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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 3:32:59 PM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		I look forward to the first night he's away. Nobody hogging the blanket or rolling over and pushing me out of bed. But after that I hate it.

I'm more dependent on him every day but it isn't an unhealthy dependence. I feel stronger in dealing with the rest of the world. I'm learning to lower my walls and ask for help when needed, and accept it when offered. These are good things.

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 4:28:27 PM   
ownedkitten


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Status: offline 		When He is gone, of course I ache for Him.  My longing one of love, which is shown through service to Him. 

The structure of my day is very altered - I do not plan meals and such around His schedule, as one example.  But His absence does not completely stop my life.  While I am dependant, I do not feel it is not to an unhealthy degree.  The first few nights He is gone, I do not sleep well but eventually I become more accustomed to the bed being empty.  We continue our rituals to help keep my focus on the right place.


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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 4:52:54 PM   
jauntyone


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Status: offline 		Greetings
 
When Master is gone, I feel empty, lost, in a void that has no end. Yes, I yearn to serve him, yes, I am dependant on him, yes, I love him dearly. All these add up to an emptiness that can only be filled when I am in his presence. I have enough to occupy my mind while he is gone; but nothing to fill the emptiness.
 
I do not find it shameful or unhealthy. I am in love. I should feel this way
 
I wish you well
 
melissa

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 5:17:37 PM   
yenlui


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ORIGINAL: jauntyone

I do not find it shameful or unhealthy. I am in love. I should feel this way



I agree.

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 6:07:24 PM   
spanklette


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Status: offline 		In general, it is me who leaves for business trips and that sort of thing. The first thing I do when I'm on the plane or in the car away from Him and home is mentally and emotionally stretch like a cat. It feels good to just be by myself for a while. Sure I miss holding His hand or I'll turn to ask Him something and He won't be there, but honestly, I find the breaks refreshing. By the time I get home I'm raring to go again. I feel safe in His arms and we go to sleep tangled together. It feels right.
 
I don't leave all that often or for all that long, but the short breaks are, dare I say it, nice.
 
 

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 6:27:36 PM   
curiouslyseeking


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Status: offline 		I've read of all the aching and longing of the people from this thread and I think it is a wonderful thing and an honor to the One you serve...
 
Let's also remember that there are many slave/submissives that their Masters/Dominants are in Iraq and Afghanistan.  This combines the ache of missing with fear.
 
Be well,
~curious~


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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 6:43:55 PM   
completenz


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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/3/2007 6:49:48 PM   
opensoul


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Status: offline 		My Master and I live 6 hours away and I miss him when He leaves,we are new to each other and that is normal.I do all the things I need to when he is not here like work,school and be with friends. Does this make me lonely and sad at times yes ,does it make my life bad NO. I have found the one i want to serve and to love ,so when we are apart I remember the things and actions of my master and Think Yes I do love him and want to serve him even if we are far apart at this time. That is what is the path I have taken on.

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/4/2007 1:10:55 AM   
ownedkitten


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ORIGINAL: curiouslyseeking

I've read of all the aching and longing of the people from this thread and I think it is a wonderful thing and an honor to the One you serve...
 
Let's also remember that there are many slave/submissives that their Masters/Dominants are in Iraq and Afghanistan.  This combines the ache of missing with fear.
 
Be well,
~curious~



As a military spouse/slave, I want to thank you for making this comment.  I am fortunate that Master has not been sent yet but I know that day will come. 


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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/4/2007 5:28:18 AM   
jauntyone


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Status: offline 		Greetings ownedkitten
 
Master is overseas for the third time now . I understand the apprehension that you are feeling. Well wishes to the both of you.
 
Greetings Curious
 
I will second the statement and say thankyou for the kind words
 
I wish you the best on this beautiful day
 
melissa

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/4/2007 7:10:10 AM   
OsideGirl


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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2

If the dependence prevents you from enjoying things you sincerely want to enjoy and things which you identify as necessary to 'be you', then it's a problem.
Yup, co-dependence.

I'm another odd one I guess. I look forward to spending time apart. I was an only child. Master has a sister who is two years younger and they were each others support system as children. So for him, it's natural to be around someone all the time. For me, I enjoy being alone evey now and then.

Do I miss him if we're apart for days? Yes. But, it doesn't mean that I don't enjoy those days.

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/4/2007 1:00:55 PM   
curiouslyseeking


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Status: offline 		Greetings ownedkitten and jauntyone;
 
Some of my heart goes out to you in much support, because the other half of my heart is in Iraq at the moment.
 
I definitely just couldn't focus on my aching, longing and fear when there are so many more that are feeling the same things...
 
This is a new relationship to me, and I must say I admire you greatly in your roles.
 
Always,
~curious~

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/4/2007 2:29:38 PM   
arayofsunshine55


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Status: offline 		For me it is about balance.  He is out of town this week.  I need to miss him but this is my reality.  To be OK with myself I've gotta keep a grip on it all.  And so I manage it.  Manage myself.  Busy with other things.  I don't focus on him too much.  Just my coping mechanisms given what I know about myself.

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RE: you ache when He is gone: good or bad? - 4/5/2007 4:40:26 AM   
twistedkytten


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Status: offline 		I ache for Master, each moment He is away, luckily there are many things that distract me during the day, at night, if I am allowed to chain myself to the bed, given enough room to go to the bathroom if needed makes me feel much better, I find I sleep better with the little reminder.


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