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footslaveboy -> help wanted from a mistress/dominatrix (4/6/2005 3:03:59 PM)
i am trying to get in contact with a mistress via e-mail or visit to learn more about serving as a proper slave. I am not experianced and woud like to find out more of how mistress like to treat there salves, what they expect from them etc. Iam also looking for a mistress to take me under there wing so that i can learn from the a hands on experiance as such Any advice on how to meet them or any advice in general would be greatfully recieved. Please help Footslaveboy

MistressJude -> RE: help wanted from a mistress/dominatrix (4/6/2005 4:51:17 PM)
If you're completely new to the lifestyle then I'd say put your face-to-face meeting urges on hold. Get out to the net and search many of the awesome BDSM related sites out there to learn as much as you can. Learn about SAFETY first and foremost and then start checking out different fetishes and such to develop an idea of what things may be interests or immediate turn offs to you. The next step I'd suggest is going to munches in your area as this is a non-play environment where you can meet some like-minded folks and gain some more insight into the lifestyle. BDSM Lifestyle is NOT about 24/7 serving like many fantasize it to be. While many couples enjoy 24/7 arrangements and the roles are clearly defined at all times they do not 'play/scene' or 'act out' kinkiness all day, everyday so get to know people in the scene first before diving head first into training. ONCE you've established some basic knowledge you can email me through CollarMe to talk about training. I use a pre-established process that works primarily online to open your mind to new things as well as to bring out your ability to recognize thoughts and feelings before going into serious training. I can tell you more about it when you're ready.

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: help wanted from a mistress/dominatrix (4/6/2005 4:59:23 PM)
footslave, Welcome to the boards! you are new to this site, and your profile is still pendng. It is not appropriate to post this plea on a message board. The place for personal contact is on the other side, and you will have to wait for your profile to be approved. In the meantime, I will tell you that I hope you have written a reasonable essay telling something of yourself, your goals, and your experience. It is a good idea to have a nice G-rated photo posted, and some sort of expalnation of your inordinately long list of interests. All Ladies treat their slave boys differently and have different expectations. There is no cut and dried way to prepare yourself. But there are many commonalities, and you will see that by taking some time to read the many threads available right here on these message boards. They can be an invaluable education. Since many Ladies do not browse the profiles (We get enough mail) it is up to you to search carefully and try to find Dominas with whom you feel you would like to begin a correspondence. Pay careful attention to the profile, and do not write to Ladies who indicate no interest in a new boy for training. Be respectful, and make sure you are writing to the Lady, and not sending out some form letter or something that looks lazy and careless. Always take your clue from the Domina's profile, how it is writtten, and any requests She may be making for an intial contact. The first thread I would refer you to is the 10 steps. Good Luck.

BlkTallFullfig -> RE: help wanted from a mistress/dominatrix (4/7/2005 12:43:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressJude If you're completely new to the lifestyle then I'd say put your face-to-face meeting urges on hold. Get out to the net and search many of the awesome BDSM related sites out there to learn as much as you can. Why put face to face meetings on hold? I don't understand... I would say going to public events (munches etc) and talking to people in real life is a good starting point, or so I've been told. I would agree that footslaveboy should read as much as possible, participate on forums and learn as much as possible about what he is, what he desires, what his goals are, and about SAFETY. Good luck foot slave, M

MistressJude -> RE: help wanted from a mistress/dominatrix (4/7/2005 4:53:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BlkTallFullfig quote: Why put face to face meetings on hold? I don't understand... I would say going to public events (munches etc) and talking to people in real life is a good starting point, or so I've been told. I would agree that footslaveboy should read as much as possible, participate on forums and learn as much as possible about what he is, what he desires, what his goals are, and about SAFETY. Good luck foot slave, M I'm sorry, I should have clarified that statement. I didn't mean for it to imply that he should not try to meet anyone at all. Only that his first step shouldn't be to jump into immediate meetings with Dom/mes with the intent to scene or get training. In fact, I highly recommend munches and other PUBLIC meetings for people, especially newbies.

MistressLenore -> RE: help wanted from a mistress/dominatrix (4/12/2005 12:14:06 PM)
just ask to speak with them here

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