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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 5:47:15 AM

curiouslyseeking

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I think I am more of the B type..I am an extremely verbal person,I do try to tone it down and attempt to make it less emotional ,so thus I feel as if more attention would be paid to what I was saying..But I am sure my Master would be tempted to gag the hell out of me.:0)....Tempting

See, overvocalizing for me doesn't always go hand in hand with being emotional. Verbalizing my thoughts are my way of sorting them out. I'll produce a problem... dissect it, analyze it, and hopefully put it back together with a solution. =)

My owner knows this about me, so he's more inclined to just patiently listen and throw out few comments. I'm a thinker, not a feeler ( usually). The Mister knows that letting me spew is a good way to keep my mental faculties intact, lol.

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Stella, again, thank you for your insight...

Question for you...(or anyone else)...I can relate to more-thinking/ less- emotion way of delivering issues..

Does your Dominant give you all the time you need for thinking and self-analyzing purposes or does he encourage you to immediately share aiding in your thinking process?

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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 6:21:44 AM

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However, I perceive it to be the opposite...in my experience, emotions causes chaos, and the logic clears it up...

I would say conflicting Emotions... or Emotions out of control are likely to cause chaos.. and not Emotions in of themselves.

And Logic is not going to lead you out of chaos if the logic is based on flawed assumptions.

Both are needed

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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 6:53:25 AM

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Stella, again, thank you for your insight...

Question for you...(or anyone else)...I can relate to more-thinking/ less- emotion way of delivering issues..

Does your Dominant give you all the time you need for thinking and self-analyzing purposes or does he encourage you to immediately share aiding in your thinking process?

We compliment each other beautifully that way. =) Patience is without a doubt one of his finer qualities, and 9 times out of 10, he has no problem with me needing to retreat into my brain for a bit.

Actually at the start of our marriage.. I had more problems with wanting him to verbalize at THAT exact moment then he did with me. It did take us some time to reach a balance between our communication styles. My owner has taught me a great deal about mental processing before speaking. Sometimes my thoughts fly so fast from my brain all the way down to my mouth, lol.

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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 7:07:53 AM

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If it's a problem between us, which really doesn't seem to happen anymore, then I shut down. When he sees that he's been known to grab hold of me and refuse to let go until I spill it. It's always easier to talk when I'm wrapped in his arms.

If it's something not that overwhelming I worry it for a day or two and then either tell him or write it.

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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 7:14:14 AM

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On the days that issues bother you deeply between your Dominant and yourself, how do you find you most often and naturally react?

I can only think of one issue that deeply bothered me, and time/trust has pretty much laid that to rest in any sense of being deep.

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Are you gagged by your own thoughts and words and prefer not to discuss it, but knowing in a healthy relationship dependent upon communication that you need to?

99.9% I would gag myself because I know I have the type of personality to leap before I look. So I have learned to take the jumbled up emotions and thoughts into mental bondage until I can straighten them out, and analyze before I open my mouth. If I arrive at a point that I am able to speak on it..then it is because I feel very strongly about it, and have taken the time to weigh in the factors that brought me to that point to begin with.
When I am unable to formulate the words I need to express what I am feeling strongly about..I am allowed to write them down, and then Master will discuss what I have written with me so that he's able to see my face, eyes, body language as well as hear the tone. Often this is easier for me because it's a controlled thing or a ask and answer session rather than just trying to blurt out everything and maintain sense.

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Do you immediately want to share ALL your thoughts and words until it’s at the brink of disrespect, and you are gagged with the command, “Enough” or even possibly the real gag?

A few times this happens but it isn't related to deep issue's. It happens more when I talk about a subject that I feel passionate about or strongly about beyond us, and go over the edge to drive a point home. Master usually will say "enough", and thats that..then he explains how he understands what I have being speaking about, and shares his views.

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What solutions in communication do you use to avoid your gag in the relationship?

Again..my gag is usually self imposed on the immediate home front. Often times what I thought was a issue is not really even a issue because I did my own gagging. If I can't work it out in my head..then I write it down to see my thoughts. Most of the time it becomes so trivial of a thing that I often chastise myself for wasting time on it once the rationalization kicks in. Often times these are things that daily life or life outside being a slave in the dynamic most probably would of not brought about self-gagging.

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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 9:13:27 AM

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I don;'t journal (i usually have too much homework to have time) If i have a problem i will talk to Master he lets me voice my concerns then we talk about it. It is what works for us.

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RE: Gagged - 3/20/2007 7:50:21 PM

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I think I am more of the B type..I am an extremely verbal person,I do try to tone it down and attempt to make it less emotional ,so thus I feel as if more attention would be paid to what I was saying..But I am sure my Master would be tempted to gag the hell out of me.:0)....Tempting

See, overvocalizing for me doesn't always go hand in hand with being emotional. Verbalizing my thoughts are my way of sorting them out. I'll produce a problem... dissect it, analyze it, and hopefully put it back together with a solution. =)

My owner knows this about me, so he's more inclined to just patiently listen and throw out few comments. I'm a thinker, not a feeler ( usually). The Mister knows that letting me spew is a good way to keep my mental faculties intact, lol.

Cheers,
Stella