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sweetazsub -> strange question, maybe? (4/7/2005 8:46:53 PM)
Hi, this one just recently had her first real time experiance[:)] i am still walking in the clouds... but one question if i may? Master told me i do need to articulate more, i would like to know what a Master likes to hear during a scene,any help would be welcomed. Thank-You very much[:)]

siamsa24 -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/7/2005 8:50:03 PM)
quote: i would like to know what a Master likes to hear during a scene The easiest way to find the answer? Just ask him

MzBerlin -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/7/2005 11:17:02 PM)
sweetazsub- your master may just want you to be a bit more vocal and give feedback. Doms are not mind readers, and it sounds like he would like you to externalize a bit more during scene. good luck!! B

Padriag -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/8/2005 12:30:56 AM)
My guess is the MzBerlin is correct, he wants more feedback from you. That could be just you letting him know how you are feeling, etc. It could also be him wanting you to be more vocal about how you feel, possibly begging, pleading, screaming, etc. Siamsa has the best idea, ask him what we wants from you, get him to explain it to you. Not only is he not a mind reader, neither are you, nor any of us. Best of luck! [;)]

sweetnygirl -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/8/2005 6:20:56 PM)
I felt the same way my first time, I was trying to be stoic & take everything without saying a word or showing little pain. But later when discussing what had happened I realized that communication is so important during a scene as well as afterwards. If you don't verbalize how you feel ,whether its a scream of pain or moan of pleasure, it makes it so much harder for your master to judge your limits & not take you too far too quickly. That's not to say you should scream & yell just to make noise either. This is just what I have found that works for me. As everyone else has posted your master is the person who can best answer your question.

lil1v -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/8/2005 6:56:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sweetnygirl I felt the same way my first time, I was trying to be stoic & take everything without saying a word or showing little pain. But later when discussing what had happened I realized that communication is so important during a scene as well as afterwards. If you don't verbalize how you feel ,whether its a scream of pain or moan of pleasure, it makes it so much harder for your master to judge your limits & not take you too far too quickly. That's not to say you should scream & yell just to make noise either. This is just what I have found that works for me. As everyone else has posted your master is the person who can best answer your question. laughs I learned to make "noise" early on in my "nilla" relationships. I found it very useful in communicating what I liked and what I didn't so much.. Its now second nature and I've been told that I'm very communicative. (though I'm still sure some would disagree) I assumed that the feedback the Master wanted in this case was actual verbage which I have a HORRID time doing. While in nilla relationships whether I actually spoke or not didn't seem to matter. However in any M/s or D/s relationship I've tried, I've always been expected, demanded, encouraged to verbalize which tends to.. well its like a cold shower for me. It takes an immense amount of concentration for me to "find words" in a scene. (actually I have trouble finding words often, even outside of a scene) Thank God for online and journals :)

SirKenin -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/8/2005 8:17:47 PM)
I have read this thread a couple of times now and thought about it from a Master's point of view, thinking of what I expect. However, I was not in the mindset to address it until now for some strange reason. Anyways.... In the context of this post I am focusing strictly on sexual and S&M scenes. In sexual scenes, I do not want a woman to just do her thing and stay silent. I find that boring for one and for another it makes it difficult for Me to establish what is working for her and what is not until she wets the sheets or arches her back and shakes. I need more than that. I want to hear her moan with pleasure. I want to hear her say those dirty things that make her the slut that she is. Most of all I want to hear her scream My name in pleasure. If I can make her do that, I know I am doing something right. I put 110% effort into everything I do sexually. I want that woman to cum twenty times for Me. I want a woman that does more than lie there and silently take it in return. In an S&M scene, I do things a little differently. One of My favorite techniques is to tickle her body, lightly flog across the target areas and then make a few quick, hard strikes. Up to six in succession. From there I cuddle My sub for a second and ask her how she is doing. I expect to get a concise honest answer of how she is feeling. I tell her how I love her so much. I kiss her. I then go back and massage the body, before tickling and striking some more, followed by more cuddling. During this whole thing I depend very heavily on the noises that she makes. I need to hear those cries of pain, because I judge My next move based upon those yelps. I need to hear the moans. I have to know that she is transcending into the subspace I want to send her to. I do not want to hear that safe word. I want to know that woman so well that I know exactly when enough is enough. When I sense that there has been enough flogging I move on to the paddle and My hand, followed by ice cubes and wax, etc and whatever other toys I have in My arsenal. This is an example of two scenes to give you an idea of what is going on inside a Master's head. Perhaps that will give you some insight into what your master expects of you. [image]local://upfiles/60308/72191F0E75A5455D96587BF173E73DDB.jpg[/image]

slaveanwyl -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/9/2005 3:00:50 AM)
in answer to your question i learnt very early on to make a noise if it was hurting me if i remained quite Master would hit me harder and longer, laughing is not a good way of saying ouch Master will assume you are laughing at him and think his attempts feeble, sometimes laughing is good it shows you are enjoying the experience but only your Master can answer your question for you and as you know communication does play a big part in M/s D/s have fun and if you want to yell yell... slave anwyl

CaryCouple -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/11/2005 6:43:02 PM)
As I jokingly told a friend who was not aware of my private life, "If I didn't want to hear what she had to say, I would gag her." That always gets a couple of amusing glances, but it makes the point quite well.

Focus50 -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/16/2005 11:05:45 PM)
During a scene, all I need to hear from my girl is my questions answered honestly and properly - how I taught her to answer! Occasionally, I'll ask if she has any questions herself.... Feedback is an integral part of scening but is usually before or after, not during the scene. But there are exceptions.... One is if we're trying something new and I'll check in regularly with simple monitoring questions and another sounds like your situation - that you're new to it all; which still comes back to monitoring you.... Without knowing either of you, I'm guessing your Master just wants simple honesty about what you're feeling and experiencing for future reference. If something feels good, tell him so when asked and, even more important, if it wasn't enjoyable, be truthful about that too - don't gloss over any negatives! Speaking for myself, I don't need or desire any false ego boost from my girl; it felt good because it was good or it didn't - simple. Telling him what you think he wants to hear can get you seriously (if inadvertantly) hurt and neither of you will enjoy that! Focus50.

Kinkypupper -> RE: strange question, maybe? (4/19/2005 10:25:36 PM)
Not a strange question at all.. You BOTH need to know and learn about each other.. TALK.. ask questions be open and honest with yourself and your answers

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