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ScooterTrash -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/9/2005 9:06:49 PM)
What, eliminate the rants..OMG no. I don't generally read Domme profiles, sometimes I do, but haven't really seen that much different than with some of the Dom or sub/slave profiles. Journal entries are interesting, OK, so I have a wierd sense of humor, but you do get a peek inside that person, you see what they are thinking. I almost look at it as entertainment at times. And so what if they complain about all the wanker mail, I don't blame them, perhaps their rant backs off a few copy/paste trolls. Let's get real, it's a kinky personal ad site of sorts, you are gonna get wierd mail but it's also your right to mention you would rather not, doesn't hurt anyone. And where does the "not all men read profiles" come from. If that isn't stereotyping hostility I don't know what is.

SweetDommes -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/9/2005 9:16:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash And where does the "not all men read profiles" come from. If that isn't stereotyping hostility I don't know what is. It's a generalization, of course, but one that I feel holds true - 90% of our junk bullshit comes from males - but that still leaves 10% that comes from females. And I know for a fact that there are Dommes who don't read because we've been contacted by a few ... but overall, most of it does come from guys (I think that most will agree on that) - I don't know what the reason is, but I would have to say that even if you polled every single person on the site, and asked them who they get more junk from - male/female - they would say that more comes from males.

ScooterTrash -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/9/2005 10:31:06 PM)
quote: ....asked them who they get more junk from - male/female - they would say that more comes from males. lmao... SweetDommes, not in my case thankfully, but I would question if maybe I put something wrong in my profile if I did (that would OMG what did I do?). I guess I overreacted as I (male) DO read the profiles, but I suppose with the abundance of males looking for Dommes, I can see where you are coming from, they likey see Domme and poof goes the keyboard....guess they should be flogged..lmao.

SweetDommes -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/9/2005 10:35:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ScooterTrash quote: ....asked them who they get more junk from - male/female - they would say that more comes from males. lmao... SweetDommes, not in my case thankfully, but I would question if maybe I put something wrong in my profile if I did (that would OMG what did I do?). I guess I overreacted as I (male) DO read the profiles, but I suppose with the abundance of males looking for Dommes, I can see where you are coming from, they likey see Domme and poof goes the keyboard....guess they should be flogged..lmao. I actually know plenty of guys who (on other sites, anyway) have gotten lots of mail from males who didn't read the profile at all - not to mention what happens in chat rooms rolls eyes. As for flogging them ... hell no, they'd enjoy it too much [;)]

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/9/2005 11:44:18 PM)
I can understand the need to vent and rant occasionally, but a profile is a permanent snapshot of your personality, and if it reeks of allowing others to control your attitude (ie lots of emails from non-compatible dorks making you so upset that your profile is focused on it), then I'd think thats not someone I want to join me in real life issue stuff. And pretty much to me it is just that- having unrealistic expectations of others and then allowing your happiness to be controlled when those expectations aren't met. It sure would be NICE if every email I got was from a sincere person who really had a true interest and really knew that they met everything in my profile, but why expect it? Why get upset because people are people and they don't view things like I do?

LdyAuburn -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/10/2005 12:57:35 AM)
why so much negativity? Cause I can? Mine is bland and boring and I know it doesnt mention much at all. I enjoy the forums. So probable people do their profile the way they see things, so if they have encountered mostly jerks here, they say so. regards W

ElektraUkM -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/10/2005 3:03:06 AM)
Get yourself a dull profile... then you'll hardly have any response at all. Haha... well... seems to work for me. [:D] ~ Elektra

Sinergy -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/13/2005 7:29:09 PM)
The few Dommes that I have met have shared with me that they are deluged with suitors. If 2% of them actually read the profile, the Domme has 98% of the suitors to cement her opinion that men are illiterate cretins. From a position of plenty, one can afford to be dismissive, curt, or even bitter in their profile. I dont think its about D/s, I think its about being discouraged with what one is attracting. Just me, may be wrong, but there ya go. Sinergy

MistressJadeMTL -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/13/2005 8:19:15 PM)
People, people... ::rolling eyes:: Jeez, a profile belongs to the individual who created it. It is up to them what they wish to write in it or in their journals (within CollarMe TOS limits). If you can't handle what they say, how they say it or how they portray themselves, well THEN DON'T READ THEM! Nobody is FORCING you to read them! If you don't like the "attitude" that they are displaying, take it as a sign that you probably wouldn't have gotten along with them and skip to the next one. There is nothing forcing you to stay there and read it. Just as if when you were walking down the street, you might not agree with somebody's looks, or clothes or lifestyle, it doesn't give you the right to rag on about them in a public arena. If you don't like - don't look! If you don't like negativity, don't dwell on it -- it will only make you negative in turn... Just my 2¢ worth... [image]local://upfiles/72957/F6948DED8D804E63A7A94150DE3A8F1A.jpg[/image]

nella -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/13/2005 8:30:22 PM)
to a certin degree i agree Jade Dragon, but i also see a tendancy of many Dominantas, especialy female Dominanta to be rude just becouse they can. Many seam t think that becouse you are a Dominants, good manners is not nessesary for you. Sure one can act like a total bitch, there is no laws againt it, but in my humbel opinion, if all was a littel nicer to one another, the world would be a better place.

sarbonn -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/13/2005 9:05:12 PM)
I don't think I've ever written a woman directly from this site. I mainly respond to personal messages, or I'm here just to communicate in the forums. One thing I have found really odd is that a woman will write me, instructing me that she would like to hear more from me; I'll contact her, and then get lectured for contacting her out of the blue when her profile indicates she does not like people contacting her.

junecleaver -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/13/2005 10:37:22 PM)
What can I say? Sometimes I'm a negative person. My writings are a reflection of my moods.

SweetDommes -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/13/2005 11:30:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sarbonn One thing I have found really odd is that a woman will write me, instructing me that she would like to hear more from me; I'll contact her, and then get lectured for contacting her out of the blue when her profile indicates she does not like people contacting her. Now that is seriously fucked up ... some people are so damn rude it's unbelievable. THOSE are the kind of people that give Dommes a bad name.

LadyAngelika -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/14/2005 5:02:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressJadeMTL If you don't like the "attitude" that they are displaying, take it as a sign that you probably wouldn't have gotten along with them and skip to the next one. There is nothing forcing you to stay there and read it. But Jade, Some of them are masochists. They can't help sitting there and reading ;) - LA

MistressJadeMTL -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/14/2005 5:23:22 AM)
True, true.... I guess some people love to have any excuse to bitch about others.... <grin>

sting516 -> RE: Why so much negativity in profiles? (4/14/2005 5:46:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyAngelika But Jade, Some of them are masochists. They can't help sitting there and reading ;) - LA Thanks for the explanations...i always kinda wondered why i kept reading these things!! sting

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