HayaSierra
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Joined: 4/7/2005
From: In Georgia
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Greetings everyone,
I'm curious what Dominance means to you? I'm still seeking discovery of myself as a Dominant, and while I have a good idea and have been told I have talent in that area, I will never be vain enough to think I know it all. So time for learning and interaction. Below is what it means to me, and some thoughts of mine about it, but how about you? This also is for submissives who might be here, what do you look for in a Dominant in regards to Dominance? Lets discuss!
To me Dominance is not strictly Kinky, in fact, in some cases it might not be kinky at all. It is more about growth and having responsibility. As a Dominant, much like a teacher or parent it is my job to assure the growth and happiness of those who submit to me. Their needs must be met, and they have to be motivated to reach for the stars to accomplish their inner most dreams. Regardless of the means of achieving such, they must be happy. Just in my short time in this way of Life I have noticed that individuals submit for various reasons, and being aware of those reasons, and my responsibility in such make it possible for me to be an effective Dominant.
The one who needs Motivation:
Oftentimes I found that not all individuals believe enough in their own abilities to achieve such on their own, and can be more easily guided to a better life through submission. In some cases perhaps they lack motivation, or the resources. In other cases the issues and problems seem too overwhelming. Life is often not about I need to do X,Y and Z to progress, but rather -- Ohh my... I have a job I hate, am alone, and live in a town I cannot stand. Here a good strong Dominant can help them see the big picture, allow them a step by step plan to get out of the negative and into the positive aspects of their lives. Since they are not facing these issues alone -- many are able to actually achieve big changes without being afraid of such.
The One who desires to Serve and Please:
Then there are those who simply wish to serve, and yes, I have part of that streak running wild in myself as well. While my desire to serve is not focused on any particular individual, but rather society as a whole, it does not change the base concepts of it. If I serve and do good for society, I am fulfilled, if not, I am miserable. Since I have such a disposition myself I realize that the worst that can be done in regards to one who desires to serve is not give them the outlet for doing such. Dominance can fulfill that desire greatly, in a most visual and gratifying way.
The One who wishes to Explore:
Then there are those who wish to explore. It could be exploring their limits, trying to find out more about their life and what makes them tick. Again, many may be worried about doing such on their own, and in such the myriad ways of Dominance and submission can help many find their niche -- which might otherwise be impossible by traditional relationships.
The One who is Lonely:
While many people have families and friends, others don't. They are pretty much alone, and miserable at such. So I can see many getting into or seeking submission to get companionship. Via submission, many can find a meaning for their lives, and get companionship, friendship and often a great deal of Love with it.
So by looking at this, I see my role as a Dominant to be a Motivator, A Guide, A Teacher, A Parent, A Friend and Confidant, A Companion and so much more that it would take a while to list them all here. But most important for me is keeping in mind that being there for and being what my submissives need is my upmost responsibility. Everything else is just a tool or aspect that can be used to fulfill a goal. Including the Kink  .
Sierra,
Haya of Ka Azdor Estate
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