status: offline 		i think what you are saying is you want to trust him but the voice inside of you is telling you,  rightfully so, that you cannot.  Anyone who will tell you that they will say things and sometimes not follow up is in essence telling you - You cannot rely on me.  If this is how you want to start a relationship be prepared for disappointment, if you have expectations that he will change or that he didn't really mean what he said - people don't usually change and i would take him at his word on this.  Sounds to me like he doesn't want a lot of bellyaching from you for those times he knows he's going to go back on his word to you.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/16/2007 5:05:40 PM   
goodpet


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Status: offline 		And this is just in cyberspace..  wait until it is real life...  if he ever gets to a real face to face encounter...

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/17/2007 5:57:12 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GainesvilleSlave

but he says and I quote" i will say things and i wont follow it up" Should I thrust this Dom?
 Are we not suppose to trust our owners words? Please help with some advise. Thank you all!


Yes, you can trust his words that he will say something and not follow up on it.  He's told you very clearly that you should not trust him and i would take him on his word for that!



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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/17/2007 8:20:59 AM   
savannasub


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Status: offline 		I trust very, very few people. There are a lot of people who've known me for years that I keep at a distance because of a lack of trust (my own family, for instance, and they've obviously known me longer than anyone). But when I do trust, I trust very much so, and I for whatever reason find that comfort level quickly. If they keep failing, like your master, I give them only TWO chances,  Maybe there's a bit of naïveté in that viewpoint, but it's worked so far. I can't explain it at all, but it's there.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/17/2007 9:03:00 AM   
goodlittlegirl28


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Status: offline 		as in any relationship, trust plays a tremendous role. if you've already established a foundation and are coming across a gap, maybe you can continue to trust if you are confident in him as a person/dom/whatever. but starting out, i assume, 1-online, 2-expected blind devotion without an ounce of security to trust even your own hesitancy... the situation sets you up for disappointment. you'll be thrilled when he keeps his word, but more often than not you'll end up second guessing him, and eventually your own worth. if you value your being, you won't let him manipulate your sense of self.

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RE: Trusting a Master - 3/17/2007 5:12:52 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

" i will say things and i wont follow it up"


That says it all.  Why waste your time with someone like that.



Ditto!

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