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Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 8:53:23 PM   
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I am very new to the lifestyle and so please forgive my ignorance and my stereotyping, that's why I'm here, to learn.  Are there many male subs/slaves that would described as masculine, a "man's man" if you will?  I guess I see most as being closeted CDs or sissies.  Again, I do not mean to offend anyone. ^_^

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 8:57:02 PM   
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Oh yes, plenty. 

And CDs and sissies can be very masculine as well at other times. 

One of my favorite things in the world is to have my boy do pushups on top of me naked.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 9:01:02 PM   
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There are a lot of very masculine male submissives and salves in the lfiestyle. There are a lot of Dommes who prefer to command those types, and get nothing from commanding a sissy, cd or effemninate male. Ive known body builders, there are a lot of military or former military... like anywhere else, it takes all types.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 9:01:53 PM   
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I am fairly strict about being involved only with MASCULINE submissives.  Sometimes a "softie" is great but the "boyish" or "sissy" type is just annoying to me.   I have no patience for the indecisive, the immature nor the spineless.   

So, to tell you what I know, YES!!!!!!!!   --- There are "manly" subs (many,  in-fact) out there and women who LOVE them!  In my opinion the more masculine type is better as a submissive.  It's more of a challenge for them to submit so, thier submission is more precious to me.    


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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 9:03:08 PM   
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Hum......Wonder where you found those things? This is a start of a tirade that all submissive men are CD's and Fairies. Guess what, real men can be submissive without dressing in Womens clothes. Or having their nuts cut off.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 11:18:20 PM   
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It doesn't make them less of a man to want to be a CD or sissy sub. It is just their kink. I work with a pharmacist that is extremely full of testerone but he likes to cd and be used as a sissy by his Mistress. We all have our thing.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/18/2007 11:22:45 PM   
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It doesn't make them less of a man to want to be a CD or sissy sub. It is just their kink. I work with a pharmacist that is extremely full of testerone but he likes to cd and be used as a sissy by his Mistress. We all have our thing.


Yes, I totally agree on that - they are no less of  man.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:36:02 AM   
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My male sub is as masculine as any "dominant" male. He hunts, fishes, wears camo and all that stuff. If you were to stand him up in a line up of "manly" men you wouldn't know him from the next guy. In fact he used to be a master until he realized that it was not who he truly was. So the untrue generalization that ALL male subs are sissies/gay/unmanly/subhuman is a bunch of crap.

Most of the male subs that I have met are wonderful men who choose to submit for many of the same reasons that a sub female does. Does that make female subs less feminine? No I think not.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:45:45 AM   
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Like was said, it takes all types.  I am one of those Domme's who has a preference for wanting Her boys to be boys.  CD's just don't appeal to Me.  For others, it seems to be their particular interest.  Just like in the vanilla world, there are always different things that appeal to different people.  It's ok to ask questions.  That's how we learn things.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 5:21:46 AM   
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I know personaly, I like my boys to be effeminate looking and soft. My mentor used to prefer men that were tall, musclebound and rugged looking. That look never did much for me. Both of us had a very easy time finding what we were looking for. Just like not all sub females are petite, ultra femenine ladies there is no umbrella for what all sub men are.
Hell, for that matter not al Dom men are the overly masculine manly man types.  I knew one back in NY who was about as efferminate as my Angel is, but no less a Master for it.

DV

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 8:38:12 AM   
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i have been sayd to be masulin and i want to be a sissy feminized good girl

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 8:45:51 AM   
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Years ago at one of the first bdsm parties I threw a Dominant arrived with the hottest of blonde submissives.  He was a tall good looking man, very confident and social and as appropriate, she was quiet and hung back a bit.  A while later he led her off to play with her.

Wanting to check out the hot blonds body, I wandered back to watch him play with her.  Blew my ass away when I saw "her little slut" on the back of the silk panties he was wearing on the St. Andrews cross as she flogged the shit out of him!

We talked later and found out that he was her "protector" but after getting to know  them it was quite clear who was in charge.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 8:51:31 AM   
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See, I find gender-bending erotic on both sides. My owner has "metro" influence, and it's awesome. ( Well.. he's as metro as one can get in Youngstown, Ohio)

A long time ago.. I dated a guy who not only was a natural at domming in the bedroom, he also liked to wear pantyhose in the shower and let me put makeup on him. =)

Aw, hell, I just like males, period. In all shapes and flavors.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 10:02:29 AM   
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The bigger percentage of sub males I know real time are very masculine and strong men. It takes all kinds and there are all kinds out there.

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:24:05 PM   
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See that's what Im talking about.  Yes there are masculine subs but when comes to play time it's like they all WANT to be sissified - the whole stockings, corsset, heels crap!  I mean you don't have to be girly to be a sub do you?!!!  Err...  A guy in panties does NOTHING for me!

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:32:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackSakura
See that's what Im talking about.  Yes there are masculine subs but when comes to play time it's like they all WANT to be sissified - the whole stockings, corsset, heels crap!  I mean you don't have to be girly to be a sub do you?!!!  Err...  A guy in panties does NOTHING for me!

*shrug* Tell that to all the women who love putting on thigh highs, heels, corsets and the whole nine yards and consider that just a regular part of playing.  How many female subs do you see wearing pants at a kinky event?

Like it or not, feminine features are stereotypically associated with submission and the scene has cultivated a value on emphasizing feminine characteristics (long hair/thin waists/pert butt) as part of being a good submissive.

It's hardly universal or even TRUE, but it's very common and very understandable.

You've already been reassured that there are plenty of male subs out there not into the feminization thing at all...what more can we provide?

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:43:07 PM   
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Welcome.
While there are certainly many, many male subs out there into CD/TS/sissie lifestyle/play, there are a good many of us who would never be mistaken as feminine under any circumstance.  I am 6'2", 230 lbs with shaved head, mustache and goatee- Mistress likes Her boys to be boys.  I make a very ugly woman- not gonna fool anyone. 

But that's okay, there is room for us all. 

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:54:30 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlackSakura

See that's what Im talking about.  Yes there are masculine subs but when comes to play time it's like they all WANT to be sissified - the whole stockings, corsset, heels crap!

It's hard to forgive ignorance and stereotyping when you appear to be ignoring the many people tell you that your feelings on the matter are not nearly universal. 

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I mean you don't have to be girly to be a sub do you?!!!

Who here has said anything even remotely similar to this?

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:56:09 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Oh yes, plenty. 

And CDs and sissies can be very masculine as well at other times. 

One of my favorite things in the world is to have my boy do pushups on top of me naked.


Wow that's an intensely attractive image. Now is that his punishment or your pleasure?

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RE: Masculine male subs? - 3/19/2007 1:58:44 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: CrappyDom

Years ago at one of the first bdsm parties I threw a Dominant arrived with the hottest of blonde submissives.  He was a tall good looking man, very confident and social and as appropriate, she was quiet and hung back a bit.  A while later he led her off to play with her.

Wanting to check out the hot blonds body, I wandered back to watch him play with her.  Blew my ass away when I saw "her little slut" on the back of the silk panties he was wearing on the St. Andrews cross as she flogged the shit out of him!

We talked later and found out that he was her "protector" but after getting to know  them it was quite clear who was in charge.


Oh that's great!


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