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A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 3/25/2007 4:29:37 AM

TheMasterEnigma

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Hello everyone. I'm glad I found this site as the Master/Slave scene has interested me for some time. Though I am young, I have had a few short-term slaves (online only) and I think I at least know the basics. I have done a lot of reading about being a Master and I really think I'd make a good one. I don't, however, want to be an asshole of a master. I belive that respect is a two way street. Yes, the slave must respect and submit to her master, but the Master can not take his slave for granted. Anyway, I have a more full description of what I'm looking for in my profile if you want to read it.

I guess right now I'm just trying to get my bearings. Ultimately I want to find a slave who shares the same ideas of what a M/s relationship should be as I, but first I was hoping for advice on how to find a good slave. It seems to me that all slaves on this site are bombarded with hundreds of messages from Masters who want to collar them. In many cases the slaves will take experiance over creativeness and energy. So, how can a young master find the right slave? Even if I find her, how do I let her know I am the right Master? Given my lack of experiance, I think what would be best is if I could find a brand new, young, slave to train and practice on. Not in the sense of using her as a tool, but in the sense of letting both of our knowledge and skills grow together in a symbiotic relationship. I suppose there are no easy answers to my questions, and I guess I shouldn't expect to find the perfect slave over-night. I simply belive that I have a lot to offer and I just want to find a slave to make me complete. If any of you have any suggestions I would love to hear them. Thank you very much!

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RE: A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 3/25/2007 4:32:31 AM

redsky

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i dont really have any advice, but would like to say 'Good luck'

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RE: A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 3/25/2007 4:33:50 AM

TheMasterEnigma

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Thanks, kind words are always helpful.

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RE: A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 4/1/2007 9:22:52 PM

MisstressTeraDom

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Hello MasterEnigma,

I too am also new to this lifestyle. My husband has been interested in this lifestyle and is a member of this site also.
for a long time now but knows there is no way he could ever get me to be his slave/sub.

We have an open marriage and I also have a Male Partner. They agree that I would
make a good Mistress and say I do it naturally anyway. We are currently talking to s
ome possible subs who are interested in 24/7. So all I can say is be patient you will
find what you seek.

All we can do is learn as much as we can and you are right to get someone to respect
and submit to you, you have to first show them some respect also. To come on too strong
with some will only drive them away because you have not earned that right yet.

And who knows the one you drive away might be the one you are waiting for.

Good luck with your search.

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RE: A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 4/2/2007 10:53:12 AM

daejannaO

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Welcome. I wish you all the best.

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RE: A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 10/30/2007 8:59:52 AM

Matadorr

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Hey dude. Im a young 'newbie' master and I havnt found it difficult to find subbie girls interested in me. Your main problem is chasing a slave...a slave relationship is more likey to blossom from a a D/S relationship as the people grow naturally together, otherwise ur chances of being ocmpatible AND finding a slave off the bat r pretty slim especially at ur age. You should find a subbie GF, treat her like u want to and learn all about keeping a girl in this context. U wil learn a ton about women, about D/S and about urself....then you wil be better positioned to seek a slave if ur still really down for that (or altermativley you might find ur subbie girl wanting more in a long term sortve relationship).

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RE: A Newbie Master Seeking Newbie Slave (Advice?) - 10/30/2007 8:23:32 PM

DaddyDomScott

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What you need is a mentor before you go around trying to Master anything. Having intellectual knowledge or on line role play cannot substitute for real life experience. Most likely the outcome will result in injury and at worste death.

If you have interest in flogging for example go to your local BDSM group and attend a seminar and play party or two and get someone who is experienced to show you how to do it properly. I don't care how much you may think you know at this point the fact is you know nothing in reality. It is not my intent for you to take offense at this statement. Everyone starts somewhere so humble yourself enough to realize you have alot to learn and the time to learn is before you take the responsibility of anothers life into your own hands.

You want a good submissive, take to time to learn to be a good Dom. When you take on a submissive ignorance is not an excuse that will fair well when things go badly.

You mentioned you have done some research. I cannot imagine that you have not come across the subject of mentoring and being mentored. It is sometimes hard for us to admit to ourselves that we do not know everything. You have to use wisdom and understanding and have enough compassion for your partner or future partners to learn how to do whatever it is you intend to do to them. How else can you earn their trust?

It's all very exciting and you may just want to jump in both feet first. The water your getting into are deeper than you realize and the weight is more than you can imagine. Learn how to swim properly first.

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