SusanofO
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I know there are people who have trophy wives, etc., and no doubt the idea can operate w/people having "trophy submissives". But, as we are operating in the bsdm realm, where bodies are more exoposed, etc., I can understand it if someone wants somebody hot. Objectification in that sense is also a favored bdsm activity of mine, so I am not altogether offended by it.
If someone has not much of interest to say, if they are a hot body and great face, then maybe they will end up being "used". Maybe they don't care (that term "used" gets tossed around w/affection as often as it doesn't around here, IMO). However, they might indeed mind, and if that kind of objectification hurts them, they might break up w/the person, or argue w/them,(or "just" be hurt.)
As for trophy partners in general....I think it's difficult to sometimes make assumptions about other people's relationships and why they happen. The following story is a good example of this, IMO.
I live in the same town as world billionaire-stock-picker Warren Buffet. When he and his first wife, Suzie, got a divorce after many years and 3 children, it wasn't because he was bedding any hot young chicks,(he definitely isn't, IMO, that kind of guy, and much of the time, although he is nice, Mr. Buffett appears to me to be almost on another planet, and is always sort of mentally "off somewhere else", apparently thinking about other things. I grew up across the street from him, I've been in his house several times, and was friends in high school w/his son, Peter. It's a nice neighborhood - but not the absolute nicest in town, and he could live anywhere. The fact is, he isn't all that "materialistic".
But - a lot of people where I live thought this meant he had a bevy of hot women hidden somewhere; they thought he'd been catting around for years, and the home town gossip really sizzled for awhile. Based on - absolutely nothing, apparently (according to his son, who is the person I believed).
But - about 2 years after his divorce, he moved this woman named Astrid into his house who was a few years younger than himself, and also blonde. I suppose that could qualify as a "trophy" (Astrid is attractive, but she is a far cry from Heidi Klum, the super-model, IMO). Within weeks, a tabloid newspaper (and then a few more of them) had dubbed her his "trophy live-in paramour" and said she had "caused" the break-up of he and his first wife. It was completely not true.
Astrid was in fact a friend of the first Mrs. Buffett, and she didn't want Warren to be lonely, so she suggested they meet, and they did, and apparently they hit it off quite well (they are now married. it sounds weird of the first Mrs. Buffett to have introduced them, perhaps, but she was a really nice woman, and had a heart of gold. She was the one who initiated their divorce, and she didn't want him to be lonely).
So - my conclusion is that what people read and the conclusions to which they jump, based on what little they often know about the realtionships of others, is that it can often be a far cry from "the truth". And I think people's conception of what a trophy wife can be, can (sometimes) be based (not always, but many times) on speculation, rather than anything resembling verifiable fact.
- Susan
< Message edited by SusanofO -- 3/21/2007 1:21:53 PM >
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RE: Trophies - 
*sigh* lol 
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