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Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/18/2007 9:46:03 AM

subgrrl4u

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I would appreciate any advice, suggestions, and ideas anyone has. My Mistress is bi-sexual and married. I am a lesbian. We have recently discussed the possibility of forced heterosexuality after I shared a couple of fantasies that I had that involved her and her husband. These fantasies were fueled by things that she had said or suggested in conversations we've had. She has requested that I tell her how she can force heterosexuality on me in forceful ways.

Long story short is that I am having a difficutlt time coming up with ideas since my mind just does not naturally think about sex with men. I'm also not sure what she would be interested in having me do. I am desperate for ideas on this because I feel that she has given me an assignment that I am not fulfilling very well so far. So please any advice, suggestions, or ideas regarding the matter would be very appreciated.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/18/2007 12:02:30 PM

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Once you have consented to having forced heterosexuality as part of your relationship, it could occur in many ways. You could be in bondage and playing with Ma'am and told to open your mouth...and have a cock put in it. Same thing for having any of your holes filled with cock. You could be told that you cannot lick her or get a strapon until you have gotten him hard - or gotten him off. You could be told that for every stroke of the strapon, you'll take a stroke of cock. Either count the strokes, or take one in the mouth and one in a nether hole.

Good luck with your explorations!

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/18/2007 12:19:45 PM

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My Mistress has already expressed disappointment in me for not coming up with any ideas yet so I've been feeling rather miserable. Thank you very much for responding this definately provides me with some ideas and food for thought.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/19/2007 6:12:46 AM

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How comfortable are you with her husband?

How often do you interact with him?

How do you interact with him?

I would build off of how you interact with him.

I would be wary of pushing things too fast or too intensely. Even those things we have has fantasies should be treated with caution because sometimes the fantasy is much better than reality and what we think we can handle when we are in complete control (our fantasies) is very different when we no longer have complete control (reality).

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/19/2007 11:00:37 AM

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Just a quick update. Without getting into the details my Mistress ended our relationship yesterday. I am of course disappointed but hopefully it is for the best. Thank you to those that responded to my post.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/21/2007 11:25:40 PM

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Greetings my dear subgirl4u. As a hetero male Dominant, it would be easy for me to tell you which physical acts you should participate in with a man to please your Mistress. However, there are things which you already do at her command which you should feel free and ready to do with a hetero male partner. I am, certain that masturbation is on the agenda or schedule for you at intervals throughout the week. My plan for you involves meeting online first and having you open up to discuss your feelings of how you could interact now with a man, and which feelings are keeping you from doing this now. Quite possibly, your best approach would be to reveal yourself to Him while on a webcam chat. I offer to facilitate such a session for you at your first convenience, so you should respond to me soon.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 4:41:35 AM

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LOL this sounds just so "trollish" to Me.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 9:08:37 AM

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My sentiments exactly Lashra.....lol.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 9:59:24 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subgrrl4u

Just a quick update. Without getting into the details my Mistress ended our relationship yesterday. I am of course disappointed but hopefully it is for the best. Thank you to those that responded to my post.

I'm sorry that happened to you.

Do you think that discussing this issues of sex and men might be wise to bring before you get into a Ds relationship in the future?

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 10:10:56 AM

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I think it would be wise to discuss before hand. I was willing to do this if my Mistress had wanted me to. I would have gotten no direct pleasure from the sexual contact with a man but I would have recieved immense pleasure from pleasing my Mistress. Unfortunately it was my Mitresses husband that did not feel comfortable with it and preferred that his wife have a sub that was bi-sexual. So I really think that this should have been discussed between my Mistress and her husband before they ever involved me.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 12:09:26 PM

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Since you stated in your OP that

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We have recently discussed the possibility of forced heterosexuality after I shared a couple of fantasies that I had that involved her and her

and then go on to say you couldn't think of what to do I just don't buy any of this.

Women who are lesbians don't tend to have anywhere near as many fantasies of forced bi as men do. Women rarely pretend to be lesbians but men often do. Men also have fare more fantasies about being forced to have sex with men.

Blank profile, male fantasies....hmmm I think there is only one troll here and it isn't any of the responders.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 12:35:48 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: subgrrl4u

I think it would be wise to discuss before hand. I was willing to do this if my Mistress had wanted me to. I would have gotten no direct pleasure from the sexual contact with a man but I would have recieved immense pleasure from pleasing my Mistress. Unfortunately it was my Mitresses husband that did not feel comfortable with it and preferred that his wife have a sub that was bi-sexual. So I really think that this should have been discussed between my Mistress and her husband before they ever involved me.

Yup, they should have talked but we can only control what we ourselvs do not others.

Not your concern now but in case they are on this board or watching this thread or anyone else is considering a bisexual slave to satisfy both people you might want to keep this fact in mind:

Bisexual is not the same as slutty or easy or turned on by everyone.

A person's sexual identity is not the most important factor but it may be important for you to learn or share.

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 12:53:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Since you stated in your OP that
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We have recently discussed the possibility of forced heterosexuality after I shared a couple of fantasies that I had that involved her and her
and then go on to say you couldn't think of what to do I just don't buy any of this.

Women who are lesbians don't tend to have anywhere near as many fantasies of forced bi as men do. Women rarely pretend to be lesbians but men often do. Men also have fare more fantasies about being forced to have sex with men.

Blank profile, male fantasies....hmmm I think there is only one troll here and it isn't any of the responders.

uhmmmmmmmmmmm yeahhhhhhh

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RE: Advice, ideas, and suggestions needed by this sub - 3/22/2007 11:13:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SimplyMichael

Since you stated in your OP that
quote:

We have recently discussed the possibility of forced heterosexuality after I shared a couple of fantasies that I had that involved her and her
and then go on to say you couldn't think of what to do I just don't buy any of this.

Women who are lesbians don't tend to have anywhere near as many fantasies of forced bi as men do. Women rarely pretend to be lesbians but men often do. Men also have fare more fantasies about being forced to have sex with men.

Blank profile, male fantasies....hmmm I think there is only one troll here and it isn't any of the responders.

LOL I find it interesting that you took out so much of what I said. I said the following:

"I am a lesbian. We have recently discussed the possibility of forced heterosexuality after I shared a couple of fantasies that I had that involved her and her husband. These fantasies were fueled by things that she had said or suggested in conversations we've had."

As I clearly stated the fantasies I said I had where fantasies that were fueled by things that she had said or mentioned. The only reason I had any fantasies that involved the husband was in the context of pleasing her from what she had said. They were NOT my original ideas or thoughts but suggestions that came from her. The whole point of the question is that my Mitress asked me to come up with ways that she had not suggested. In other word come up with something on my own and I was struggling with that.

I am a lesbian and I do not have sexual fantasies of sleeping with men. As I said the fantasies I did have were in the context of pleasing my Mistress in regards to the things she said.

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